Chapter Fifteen of Online Memoir: A summer of Redemption

This chapter is primarily about the days between April 4th and  September 1 1977. That was a summer after my seventh grade year, having found my way back to the life of my class in my old school of Mount Carmel Elementary – from my not-quite-girlfriend’s birthday to the days when I was settling into eighth grade. 

I was writing the main draft of this chapter on the days of the second week of the Catholic Easter Season. One of these days was special because there was a solar eclipse with a path of totality across the middle of the United States. Clara and I thought about going to Dallas where I have a sister and she has a brother and we both have friends. But we could not make it work. So we held hands and looked through eclipse glasses that came with two Black Out Slushes from Sonic. We really enjoy Sonic Diet Cherry Limeades and so it is cool to have a pair of Sonic branded mementoes of this occasion. If God wanted to send a special message to the people of this planet, the total eclipse would be a good way to do it. For the magnificent life giving sun has is four hundred times larger than the Moon and is also 400 times as far away. That is a sort of permanent miracle. The partial eclipses Clara and I saw might likely be seen on any planet that has eyes to see and a moon but the total eclipse is something else. We were able to feel the temperature drop a bit and when we got close to our most intense eclipse of 90% of the sun blocked by the Moon – the streetlights in Abbeville were triggered because their photo sensors were  able to detect nightfall. I was joyful and blessed to be with the woman I love. Joyously we were  making memories almost three years after we met up again after not seeing each other for  forty-five years. I wondered, as I often have since we got together, if things might have been different for both of us if we had gone to high school together. I don’t know but It doesn’t seem likely we would have found a way into a relationship as high school sweethearts because I was so  far from comfortable and so close to high school. I feel sad that I did not become part of her story in that way but I was just really trying to survive at the school we both attended last time we  were in school together.

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On April 10, 2021 I saw Clara Duhon for the first time in 45 years. I had a lot of strong positive memories of her from the otherwise very unhappy middle school years, even though we were not close at that time. I got her number after we flirted somewhat inappropriately while helping my best friend in town and her best friend in town (who are brother and sister) to plan their father’s funeral. Jude and Jackie were supportive friends in our early relationship. We are still good friends, Jackie was in that same middle school class. Clara and I got engaged on December 10. 2021. We got married on November 19, 2022. There were really no times before running into her that I thought I would end up married to one of my classmates from Mount Carmel Elementary School.  

Abbeville is the town Clara and I  would both claim as our hometown. Our hometown was built and planned by a priest named  Pere Antoine Desire Megret bought the land for the town (160 arpents ) from my ancestors  Joseph Leblanc and Isabelle Broussard on July 25, 1843.The couple seems to have had three houses and the house on the land he bought was used as the first St.Mary Magdalen Parish  Church at the heart of the town he called La Chapelle. He had many practical aspects of the city plan he created with principles of gravity for future plumbing, social cohesion, convenient transit and raising money with subdivisions and creating a rational administrative and taxable geography. That was the part of him that was part of the life of the progressive journalist he had been in France when the newspaper he was associated with fell afoul of the powerful of the Catholic Church.But the part that came from the devout priest and fervent missionary that he still was is apparent in the names he chose for the streets. The central artery of the town’s original plan is Charity Street (Rue de la Charité ) which is named for the greatest Christian virtue. This mainstreet of our town was sort of separated from the Styx by one and a half blocks  of a more respectable neighborhood. Some very fine homes (by Abbeville standards stood along the street along with banks and large stores on the main street called Charity. My great grandmother’s house and her complex of garden, studio, apartments and rental houses was in that band between the Styx and Charity Street. Clara grew up on the other side of Charity in what was mostly white,mostly working class and lower middle class neighborhood. Her family had land in the country too but not much and around their house thay had a lot with a garden, a few fig, pear and shade trees. All the four children went to Mount Carmel Elementary and Vermilion Catholic High School. All four got university degrees two of them earned more than one degree. Whether we could have been friends outside of school when were really young I do not know. But we never achieved that status. She never had people throw birthday parties for her as a child and did not come to my swimming birthday parties when I invited the whole class because she did not know how to swim. 

When one lives in a small town there are lots of things that have a special meaning invisible to outsiders. Whether in the hit song “Small Town” by John Cougar Mellencamp or in te name of the Country band Little Big Town one finds that lots of Americans have  had a small town identity all during my lifetime. In small towns we all have our inner maps of what that town’s sites and landmarks mean just as big city dwellers and the true denizens of the country and wilderness weave their identities into the marks on their own home landscape. Life is lived out on a map of shared values and another map of personal meaning is imposed upon it.  For me part of that meaning which illustrates the mental complexity of what is in many ways a simple town, there is the story of El Camino. El Camino’s name caught my eye when it opened. Camino is just an older Spanish word for road and there are many roads named caminos around the Spanish Speaking World. A Camino Real is a royal road and a current hotel chain,big in Mexico when I was young. These were the best roads of the Spanish Empire as well. In the English Bibles we translate Jesus’ words, “I am the Way, the Truth and the Life.” Way there means road not method, as in the Appian Way in Italy and a very few other road names compared to the ones named road or highway or route.  The first El Camino restaurant in Abbeville was founded in the building that had once housed the well known Midway Restaurant where Concord Street (Rue de La Concorde) reaches the streets around the town square that is the middle square on the original city plan between the Vermilion Parish Courthouse Square and the Church Square, that has been occupied by the Church and its other buildings for along time. The Mexican restaurant with some Cajun and standard American accents was originally founded by a family with toots in the AMerican State of Michigan and the Mexican state of Michoacan. My cousin Joshua Broussard whom I have mentioned in this memoir  and my ex wife both waited on tables at that place. The building has been through quite a few owners since and it is now used by Tito’s La Casa owned by another out of towner from far away. Clara and I have eaten there and we had lunch there with my mother just a couple of weeks ago. Rue del Concorde symbolizes the peace between the State represented by the Courthouse and the town square and church representing the people beyond their role in the state – under the meaning of Megret’s plan.  It is the same plan line as Charity Street. The central artery line as Charity Street runs to the Courthouse square which is almost entirely occupied by the massive courthouse since the current A Hays Towne designed building was built on the square Megret designed. The bulk of the town is built off of Charity Street heading East toward the town of Erath and most of the town runs off those  streets that intersect with Charity. Then the Concord Street section runs one block to the town square. The last block of that line runs to the bridge over the river by passing in front of the church. So the Church Square is on a different line. That last block is Pere Megret Street now but originally was bounced between two other names and a continuation of the Concord Street name. In modern automotive times a bypass highway was built from a new bridge over the Vermilion River to the highway leading to Erath. One of the businesses to build on the Bypass was the Pitt Stop. The chain of locations typically had two elements: a Pitt Stop gas station and 24 hour convenience store and a Pitt Grill which was a 24 hour diner. Both businesses or gone now, but the Grill went first, it became a pool hall and then  was sold to El Camino which relocated there largely in search of better visibility and parking, although both spots are visible and have parking. The original family sold El Camino to the Friths whom I have done business with all my life including at the old incarnation of  Mickey’s. Drive Inn and at other eateries thay own. Trent Frith played football with my cousins, one of whom was one of two priests to witness Clara and  I being wed in the ceremony they concelebrated at St. Mary Magdalen. All of that connection to small town history is different from connecting to landmarks in a city that everyone knows from movies and TV. This is my world. But the reason that El Camino’s name always caught my notice is because the restaurant came to town after I had lived with my family in El Camino community in Colombia, South America. That is a connection that I am going to begin to develop in this chapter about the summer of 1977. That will follow one more connection with the Abbeville  El Camino. 

On March 6, 2024 after the Anticipated Mass for Divine Mercy Sunday at St. Mary Magdalen Church, my mother took Clara and I and my brother Simon out to eat at El Camino Restaurant. I believe that we all enjoyed the meal together. My father died on September 11, 2022 and thus missed my wedding to Clara on November 19, 2022. This week she has started having official and formal dates with a man that she was friends with many decades ago when the man who took her dancing was married to a woman who worked in my father’s office when he was the Assistant District Attorney. As couples they once moved in the same crowd.

“So how did it go?” I asked over the hot Queso  Camino as I indulged in holding Clara’s hand at various moments. “You told me, when we spoke yesterday on the phone, that you had a date yesterday evening.”
“Well I suppose it was a date. D_______ invited me to go and hear the live music and dance with him at Kelvin’s. He picked me up at five o’clock but the band did not actually start until eight o’clock and he goes to sleep at eight o’clock. “ She played with her expression very well, leaving it to us to see how she might feel about all this before she continued. “ It worked out well. We simply talked with each other for about an hour and a half. He seemed to need the time for us to converse alone because he seems intimidated by me.”

“Have you known each other a long time?” Clara asked.

“You mean D____, has he known me long before this?” My mother asked her.

“Yes.” Clara affirmed that was what she meant.

“Yes D______ and his wife E_________ as well as Louise and Albert, I______ and C______ and Frank and I were all in the same crowd years ago. But we have never spoken much since I became a missionary.”
“So, he was intimidated because he knows who you really are.” Clara explained her line of conversation.

“Intimidated by me? Why?”My mother queried.

“Because you have lived a big life.” Clara asserted.      

“I have lived a big life” My mother agreed.

I have maintained a pretty close relationship with my mother, even though there have been plenty of times of strain and sorrow. Mostly we have enjoyed each other’s company, but there have been days and weeks when there was nothing easy about it. That allows for some standard by which to assess the text I cite below.  In my mother’s second book about our lives, published in 2012 she writes:

 “Beau entered Mount Carmel Elementary in Seventh Grade. Beau was persecuted at school. The other kids teased him for professing boldly that he believed in Jesus. Recently visited with a woman who was a year behind Beau in school. Tears streamed down my face as she related the suffering he had endured from those who teased him at Mount Carmel Elementary. Part of his difficulty stemmed from changing his position as one  of the more financially and socially privileged to one of the least privileged and the poorest. – a hard transition in a small community.”(Summers, Acts page 14).

This was the experience I spelled out in my last chapter.  I had a life outside of school, but that next summer I would see that there were a lot of pressures in that life that were in conflict with one another as well. I was going to begin to feel more than before that there might not be much hope of me rising above a state of crisis. I was starting to see that I was feeling checkmated in all directions and I certainly knew a good number of people in the Styx who lived lives of very little hope. But there was a government housing project subsidized  for “the poor on one edge of the Styx, that was also not the styx. Rabbit Hill was a poorer and more troubled neighborhood. Mostly the only  people “on the dole’ in a big way in The Styx  were the increasing number of mentally ill people who were no longer in institutions or groups homes. They came to the neighborhood for low rents, to access the charity of bread and some soup at the Christian Service Center, The St. VIncent De Paul Center (eventually) absorbed by the Christian Service Center and the charitable kitchen at Open Door Community. Some were “shell shocked” veterans with PTSD and honorable discharges, other mentally ill people were hard working oilfield folks who had sustained head injuries. The neighborhood had a city councilman who made the papers and got things done. Prostitutes and pot dealers provided services people wanted and got paid for them. People operated stores of various kinds without signage or licenses but sold real good at reasonable prices from veggies, to auto parts to desserts. A few people rented rooms and some repaired motors or tools. A few had significant gardens and one had a large and substantial lily farm on several lots because Abbeville was not zoned. Gangsters were generally under a truce in The Styx in those days. They went out of the neighborhood to fight. My not- quite- girlfriend’s grandmother being beaten almost to death was not typical. It shocked the baddest  men I knew. “Whores” sometimes escaped from the lock down brothels outside the neighborhood and sometimes found shelter under local pimps who helped them find their way to better places and sometimes got bus tickets, modest clothes and a Bible from religious workers. The Christian Service center helped people fill out forms for Medicaid, for Food Stamps, for job applications, for legal aid and for lots of other things but only if people asked. Otherwise it tended to fit the profile of the neighborhood. Privacy, private charity and private enterprise  providing short or long term jobs were the norm. My girlfriend lived near the Christian Service Center as well and I gave her a nice present on her April 4th birthday. She had plan with girls and was turning fourteen and a boyfriend not yet 13 was not very cool. But we still were not dating anyone else and we still were trying to see if we could figure it all out. I was trying to finish the school year and so was she at her school and we both did…              

When the seventh grade year ended we celebrated Sarah’s first birthday and I was working enough to get her a present but also  volunteering a good bit at the Christian Service Center. In addition, my little group of guys started to get lawns referred to us by the Christian Service Center people who would pay our lower rates but could not afford the normal rate. I bought a second mower and a retiree gave us a third for four good mowings and trims. We learned to tug the mowers behind our bikes and on far more distant trips we hired a young man who had just finished high school  and owned a very battered pickup truck. WHen he worked he dropped off a load of boys a mower, a trimmer and a bike. Then he came back and picked up the other kid and two mowers. He manned the other mower and they had a trimmer. I paid him double what the other kids got. I started bringing home food for the family and gifts for the community. I treated my little not-quite-girlfriend to treats and bought Sarah a nice birthday present. I saved what I could. We still had the lawns from our list the last few months who were mostly connections from the days when Mom and DId had lived in the more prosperous part of town.

My birthday was on June 15 as it is every year. I had a number of different celebrations. My parents helped to put on a swimming party far my friends at my mother’s parents’s pool. I did not  invite friends from school but from the neighborhood mostly with perhaps one or two exceptions. Totally out of character for everything, in almost every way, my Dad’s mother took me and my not-quite-girlfriend to dinner together. We rode back to our neighborhood in the back of my grandmother’s luxury car. “Thank You Gammy!” I said. Somehow. I knew that if things went a certain way, I could end up falling in love with my almost 14 year old girlfriend, losing my virginity to her and marrying her. But I also knew that there were many reasons why that might not happen. I was careful to try to support my parent’s ministry and community ties, I was careful to flatter them as well and in addition I truly believed in many of their ideal and values and I definitely believed in Jesus. But I was also very much trying to make some money, woo a girl while I was thirteen and find some way to matter in the community. My girlfriend and I barely kissed after that dinner and it would be one of the very last times we had any uncomplicated affection. But we have mutually acknowledged memories, that is different than some women I have since known with whom there is no recognition of any connection. 

Not long after my birthday, I was trying to spend more time with the volunteers at the service center. I tried to combine unpaid prayer and service with the opportunities to acquire new lawns for my group which somehow seemed to happen. I felt that Dad had mixed feelings about my little business. “Praise God! I am glad that you are doing these things, I heard from Pres that there is a chance for you to cut at the family law office.” 

“That suits me.” I answered, “We have two lawns in the same neighborhood. I will call him shortly. ”
“Great but what will you do if we go on a trip this summer?” Dad asked.

“I have arrangements with Donald to lead the group. I have left a little money in advance at the repair and sharpening shop. He will set aside three dollars a lean as my cut. But of course it is a problem. I hope to get back in time to solve. If we are going back overseas then I might be able to accept that more easily. You know that I am not very happy at school. But I am trying.”

“Mom and I got a letter from Father Jim Mitchell that we wrote to at El Camino community in Columbia. You can read the letter when we get home and we will talk about it . But he is going to be in Ann Arbor and we are thinking of going back to the Word of God Community to see him when he arrives there.”

“It will be hard to risk a lot on the changes but I do like traveling and I would feel like we were living as missionaries if we went to live and work in Columbia. I find it hard to explain to people that we are missionaries who were called by God to be missionaries and we live here in our hometown.” .  .  

That conversation was unusually candid and honest on my part. Soon we were with Mom and little Sarah playing and talking about the trip. I suggested that we might borrow Gammie and Papa’s old farm truck. Mom suggested that we borrow the truck bed top camper shell from her parents that was just sitting abandoned outside. The trip was now a camping trip and somehow we still had some camping supplies that had survived some out dispossessions and we bought more supplies. We got in touch with my aunt Susan who had wanted us to visit her at her newish home in Truckee, California. We planned a trip to visit the old friends and ministries we had left behind in El Paso, A group of El Paso friends who had moved to Phoenix, a mission organization we had corresponded with in Oxnard, California and along the way to see national and state parks, this would bring us to Truckee for a long visit. Then we would similarly camp and drive to reach Ann Arbor, Michigan. After that we would visit Jim and Kathy in Brown’s Cove and Charlottesville, VIrginia. We might if we did that stop by Augusta Georgia and then come back home. We would cover most of the outer tiers of states if this was actually to be our route. I felt bad leaving my lawns and potential girlfriend, but I did feel an attraction to the romance of the road and the possible life in the missions in Columbia made more sense to me than our life in Abbeville.It was clear to me that I was going to struggle with a lot of different issues. But a lot of them would have to with money.  I could put those worries on hold in the missions.

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I was a teenager now, that was the term that had so much meaning in the United States of America. I knew  that losing the cutting season of the summer would be a big setback in income, but I also knew that it could be more time to bond with Mom and Sarah. I had not been seeing them as much lately and I was very busy in ways that were not going to solve all our problems. I found the time I spent at the Christian Service Center rewarding, I hoped to see a more intense  relationship with my girlfriend and  I liked hanging with my guys as we cut grass. But I knew that I was a traveler and a missionary or else I was a confused kid fighting an impossible battle to find a place to be.someone I could feel comfortable with at all levels. . 

The values of The Styx are not the only values that I bring with me. But when I think of AMerica and what it is and what it is not I think of that neighborhood often. I sense it was closer to the essence of America than many other places. I leave this thought as  grounds for my own sense of why my time there mattered as much as it did. 

“Yet, rather than regarding this diversity as grounds for despair, Madison took it as a source of his new republicanism. The task of government, he maintained, should not be to eliminate the causes of faction, as the ancient writers had argued, so much as to control their effects. The most obvious of these effects was diversity in property. A primary task of statesmanship in the modern commercial republic, then, would  not be to impose equality of property, but to manage the differences between their different kinds.(Steven B.Smith “Learning from Publius”; National Affairs; number 54, winter 2023:page 99

So it was with a troubled goodbye to my girl and my lawn guys that I set out with my family. “Thank God there is a little window that slides in this truck, we can all talk” I said to Mom as we reached the first stop to eat the meal she cooked up on our Coleman Camping Stove. “This is not very comfortable or elegant but it works a whole lot better than I would expect since the truck never had a camper before according to everyone I asked.”

“Yes, it is nice to camp because the campgrounds are beautiful often and so we pull up and we are in a beautiful place, no matter how we arrive.”.Mom replied.

“ I do love nature.” I assured her.

In El Paso things had changed, we had wonderful visits with friends but I got the impression that The  Lords School might not be reopening the next year. There was a new regime at La Cueva and even Father Rick seemed to find it more awkward to be with us -although we were all still friends..

In Phoenix we met wonderful friends who had moved from El Paso and put us up in some comfort. They were all thrilled to meet Sarah. But there was a definite sense that we were just visiting. It was a common thing in those days in Abbeville and elsewhere that people asked us to pray for the sick. Many reported feeling better and some with desperate prognoses were healed very soon afterwards. We would hear stories about this sort of thing whenever we doubled back to meet people. There were people who faked such things I knew and those which could be easily explained. But this was a constant strand in my life and included my own prayers and a good people over the years from 9 to 22 years of age who told convincing stories that I had been given a gift of healing that God had used to set them right and make them well. It happened frequently in my parents’ ministry as well. My parents had their troubles and it was not always easy to live with the very human struggles they could get into. My mother truly and sincerely wanted to be a good wife and mother and then go to heaven after a long life. But she also wanted to go to heaven tomorrow whenever things got too bad. But I did enjoy bonding more with Mom and Sarah on the trip.

I did emphasize that when I had traveled these roads with Gammie and PauPau we had seen a lot of sites and reminded them of another time we had seen a few. I really wanted to revisit the Grand Canyon, Bryce Canyon, the painted Desert, The Petrified Forest and other places I loved. I know we visited a few and I was glad we did. But we passed a lot of great scenery at night partly because it was cooler to drive at night and we had very little air conditioning crossing the Southwest desert in the summer. We prayed with and shared food with a couple of people in the campsites. I began to feel like we were really on the edge of American society and that the religious lunatic fringe that one could find on the highways and campsites had just as many problems as the mainstream. At every site I bought a postcard with my dwindling money and mailed it home to either a grandparent or my girlfriend. I also bought my girlfriend a couple of nice presents.

When we reached the mission organization in Oxnard, I could not believe family I met were supporting missionaries but they were – i knew that to be true. My sense of scandal came not from their sins or behavior being immoral. I was scandalized because they wrapped all their furniture and carpets in plastic except for on special occasions. This was to make things last longer. I couldn’t fit together the openness to people around the world and the same family requiring all the people they actually knew to sit on uncomfortable sheets of cheap plastic to protect their possessions. But despite feeling uncomfortable.  I made pretty good friends with their son. He seemed so relieved that I did not make him feel like his parents were crazy. I felt good about making him feel respected – but I did think his parents might be crazy.

When we got up to Truckee my aunt Susan was working two and a half  part-time jobs, she was a waitress in an omelet restaurant, worked as some kind of clerk in a public utility and helped the mechanics with some things at the municipal airport garage. She had a great middle sized house on the Truckee RIver she was fixing up. We prayed with her friends who were not so religious, she was divorced from Don,  her Mormon husband, they had split up and they had no children to keep them in close contact.. While we were there we went to see him as well and he gave us a tour of a water treatment system he helped to manage. Afterwards we had “a  Catholic and Backsliding  Mormon” prayer meeting according to Don. It was kind of sad, even though I loved hiking around Truckee. While I was there walking I saw one of the men who I had known to be associated with the old traditions in Abbeville and with several lines of  families I was related to on my father’s side, Seeing him at any place other than South Louisiana was a revelation. The old man told me not to talk about him but he talked with me.. He said that he watched  certain people now and then and my Aunt Susan was one of them.  I kept my word and never talked of this encounter for many years. I was feeling like the odds of my life working out well were not good, yet I also truly believed in the power of a spiritual path and the one I was on in life with my parents. 

Our time in Ann Arbor and Word of God Community reunited me with my friends who had cystic fibrosis. Our relationship was complicated by many factors I cannot discuss, comfortably even here. But my parents and I were there mostly because Fr. Jim Mitchell was there from the El Camino community in Colombia. They mostly met with him without me. But by that time I had an interest in the publishing and other businesses being run by the community and I got some great tours of some of those facilities. We also saw Ralph Martin again who was a very important figure in the Catholic Charismatic Renewal. 

We then went down from Ann Arbor to Brown’s Cove and  Charlottesville to visit with Jim and Kathy. They put us up a little while and had a new garden. Jim distinctly remembers Sarah becoming fascinated with the tomatoes – plants and fruit and calling them ‘may-mays” She was a long way short of the two year norm for speaking but like me she was an early talker.  We were not here very long before we were on the way back to Abbeville, to Open Door Community and we were only able to stop in and visit Faith VIllage for a brief visit.

When we got back to Abbeville, I was eager to bring my gifts to my girlfriend. She accepted them graciously but I could see things were never going to be the same. She was going to high school at a big public High School and was likely to make the cheer squad. My lawn business was barely limping along. But I felt like I was back to being someone I recognized. I was the traveler coming home from my travels to Abbeville with my family. Somehow, I would be going back to school as a missionary kid with no immediate plans to go into the missions. But I was hoping to find my way forward.

Online Memoir Chapter Fourteen: The Other Side of Life in My Hometown

In the summer semester of the 2021 2022 school year I took two classes at the University of Louisiana of Lafayette. One of the classes was Education in a DIverse Classroom. The other was Diverse Families. In the DIverse Families course I used the fourteenth edition of the book The Marriage and Family Experience: Intimate Relationships in a Changing Society by Theodore F. Cohen and Bryan Strong. It was another important text in a very long line of texts about sex and family in my life.  Sex has been an important concern in my life for a long time, However, I am  very far from claiming to be a great lover these days or to have become an expert on family or sex. But I have built a body of knowledge that has a great deal to to with the time we spent living in the Sticks (or the Styx) neighborhood in Abbeville, my home town. In that small set of blocks in my hometown there were not large estates, privacy fences, gated communities and a host of lawyers and bodyguards. If one was a very intelligent child in early adolescence it was hard not to notice a variety of happy families with traditional values, young people pregnant well before emancipation and struggling, all kind of pimps from abusive gangsters to benevolent gangsters as well as those who used religion as a cloak for prostitution or child abuse and those right near them who were religious and having connections with  prostitutes and abused children for the purpose of helping them. Promiscuous girls and trafficked teen prostitutes lived together. Violent drug dealers had money and supported their families and others in the same block did the same thing and blew all their ill gotten goods on bad things only.There were people practicing music for high school band. There were openly gay men and men who came to visit them from more respectable neighborhoods that might or might not have paid them.  Sex  in the neighborhood was like music in the neighborhood, the sexual climate was diverse and obvious but not publicly celebrated.Our family was involved with people making music about redemption from sin that involved sexual misbehavior. There were no concert venues but there were still other musicians practicing in their yards and on their porches for gigs in bars and dance halls that would be few and far between for most of those guys – nobody I knew made it big. In music from that crowd. One kid got a music scholarship from a university, but he was the exception. It was a place with music and yet not defined by music, the  mix of rock, choir music, marches, Cajun and zydeco music I heard was sometimes beautiful but was not celebrated communally very much. A little made it to the nearby brothels and clubs but very little. Open Door Community and the Christian Service Center had worship with instruments and voices regularly and that was the most regular organized celebration of music in the neighborhood. I learned a great deal about how other people had sex and defined themselves sexually. I also learned that there was nobody I could safely talk to about most of these sexual matters and the experiences that we had being lived out around us. The neighborhood also had stores in people;s homes with no signs, a real and regular laundry and drycleaner. It ran to a street with bars and a graveyard on one border, to a nicer neighborhood on another two sides and to a large middle school, high school football stadium and a vocational and technical community college on the remaining side. I could leave the neighborhood on my bike on many  routes and I did. But when I was there I lived in a very sexualized place where people felt like they were tolerated but sort of on the edge of what made up  our legal and accepted way of life.     

This chapter is not mostly about sex but without a discussion of sex it would have little to do with my experience.  I will visit it from many points of view before we get out of this and on with the stories of the next chapter.   . `

In Virginia, at the cabin in Brown’s Cove I had taken my attachment to the Bible to a new level and really drilled down on Bible reading.  I had been reading the Bible regularly for years but in the quiet and isolation of the cabin, I had been able to devote a great deal of time to reading the scripture and to studying it with the tools I had at my fingertips. I personally owned a Jerusalem Bible Study Version and a New American Bible Study Version. I am not sure that they were called study versions anywhere but each of these translations came in a version with stipped down appendices, footnotes and marginal cross references. The kinds I had were the Bibles with all the works. A basic start to scripture study was to read the same passage in both of my translations then to try to imagine what original text might have been translated in both of these ways. Then I looked up all the parallel of referential texts cited in the cross references to other scripture passages in both Bibles. Next I looked up every word I thought might be in the McKenizie’s DIctionary of the Bible. After that I would read articles I thought were relevant in the  Jerome Biblical Commentary. Then I would pray for insight and write down a few notes.  

My Parents had several other Bible translations and we had access to a few study aids when we visited the Church early and left late for  Sunday Mass, sometimes I discussed my reading with my parents, some of our more religious guests and also with a priest at church. But mostly I kept my thoughts to myself. We had  pretty good access to Biblical texts. and resources despite our lack of possessions

My biggest topic of Biblical study in VIrginia was KIng David.  David remains a very powerful and prominent figure in my thoughts about a great number of things.  Here are a few things I remember about that study of David:

  1. David was born into the tribe of Judah:Judah was a tribe set aside for leadership and royalty above most, but it was not the only tribe set apart for a role of leadership.. Levi was a holy tribe set apart for worship and ritual leadership. But the tribe of Judah and the two half tribes of Joseph  that passed under the names of Joseph’s sons Ephraim and Manasseh (especially Ephraim) had the most kingly roles before Israel had kings.  Saul on the other hand was from the Tribe of Benjamin, which would have ranked just below these other three in claims to a Kingly role. David was not born rich but he was born with a certain claim to nobility.
  2. David was a shepherd boy who killed lions and bears to defend his sheep.
  3. David was a musician and this would play a big role in the Bible, his life and Jewish History.
  4. Dacid was a hero who killed the giant Goliath of Gath and became a great warrior.
  5. David was a courtier in the COurt of KIng Saul, the first King of Israel and he married Saul’s daughter and became close friends with Jonathan the KIng’s sone.
  6. Prophets anointed and encouraged David as King while Saul as still king. Ln time David became an outlaw leading an outlaw army hunted by Saul.
  7. David was extremely polygamous,
  8. David was prayerful and found religious reasons to give himself to practicing mercy, worship and humility unlike anybody else in his sphere.
  9. David saw himself as a repentant sinner.
  10. David loved his children. His son Absalom led a revolt against him and as killed, his first son by Bathsheba died to punish David for his sins.
  11. David conquered Jerusalem and brought the Ark of the Covenant and prepared for Solomon’s Temple to be built by his son.. 
  12.   David was called by God “A man after my own heart”.
  13. Jesus was descended from the House of David, and was often called the Son of David.
  14. David knew how to lead, plan and administer.

It was clear to me at the time understanding David was vital to understanding the Bible and all things associated with the Bible. I also realized that  I was going to have different ideas about what was important when discussing scripture than many people around me. I remember that we were seeking to hear the Word of God in scripture. That belief in the Bible as the Word of God  was true of the people at Mass talking after church about the readings we had all heard.  It was true of my parents and their close associates. It was true of the Protestant missionaries and preachers I had come to know and it was true of the people in Charismatic prayer groups and communities. I did talk about scripture with learned nonbelievers as well, doing that made me appreciate the historical, geographical, linguistic and cultural information I had gained from my Catholic Bibles and study aids. But before I got  back to Abbeville, I was predisposed to see the many ways in which people related to Chrisitanity and religion in a manner that didn’t blind me to reality.  

My life is perhaps like many other lives in that there are times of distinct success and times of failure. There are times of joy and times of sorrow.  Perhaps also like most humans if one dialed in or zoomed in on the times one would clearly designate as  bad there would be good times relative to the general bad time I was experiencing likewise if one were to zoom in on the good times, one would find there were bad times  compared to the generally good time I was experiencing.  I think that that is pretty well accepted to be the human condition. It is not a new observation, one of my favorite treatments of the theme is in the Bible.  

   Ecclesiastes 3

A Time for Everything This title is from the editors)

1 There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens:

2 a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot,

3 a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build,

4 a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance,

5 a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,

6 a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away,

7 a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak,

8 a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace.

9 What do workers gain from their toil?

10 I have seen the burden God has laid on the human race.

11 He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end.

12 I know that there is nothing better for people than to be happy and to do good while they live.

13 That each of them may eat and drink, and find satisfaction in all their toil—this is the gift of God.

14 I know that everything God does will endure forever; nothing can be added to it and nothing taken from it. God does it so that people will fear him.

15 Whatever is has already been, and what will be has been before; and God will call the past to account.

16 And I saw something else under the sun: In the place of judgment—wickedness was there, in the place of justice—wickedness was there.

17 I said to myself, “God will bring into judgment both the righteous and the wicked, for there will be a time for every activity, a time to judge every deed.”

18 I also said to myself, “As for humans, God tests them so that they may see that they are like the animals.

19 Surely the fate of human beings is like that of the animals; the same fate awaits them both: As one dies, so dies the other. All have the same breath ; humans have no advantage over animals. Everything is meaningless.

20 All go to the same place; all come from dust, and to dust all return.

21 Who knows if the human spirit rises upward and if the spirit of the animal goes down into the earth?”

22 So I saw that there is nothing better for a person than to enjoy their work, because that is their lot. For who can bring them to see what will happen after them?’ (New International Version).

My mother tells her version of our return to Louisiana from Virginia in her second book about our family’s lives, Our Family’s Book of Acts: To Love and to Serve the Lord published in 2012.  In the chapter, “News From Home – An Open Door”  She tells of the trip from Virginia. 

“Soon after we left the icicles in Virginia. In early November, we arrived in Louisiana by train. To experience the tail end of a summer not yet retired. The Atchafalaya Basin’s sultry swamp showed few signs of fall. The trip had taken about a week from Charlottesville to New Orleans. We stopped briefly  at the Summers home in uptown New Orleans, borrowed a car and headed out to Cajun Country. We loved the drive over the Basin. It was so pristine; some said there were places in the vast waterways that man still had never seen. Tall, straight cypress trees hovered over the stretches of idyllic scenery.  The “knees” dotted the smooth surface looking like miniature sentries dutifully standing their ground. The skies were incredibly blue, Spanish Moss swayed in the breeze. Yep, we were home, home in God’s country.” (Summers, Acts  page 4).   

What made the difference in my life between here and there, this and that became less clear when I calculated all the things that made my life different from the lives of other people.My parents had found a way to live in the town we all called home.I was very uncomfortable at school. I felt it was just more than I could do to be simultaneously the person everyone remembered ( who was not that popular in the first place) and the new person equally out of the norm. School was hard for me under any circumstances and spending large amounts of time in the busy structures, regulated and conformist environments of a school never came easy. But these new circumstances were more than usually difficult. I never felt that I handled the stress very well.

I had a few obstacles that I did overcome. I had a class largely devoted to reading when I got back to Mount Carmel Elementary School. WhenI first arrived and enrolled we all had streamed drills in groups who read at our speed. I was tested in the slowest group first, my scores showed I far surpassed this group.. Then I was tested in the second to slowest group and the same result occurred. Next I was tested in the second to fastest reading group. I excelled and surpassed that standard as well. FInally, I was tested in the last and fastest group and I was one of the fastest readers in the group and still able to get perfect scores on content comprehension and analysis test on the content I read a t breakneck speed There at least I was back in line with  the top group of students in my class. Mostly they were the same people I had left behind  to go to Tonga. In other areas I struggled. Living as the kind of missionary my parents wanted us to be and going to my old school seemed impossible to me in many ways.

In the stress of the situation, I did not always behave well. I lied to cover up the things I did not have and the paying job that my father did not have. I found solace and joy in the prayers and Bible studies  in religion classes. I had always found schools to be difficult places to be but the behavior of students when no adults were around became harder and harder to tolerate. I got into a fight with a few boys who I thought were severely bullying a boy who was the closest to  openly gay of anyone at our little school.. FIghting seemed to clash with my very religious persona in those days. I didn’t  “approve” of homosexuality but I was less approving of bullying. That fight and other conflicts only exacerbated the bullying that was inevitable given the conflicts in my mind, thee fact that I wore a cross– all of which made it impossible for me to reconcile my new identity in the small intimate school with my previous one. The wear and tear of relationships at school was not my only source of problems but it was a significant one.       . 

“Investigations into teacher exoduses in prior years, including a poll from the Policy Exchange, found that over 70% of teachers identified student behavior as a major cause. Data on the current teacher flight are harder to come by, but a poll from the National Education Association found that 90% of teachers say that burnout is a serious concern; 76% identify student behavior as a driver of it. Local reporting in states like California confirms that many teachers are citing student behavior as a major reason behind their decision to quit the profession.”. (Daniel Buck, The Abolition of School Discipline, National Affairs number 54, WInter 2023; page23)..   

In lives where disordered behavior at school has not been important it is hard to recognize how intense a problem it is for many others.  I was trying to find a way to reconcile too many things and I began to feel that perhaps I was going to have serious issues with fitting in and even more problems controlling my emotions at school. There were days when I walked around in a kind of haze that was different from the way I had always kind of marched to a different drummer than was the ideal at any school I attended. 

One of the highlights of that half year in 7th grade at Mount Carmel Elementary School was getting to the top stream of Miss Clancey’s Reading Class, another was catching up with the class in math where I had already begun to fall behind. But the brightest highlight was when we were all asked to make a presentation on a skill for my homeroom. I listened respectfully to the other students. But then when my time came and  I gave the presentation I  had scheduled, I chose  “How to Read the Bible.” I got a hundred percent even though my teacher had discouraged me from picking it. I discussed commentaries, dictionaries, cross-references, diglots, translations and hermeneutics. I gave examples and I discussed the  Second Vatican Council document on DIvine Revelation. Afterwards, the teacher said “ Beau. Your presentation was so good that I will give you a hundred because I have to give you above one hundred percent in all the categories except connecting with the audience. You never smiled and you almost never made eye contact with your classmates. Everyone appreciated your work, all these people are your friends.”

When she was finished speaking there were tears in my eyes. I don’t remember my report card that year,  but I felt  lucky and successful to have made it that far and gotten back into a decent position in the class. I was not happy and I felt like the burdens I was bearing was more than I could take. Yet I also felt that if I could somehow find peace with the changes that had gone on in my life, I might find a path going forward in school. At some point I lost those records but for many years I kept them and any others I could find in a special file at my Dad’s parents second home in Abbeville, I had a single slightly relevant document from Tonga Side School and another from The Lord’s School. That first half  year, I began to organize some of the local boys into a sort of informal company. We moved things for people, trimmed a few hedges and by the end of the school year we cut a few yards. I made the sales and connections and bought or borrowed as much equipment as I could.  I did do the physical work, but less than  an equal share.  I divided the money among the participants and they all seemed happy. It was a chance to lead and I felt good leading something. Once that year we took a bicycle ride to a place called the Woodlawn Bridge. It was a number of miles out of town and we went as fast as we could and held together to fight off the loose dogs that attacked us. My guys all knew how to swim but had little access to pools. The public pool was closing down more and more or had closed down – I can’t remember. But on the way home we stopped and swam at the pool behind my mother’s parents house on the bayou. They accepted my crew from the Styx and we prayed and made promises in the shrine in the woods. When I was in town we would try to keep things together and grow it into anything we could find.

Between school and this little business I had my own life. But in addition I was part of the Open Door Community and the emerging Christian Service Center.  That was  a complicated time. Our family was very involved with people who were severely mentally ill and others who were marginally mentally disabled. There were people who rented a room in our home who suffered from hallucinations and severe behavioral issues. There were others who came by and got meals at Open Door Community and still others who went by the CHristian Service Center for help. Beyond these people were those who were truly desperate and those who were needy. I would meet child prostitutes, rapists and others who were involved in the life of the neighborhood. The girl I liked and hung out with in the neighborhood  lived next to her grandmother. I am not sure exactly when her grandmother, who liked to go to the dancehalls on the weekend was raped, beaten and left for dead. But we had stolen one real kiss over a long time and once or twice in the dark had held hands. But the day they brought her grandmother out in a stretcher we were a couple for all the world to see. She cried first in my arms on the street and then with her head on my should while we sat on the porch swing of our house. We were never really a couple but there was always a bond. Somehow that day froze everything for us in some way.   A lot of times merge from varied trips and I can distinguish them by where we were living in the same neighborhood that was  to be our base in Abbeville for many years. The Bordelons from Abbeville and Navajoland were back with us in the neighborhood for a while one summer and I found it harder to maintain my friendships with them than when we lived on the farm. We rode about on bikes in the sweltering heat and tried to figure out if any of us would end up back in the missions or not. 

It was going to be a variety of times that blended together but we would live in the house across from the Christian Service Center, a different house across from the  Seton Elementary School that had just been abandoned and then in the school itself. I try to separate the jumbled memories by remembering whereIi woke for any particular event that I remember or where I went to bed after such an event.. Often during those first months we shared a common meal at least once a day and all did after dinner chores in the former rectory where the Bernards and Listis lived. It was a convivial and television free environment. We shared prayers, chores and conversation. 

There was a common library besides the ones each family had and the majority of the books belonged to the Listi family. But some belonged to the Summers and the Bernard families. They had books on the Bible and Classic comics both of which I claimed to read and actually did read. But there was also a section of books on marriage counseling. I received much of my knowledge of sex not from the questionable sources most boys used on playgrounds and in dark parts of the neighborhood. I read a number of  books from there and added others:Letters to Karen: A Father’s Advice On Keeping Love in Marriage, Charlie W. Shedd  and Letters to my Philip:On How to Treat a Woman I also read Larry Christenson ‘s The Christian Family, that were written by white Protestant Christian Americans in the twentieth century who had a conservative view of family life. A brand new book by Dr. James Dobson that came out in 1975 would be the basis of a conservative family values movement. It was called Dare to Discipline and was published in 1975..  A book more challenging to American culture was another thing I got my hands on; Raymond and Dorothy Moore’s book, which was discussed whenever my checkered education was discussed. That was another book that hit the mass market in 1975:Better Late Than Early : A New Approach to Your Child’s Education. The Moore book was part of the homeschool movement that was gradually coming to play a significant role in my life, even though I had been in seventh grade to the finish and still was not sure if I would ever formally homeschool.   I am so aware that the future would. The Joy of Natural Childbirth by Helen Wessel published in 1963 made me aware of all the things I didn’t know about sex and women’s bodies. It also answered some of the questions it raised.. I could list many other books, but this reading sort of helped to accentuate a sense of a split between the ideals of a stable and monogamous family centered in Christian spirituality and the other sexual influences and also my own thoughts about sex which were not of a single piece and were still forming. I was a middle school kid, but I did not feel like I was ordinary in any way  –good or bad.

Chapter Thirteen of Online Memoir: Don’t Call it Unlucky Thirteen

This chapter is a little different than any other. Many people, if writing about their whole lives would say that their middle school years were difficult. My middle school years were in fact quite difficult., Over the years my view of the years has changed but for a long time almost all the recollections were painful. But over the years, I established some better relationships with some of my former classmates and a few years ago I started dating, became engaged to and married Clara – a girl I liked but did not know well  in those days. But those future outcomes were very far in the future when I lived through very important transition in my life. It is about coming home and planning to return in mid year to my old school. Mount Carmel Elementary School in Abbeville was where I had gone to first, third, fourth and half of fifth grade.  Now I would be returning there for some of my middle school year studies. This would be a very challenging transition for me and it was one I would think about a great deal over the rest of my life. Because it was so important, I want to take the time and space to outline its significance for my one theoretical reader who may dig this up from a digital archive in a few hundred years as part of a research project. In fact, I still entertain the hope that someone may read this chapter during my lifetime.   

I was heading back to Abbeville in the middle of the school year, wondering about what that would mean. In the world of memoirs and autobiographies there are many stories of education. I specifically have mentioned The Education of Henry Adams. I have also spent some time reading and entering into the school years of CS Lewis  chronicled in Surprised by Joy. The tortured experiences of a child of lesser means and great ability at elite British schools  in George Orwell’s Such, Such Were the Joys. Also read of the education of a member of Louisiana’s declining planter elite in his education by tutors in Lanterns on the Levee. But this was before J.K. Rowling’s Harry Potter novels had enamored the world with a magical school like Hogwart’s. The Jesuit book in the first house we stayed in when we got to El Paso made school seem special but the idea of Robert Louis Stevenson was that boys were kidnapped or marooned  or separated from schools and had great adventures. The Jean George novel, My Side of the Mountain published in 1959 was popular among middle school readers and told about how a boy left New York City to live on his grandfather’s abandoned farm in the Catskills, learns a bunch of  life and wilderness skills on the way then ends up making his home in a hollow tree when he reaches the farm and finds that the farmhouse is gone. Tarzan by Edgar RIce Burroughs was the tale of a boy raised by the most humanlike (anthropoid) of all apes and by dim memories of his high born parents as well as access to their tools and library.     The idea of  school was  part of the good adventure of life in childhood for women writers like Louisa May Alcott in her novels, Little Women and Little Men.  It was certainly a central part of development for Laura Ingall WIlder in her Little House on the Prairie series of novels but for her and for Alcott, family, farm, nature , church and larger social trends overshadow the school as an institution. In C.S. Lewis’s Chronicles of Narnia, the kids get scooped out of our universe to go to Narnia. They are school children in England but the adventures happen elsewhere – nobody at school would understand those adventures very well. Also in the same Lewis series the Narnian education includes a tutor who is a half dwarf who helps a young Prince Caspian to escape into the wilderness to find his future and survive his murderous usurping Uncle Miraz.  School itself in Narnia can be horrifying, here are two passages from the second to last chapter of Prince Caspian in the chronicles. That illustrate this point, the first is the boys school from the Telmarine occupation of Narnia..

At a little town half-way to Beaversdam, where two rivers met, they came to another school, where a tired looking girl was teaching arithmetic to a number of boys who looked very like pigs. She looked out of the window and saw the divine revelers singing up the street and a stab of joy went through her heart. Aslan stopped right under the window and looked up at her.

“Oh, don’t, don’t,” she said. “I’d love to. But I mustn’t. I must stick to my work. And the children would be frightened if they saw you.”

“Frightened?” said the most pig-like of the boys. “Who’s she talking to out of the window? Let’s tell the inspector she talks to people out of the window when she ought to be teaching us.”

“Let’s go and see who it is,” said another boy, and they all came crowding to the window. But as soon as their mean little faces looked out, Bacchus gave a great cry of Euan, euoi-oi-oi-of and the boys all began howling with fright and trampling one another down to get out of the door and jumping out of the windows. And it was said afterwards (whether truly or not) that those particular little boys were never seen again, but that there were a lot of very fine little pigs in that part of the country which had never been there before.

The second is the description of the girls school from the same day at the end of the Telmarine occupation of Narnia:

The first house they came to was a school: a girls’ school, where lot of Narnian girls, with their hair done very tight and ugly tight collars round their necks and thick tickly stockings on their legs, were having a history lesson. The sort of “History” that was taught in Narnia under Miraz’s rule was duller than the truest history you ever read and less true than the most exciting adventure story.

“If you don’t attend, Gwendolen,” said the mistress, and stop looking out of the window, I shall have to give you an order-mark.”

“But please, Miss Prizzle – ” began Gwendolen.

“Did you hear what I said, Gwendolen?” asked Miss Prizzle.

“But please, Miss Prizzle,” said Gwendolen, “there’s a LION!”

“Take two order-marks for talking nonsense,” said Miss Prizzle. “And now – ” A roar interrupted her. Ivy came curling in at the windows of the classroom. The walls became a mass of shimmering green, and leafy branches arched overhead where the ceiling had been. Miss Prizzle found she was standing on grass in a forest glade. She clutched at her desk to steady herself, and found that the desk was a rose-bush. Wild people such as she had never even imagined were crowding round her. Then she saw the Lion, screamed and fled, and with her fled her class, who were mostly dumpy, prim little girls with fat legs. Gwendolen hesitated.

“You’ll stay with us, sweetheart?” said Aslan.

“Oh, may I? Thank you, thank you,” said Gwendolen. Instantly she joined hands with two of the Maenads, who whirled her round in a merry dance and helped her take off some of the unnecessary and uncomfortable clothes that she was wearing.

Wherever they went in the little town of Beruna it was the same. Most of the people fled, a few joined them. When they left the town they were a larger and a merrier company.

These two schools are described on the same day in the narrative as Aslan, the Christlike Lion god (in the company of the Pevensie girls on break from their schools in England) liberates the land for Old Narnians and the Telmarines who are willing to live as Narnians in peace with mystical races and Talking Beasts. The other Telamrines who surrender are sent to a remote island on Earth (when the first Telmarines came) not to a modern country with modern schools. There they may beuld a better society than any theu have yet known. 

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We had returned home from our time in the United Kingdom when Dad was studying at King’s College at the University of London, my Mom’s brother – my Uncle Jed– had traveled with us and gone to school at an ENglish Boarding School. We had returned from the time we lived in Manhattan, New York City, New York.  In addition, we frequently had gone on trips from Abbeville and returned to speak about these trips and the places we had seen with our friends and acquaintances in Abbeville. I  also  knew that we had seen my Uncle Jim on our most recent trip and we had traveled across the country once and stopped in to see my Uncle WIll  who was in a military school out of state. On another trip, we had seen where my Dad;s sister Susan was living in San Francisco. We were accustomed to traveling and to telling the story of places we had gone and what we had learned from the trip. The time we had been back after the visit to EL Paso was somewhat different. There was a sense of having had a great experience and we had some interesting stories. There was the joy of Sarah’s birth and the joy of sharing our faith. But there was also the sense that we had no real place to live out our new experience and there was a real sense that we had lost our old place.

The idea of creating meaning through taking a journey and finding some transformation in the journey is fairly universal. Those who study stories have noted this. 

12. Return with the Elixir

In which our Hero has a triumphant homecoming.

Finally, the Hero gets to return home. However, they go back a different person than when they started out: they’ve grown and matured as a result of the journey they’ve taken.

But we’ve got to see them bring home the bacon, right? That’s why the protagonist must return with the “Elixir,” or the prize won during the journey, whether that’s an object or knowledge and insight gained.

Of course, it’s possible for a story to end on an Elixir-less note — but then the Hero would be doomed to repeat the entire adventure.

https://blog.reedsy.com/guide/story-structure/heros-journey/#12__return_with_the_elixir

I am not sure what degree the feeling of a hero’s return was there for my parents but I think very little of it was there for me. On the other hand VInce Listi was going to have a job in ministry in our home town and he and his wife had been involved in the Catholic Charismatic Renewal in the region. That meant they were at leat a little bit involved in the process of payer about forming a residential community in an old Hawthorne Street Housing complex, not far from where they were moving. They were moving into the complex of buildings for th defunct African American Catholic Parish of Our Lady of Lourdes, where the Church had burnt down and the school of St. Elizabeth Seton Elementary was slowly winding down towards closing for ever. The Listis and Bernards would share the large abandoned rectory rent free and Vince Listi would direct the Christian Service Center operating out of the abandoned convent that had housed the sister who served the parish. I am writing this memoir in 2024 and this year there is a pretty successful movie called Cabrini.   The community of nuns that had served the parish and lived in the convent that would become the  Christian Service Center  were members of Mother Cabrini’s order. The site of all this would be sad and also hopeful with renovations and repurposing.

Our family had no job there and would be renting a house at first. I tried to contribute a faith filled enthusiasm for what Mom and Dad were doing but I was actually feeling a significant amount of doubt and anxiety about all the facts that I just mentioned. When I went to school I would have my own room in a fairly big house across from the old convent and we had a decent yard and the house we rented was in decent shape and had a porch swing and a large sitting room. But I felt very ill at ease. Almost all the kids who were  my neighbors went to public schools that I had not even visited in town. In my old neighborhood, most kids went to the same Catholic school I had attended. One of my best friends from the shool lived not too far away. That was awkward for me because he had always said that his house was the boundary of The Sticks (also the Styx), the mixed race and somewhat rougher neighborhood in which I now clearly resided. My parents seemed to have a different point of view about all of these changes than I could come up with.  I was pretty stressed and would be stressed again and again. Over the years other things would stress me but this period was very stressful.  

I never felt that I had a lot of margin for error to live on in life. I always felt a fair degree of insecurity even when others might have said that I was privileged. But to return to our home town where we had been prosperous to live in a state of  some kind of run down position as failed missionaries seemed almost the hardest thing in the world. In addition, Mom and Dad had resigned their jobs as teachers at St. John’s Marist Boys School  (Dad’s job) and St. Mary’s Marist Girls School in Tonga where they had a salary and a house provided for the work they did, in addition people had been sending donations from home to the infirmary run by the Marist nuns where we volunteered. Life had seemed to make some sense. In Samoa they had been houseparents for Youth WIth a Mission and the culture of the organization was that they would raise their own support from donors, but they got some room and board. However, they had not raised much support. In New Mexico nothing had gelled from a lifestyle point of view and in El Paso the La CUeva ministry had not worked out for the long term, partly because it was a ministry that required some SPanish speaking and we did not speak enough Spanish to amount to anything. Then Dad had mowed pastures while living  in Abbeville. But since then we had wandered without any real effort to take root economically. I felt that Dad’s view of Gospel Poverty was somehow unhinged and not in sync with the gospels or the epistles or the Acts of the Apostles which he quoted. But I also believed it was very possible that God had called my Dad to the impossible task of creating a path  that would allow Catholic families to do new and beautiful things for God without being trapped in a belief that such adventures were only for clerics and religious.  I  also believed it was very possible that God had called my Dad to the impossible task of creating a path  that would allow American families to do new and beautiful things for God without being trapped in a belief that such adventures were only for those not obligated to spending all their time chasing what Dad had referred to a s the Almighty Dollar  in my early childhood when he was an atheist and he half loved money and half loather the idea of defining everything by its dollar value. I also believed it was very possible that God had called my Dad to the impossible task of creating a path  that would allow people  with advanced degrees and lots of worldly experience a chance to do new and beautiful things in spiritual theology without being trapped in a belief that such adventures were only for clerics and trained theologian on the one hand or simplistic populist preachers stirring emotion on the other hand. I just wondered if he could follow God’s call without doing too much irreparable harm to my Mom, my sister and myself. So far I had determined that I would have to live a triple life. First, I would sincerely seek to find my way to serve and follow Jesus Christ in the Catholic Church and to be a good son and brother in my missionary family. Secondly, I would seek to make sure that I was going the things that needed to be done for me to thrive and have a future and to contribute to the family’s well being and I would learn to cloak these rational behaviors in language and appearances that would not encourage the parents that I could not trust to derail those plans – I would live a life under cover. Thirdly, I would live a life responding to an ever increasing  sense that I had limits some people did not have that were at odds with my needs and desires, my body and emotions would at various points just let me down and leave me feeling exhausted, pained and unable to act. I didn’t know how all of that would work out – but at 12 years old,  it seemed both certain that this was my path going forward and certain that it would be a heavy load.

The idea of heading home was hard but once we started on our way I was excited to see my grandparents. The future was mirky but it would be fun to reconnect with some things I knew. Today as I type the main draft of this chapter, I am back in Abbeville and have lived here for years. The way I live is not very much connected  to any of the ideas I had back then about life in Abbeville.  

The woman I am married to today had her own sorrows and I would not learn about them for a long time. I never formed a puppy love relationship in middle school with any of the girls at Mount Carmel Elementary. There were pretty many of such relationships. However, I did form a connection with a girl in the neighborhood that never went far enough or fast enough to really give me a solid reputation as a male of my age in my circle  – but it lasted for quite a while and had some key learning experiences as well.

The great consolation of my new life when we got back to Abbeville was very definite in  material terms was that I got a new bike as and early Christmas present. The cool bike was a ten speed English racer of any brand that was available at a good store..  My was what I asked for a three speed with wider tires and a very well made wire basket big enough to carry something substantial. I was happy that I I got it but I never looked cool on it. However, it could do what the other bikes could do and it also made possible some micro businesses.that I would launch.

On that bike made with a Columbia nameplate I could get all around Abbeville and the surrounding area and I did do that to a remarkable degree. I will return to those escapades in the next chapters.  Abbeville is my home at this writing as well. .   

I am writing a good bit of the main draft of this thirteenth chapter of my online memoir during Easter Week. That is the week that follows Easter Sunday, Holy Week is the Week that precedes the celebration of the Resurrection of Jesus on Easter Sunday.  Overall Holy Week was a good week with some things happening that could be good for Clara and I. But for each separately and both as a couple, we are weary as we are starting the Easter season that runs through at least to Pentecost. The sleepless hours in the middle of the night that plagued me terribly for years are with me now. I can hope that this will not be a long term pattern but it is a sign of my anxiety and stress. In turn this makes me more tired which makes it harder to do the things that I have to do and so that increases my anxiety and stress which makes it harder for me to sleep.  But that is only part of the story. Let’s take Easter Monday for example, I did manage to do some work around the house and to have a workout at the gym and also to spend some gym time visiting with Clara who also works out there. I felt some physical impairment that was hard to define and a flare up of my vertigo, my tinnitus was worse than usual and I had aches and pains. But I managed to set up an application for an appointment the next morning. Clara and I had some good visits because the office where she has been working in various capacities was closed on Easter Monday. She works at a Catholic Church Office and Holy Week is a very busy time for the church.  We had leftovers of the turkey I had roasted for ourselves and others to share on Easter Sunday. We were able to share wonderful hamburgers for supper that were made from the prim beef patties we had bought on Holy Saturday at Sams Club in Lafayette..

Tuesday I woke up and made some coffee, Clara and I visited and then she went to work. I had sold some insurance by the time my 10:30 morning sales/training meeting rolled around. I managed to do some laundry as well as having a good meeting. Then at noon we ate our leftover stew that I had cooked and served days ago and then reheated and plated for our lunch.   I have also had a chance to see that many of our plants are thriving, the leftovers from the food I cooked last week are being enjoyed and getting eaten. I took a good nap and had a successful sales/ training  meeting with Physicians Mutual. I also managed to chat with Clara about our upcoming schedule and I managed to  get a short nap. 

Wednesday I was too anemic to donate plasma but I did some house and yardwork and insurance work as well. Then on Thursday I did more around the house planned Clara’s sixtieth birthday party and did a little yard work and.some insurance training. In all this I also sought to be a Christian and an American and to fulfill other roles. Further I worked on Clara’s 60th birthday party. I live a pretty normal kind of life in my hometown.

My mother’s first book, Go You Are Sent: An Incredible Odyssey of Faith (which was published in 1995) ends with the same October  culmination of our stay in Brown’s Cove, Virginia  that begins her second book. The second book is called, Our Family’s Book of Acts: To Love and Serve the Lord (published in 2012). However, before the first chapter of the second book of out family story she has a page of acknowledgements;

Acknowledgements

This book has been written in little chunks of time over the span of a decade or more. Mainly I want to thank Frank, my knight in shining armor, for standing firm and not allowing me to drop this project. His insistence on accuracy and attention to grammar was essential. I want to thank my fabulous family for living our book of Acts. So many FMC missionaries have contributed what they thought was a small thing but really made a big difference. I am truly grateful for all of the people and places in the book. They have made our story possible.I thank my Dad who encouraged me and prayed over my manuscript from his sickbed. I thank Beau for his earlier insights and editing of the entire book. Mary painstakingly edited several chapters from the second draft. I thank David and VIcki Fruge who lent me their camp, that is a perfect writer’s haven. I thank Elizabeth Hollier for proofreading and editing. I thank John Paul for his work and cover design. Till T. Summers has done the final corrections. Sarah’s book Eat Raw Omelets, inspired me to finish mine, and that really was the catalyst. Thank you, Sarah. Without the technical computer assistance from James Franke, this work would not have made it to press. 

Thank You Jesus,  thank You Holy Spirit, and thank you, God My Father for all the miracles and especially the miracle of finishing this work.

“But they went forth and preached everywhere while the Lord worked with them and confirmed the word through accompanying signs.” Mark 16:20 NAB    

The list of people, accomplishments and  acknowledgements at the start of Mom’s second book are in contrast to the isolated family in Brown’s Cove, borrowing a telephone to call my mother’s father on his birthday. The first book ends in an oddly failed sort of place to end a memoir, testimony book or autobiography. Yes, the main characters in the first  book have had a transformative arc of experience. Yes, they have gone to interesting places and met interesting people and learned some things.  Yes, they  have had journey as missionaries – but they are headed back home and the book doesn’t really speak to whatever could have been qualified as their years of limited missionary success. If I live to finish this memoir, I will tell of my years distributing Mom’s first book in many places around the country and around the world. I never was able to really express the disappointment in how the book ended. In my own generally ugly view of how life and the world work, it seemed sadly fitting that I felt I could not distribute the second book due to malicious characterizations of my work distributing the first work. There are many reasons why the second book was not nearly as widely read as the first. But I do think that the years I spent developing a distribution network were one reason that the first  book was more widely read. Both books have some passages and some perspectives I  don;t agree with or support. There are facts that I dispute in each book. Some things in the second book disappointed me a great deal because they were errors added after the editing of her first draft into the one I handed in to her as she mentions in the acknowledgements. But overall her book is more fair in telling how our family did some good in the missionary lifestyle for which we had sacrificed so much.   

 I knew that I was dreaming. I knew it was not the same kind of dream as other dreams.This is where we cross a certain threshold, Here in this thirteenth chapter of my memoir we (“we” being me and my theoretical reader)  reach a place where there is no longer any safe crawling back to a safe reality. From now on I am simply not going back to the realm of keeping dreams and waking thoughts separate. Now is the point where I admit that I have had a long history of connections with something that I cannot prove exists. Yes, I believe in God and I pray. Yes I work had every day to learn all I can from science, from the great learned traditions and from nature and art in an experiential way.  But beyond all of that, there is something else. There is something that matters and  yet is of little significance because my life’s efforts have been of little significance. I have had a lifelong interaction with extraterrestrial intelligence. That is what this chapter is largely about.

 Here comes the part of the narrative where I come to the first of a number of points at which I claim to be separated out from the mass of men. Remember that during my early childhood I paid great attention to the space program. That continued to the degree that it was possible for me to follow the news about NASA and the agencies they cooperated with and competed against across the world.I was also aware of the fact that the symbol of Judaism was a star, the symbol of Islam was a crescent Moon, the Angels in the stained glass and paint of the great Cathedrals of europe and elsewhere often had wings. I was aware of all the mountaintops in the Judeo- Christian tradition and also of Mount Olympus, the worship of the sun in many societies and the Moon and stars in others. I was further aware that Jesus, Mary, Elijah and Enoch were believed to have been taken up into heaven. Jacob whose other name was Israel had seen a ladder with Angels going up and down from Heaven to Earth and back. .  

“When it comes to science, ours is a paradoxical era. On the one hand, prominent physicists proclaim that they are solving the riddle of reality and hence finally displacing religious myths of creation. That is the chest-thumping message of books such as The Grand Design by physicists Stephen Hawking and Leonard Mlodinow and A Universe from Nothing by Lawrence Krauss. A corollary of this triumphal view is that science will inevitably solve all other mysteries as well.

On the other hand, science’s limits have never been more glaringly apparent. In their desperation for a “theory of everything”—which unifies quantum mechanics and relativity and explains the origin and structure of our cosmos—physicists have embraced pseudo-scientific speculation such as multi-universe theories and the anthropic principle (which says that the universe must be as we observe it to be because otherwise we wouldn’t be here to observe it). Fields such as neuroscience, evolutionary psychology and behavioral genetics and complexity have fallen far short of their hype.”

https://www.scientificamerican.com/blog/cross-check/is-scientific-materialism-almost-certainly-false

The idea of what is real is only one of many imitations on what is permitted to discuss and what is allowed to be taken seriously. Is it possible that the universe is magical, miraculous and divine in a very literal sense and that some people experience its most magical aspects more directly than others?  Here are some other thoughts about all of that.

Naturalism remains a popular philosophy in the academic world. Its articulation varies, so let’s be clear what we mean. Theoretical physicist and philosopher Sean Carroll’s definition will suffice: “Naturalism is a philosophy according to which there is only one world—the natural world, which exhibits unbroken patterns (the laws of nature), and which we can learn about through hypothesis testing and observation. In particular, there is no supernatural world—no gods, no spirits, no transcendent meanings.” Advocates of naturalism tend to regard it as the inevitable accompaniment of a scientific mindset. It seems appropriate, therefore, to undermine it using the most fundamental of sciences: quantum physics.

Given its scientific pretensions, it’s appropriate that the doctrine that the natural world is self-contained, self-explanatory, and exceptionless is at least falsifiable. All we need is one counterexample to the idea that nature is a closed system of causes and effects, or one clear example of nature’s non-self-sufficiency, to be justified in rejecting naturalism, yet contrary evidence and considerations abound. Rather than trying to cover the gamut of cosmological fine-tuning, the origin of biological information, the origin and nature of consciousness, and the evidentiary value of near-death experiences,  let’s focus on the implications of quantum physics as a less familiar aspect of naturalism’s failure.

Quantum physics sets aside classical conceptions of motion and the interaction of bodies and introduces acts of measurement and probabilities for observational outcomes in an irreducible way not ameliorated by appealing to our limited knowledge. The state of a quantum system is described by an abstract mathematical object called a wave function that only specifies the probability that various observables will have a particular value when measured. These probabilities can’t all equal zero or one and measurement results are irreducibly probabilistic, so no sufficient physical reason exists for one outcome being observed rather than another. This absence of sufficient material causality in quantum physics has experimentally confirmed consequences that, as we shall see, put an end to naturalist conceits.

The delayed-choice quantum eraser experiment provides a good example with which to start. This experiment measures which path a particle took after wave function interference inconsistent with particle behavior has already been created. The interference can be turned off or on by choosing whether or not to measure which way the particle went after the interference already exists. Choosing to look erases wave function interference and gives the system a particle history. The fact that we can make a causally disconnected choice whether wave or particle phenomena manifest in a quantum system demonstrates that no measurement-independent causally-connected substantial material reality exists at the microphysical level.

In the course of this book I will declare a number of things that will be very hard for any potential reader to believe. But this is the first time I mention a recurring series of dreams that developed continually over my life. In the dream I went to a sort of conduit usually with a number of companions, who varied and none of whom were people from my life. On the way to the conduit I would see my home and the Earth and our sun shrinking away as I left them behind. Inside the conduit was an environment hard to define. On the other side was a vast glowing planet with a density unlike anything but with a form like that of an Earthlike planet. In future dreams I would come to see that the plant had a diameter of 1,000 lightyears but it did not compress because all matter in it was more charged than the matter of our universe can be.In One hemisphere nad a continent that was terraced mountains of many kind in rough rings and the lower levels and perfect rings at the higher levels rising for light years above sea level. There was a vast shelf around the edge of the continent and Seven great falls thundering into the sea. The sea was heavy with islands beyond thins thundering  roiling region and some had. Tower with bridges to the continent. The top of the mountain had a might growing cloud and sphere city resting on a tower and there was the throne of God. Immortal  Angels, Flying Beast and the spirits of mortal blessed beings in an after life were there. The rest of the Continent also resembled various visions of paradise and heaven people have had. The islands and seas were full of ELvish, Magical, dwarfish and mystical races and a few humans who had gone there alive and reproduced. The open seas were dominated by Leviathans a thousand miles long,.At the equator those things that died in the temporal realms of the seas were spawned or incarnated as themselves in most cases. On the other side of the globe was a hemisphere in dimness and twilight with leave that gave light more than the received it, Here there were beings call Neutral and Angel and Uninformed Angels and the souls of beings neither damned nor redeemed. But further in the continent were the tiers of the pit once occupied by a different civilization but now mostly the abode of damned angels and damned mortal in various torments and societies. At the bottom near the center of the planet was the City of Pandemonium and the throne of the one we call the Devil but also his prison.   Past him he watches a stream of souls pass who were his property by their deep sins in life but by God’s mercy pass to the winding ladders of purgatory and energy near the center if the blessed continent.  The world has three inhabited moons, one above the bottom pole fixed and unmoving and two  which are each spinning on their axis and orbiting the equator. Each of these is inhabited and bigger than any star in our universe. I f I typed for the rest of my life I would capture only part of what I perceived or imagined of this world in my dreams.

But for now I merely reveal that I had the dreams. The rest we will look at in time.

Chapter Twelve of Online Memoir: Upper Doyle’s to James Rivers and Lower Browns Cove Holler

March 31, 2024 was Easter Sunday. When I worked on this draft for a while on that morning I thought back on the gloriously beautiful Easter Vigil Mass at St. Mary Magdalen that Clara and I attended, along with a mostly full church building. I also remembered the four people received into the Church through the Sacraments of initiation. Often there are Baptisms at Easter VIgil Mass. But because the people entering the Catholic Church in our parish were already all Baptized CHristians there was only a Blessing of the Baptismal waters during that part of the Mass. Then all of them received the second Sacrament of Initiation, Confirmation.  Father Louis laid hands on them and prayed for them to receive the fullness of the Holy Spirit. Then he anointed their heads with oil in the sign of the cross and all were able to applaud.The only Sacrament of Initiation that Catholics repeat is the the third Sacrament of the Eucharist. The newly confirmed Catholic Christians were able to receive Holy Communion “under both species” as we say it, from the cup and the bread. They did this before the rest of the congregation received communion. “This was a beautiful service. I am glad we came early.”  Clara said after the service. 

“I am glad we went too.” I replied, “it means a lot to me.”

“The Triduum takes a lot out of anyone.” Clara began as we drove off in her (or our) blue  Subaru Outback. “But I think it is worth it..”

My Dad is gone for over a year now and my mother will be going to mass on  Easter Sunday morning. That had been their custom in recent years almost without exception. But I remembered the magnificent vigil masses at the Santuario de Nuestra Senora de Guadalupe in Saltillo, Coahuila , Mexico that  Mom and Dad and Sarah and Susanna and I attended. The magnificent blessing of the fire, the spreading of candles lit from the central paschal candle and the reading of all the readings (in Spanish of course)  without using any of the permitted shorter forms – those were all beautiful parts of those liturgies in Mexico. But while those things were less in our parish last night the music was truly beautiful, ending with the Hallelujah Chorus in the choir loft was absolutely splendid.  Clara and I  got a drive through treat from McDonald’s  and then headed back home for me to finish prepping and start roasting the turkey that II had offered to bring to a family Easter gathering. Although there was beauty in the worship service, the season and the Gospel story – there was also a sense of the way my life has shaped up. In the congregation there were many people associated with the Family Missions Company founded by my parents. Some were seated very near to Clara and I in the church. Later on in the family SIgnal chat, my brother Joseph would show pictures of his little family in Indian clothing celebrating Easter in their home in Goa. My sister Sarah showed her family playing in left over snow in Colorado. She is with her husband Kevin and her children with him, her second husband,  Isaac, Isabel, Jonah and Esme were all rejoicing in the snow.

Because I was working on this memoir, my mind turned to a different church experience. Our time attending St. Thomas Aquinas Catholic Church on the University of Virginia Campus in Charlottesville, Virginia. Halloween 1976, October 31 was the day the time changed back an hour. Mom and Dad and Sarah and I were back in my uncle Jim and aunt Kathy’s house in Brown’s Cove alone after having left for a while to visit Ann Arbor’s Word of God Covenant Community for the first time. But for whatever reason, they were not in their house on the river. The previous night we had dinner at the house of John Finley. John was a Protestant Christian who had given his life to Jesus in a strong personal way and committed himself to serving in his Protestant Christian Church after being led to a conversion experience, through the ministry of the Catholic family (ours) that he picked up as hitchhikers.  We were also distracted by some news that came to us when Mom called her Dad (my Pops) to wish him a happy birthday while we were at John FInley’s house because Jim and Kathy’s remote home did not have a phone 

and there were few cellular phones in those days and although we did not have one, a cell phone would not have worked deep in that “holler” (the word for a hollow in the mountains where a neighborhood of small farms and such has developed).John FInley was one of several exceptional people. Not only did he return to the faith he had growing up in an Evangelical Christian home and make an adult decision to follow Jesus  –  which was huge for us as a family. His parents were administrators for the World Health Organization in Brazil and John had lived in Africa at some point. He was good company and good fellowship for us.

The news was about the starting of what would become Open Door Community in Abbeville. So we had a good bit on our mind. For whatever reason Jim and Kathy were out of the house that night when we got back and we knew we could not borrow the car  or get a ride with them to get to Sunday  mass. We were supposed to set our clocks back that tonight but we put them forward instead. We had to set our alarms early enough to make sure that we could get to church by the unreliable method of hitchhiking. It was slow and dangerous work. Most people did not stop for us. However, we did not set our clocks back, we set them forward. In addition we got a fairly quick ride into town. So we  had most of our half our margin for error when we arrived at church. In addition because we set our clocks forward we were there an hour before the time our Mass would have started the previous weekend. However, we were not living in the previous weekend. We were in the weekend of the time change. The mass was starting an hour later. Therefore we were at the church two and a half hours early. It was very difficult to be there as a little family of four outside the locked church. It was very much a time when I felt afraid for my future.

The low that day in Charlottesville was 42 degrees. SO it was not freezing but it was chilly and would only rise to 54 degrees. The Church where we waited had a striking modern art statue of Saint Thomas Aquinas commissioned in 1967. The Dominican Friars, also known as the Order of Preachers, celebrated their great scholar and theologian in their ministry to the students at the University of Virginia. That statue was what my uncle called the Squatting Robot. We sat under his odd but somehow protective eye in our bizarre penitential isolation. 

While Jim called the statue “Squatting Robot” and the church Squatting Robot Church, it is apparent that some people  at least called it Bumper Buddha. Wat follows is an excerpt from a 2017 article about the statue being moved.   😊

“Drive past St. Thomas Aquinas Church on Alderman Road and you’ll notice something different—a Charlottesville icon has disappeared. The UVA student-dubbed “Bumper Buddha,” a statue of the church’s namesake welded out of chrome car bumpers, was moved to IX Art Park on May 2.

The Reverend William Stickle commissioned the statue from Indiana sculptor Hank Mascotte in 1967.

… 

When asked if IX is going to become home to other homeless statues —an island of misfit toys—Wimer said, “I think it’s a strong possibility as people are shifting monuments around this town. We are happy recipients of all sorts of pieces of art. Please, let the donations begin.”

Like the General Robert E. Lee statue? Wimer laughs. “That would entail some very long discussions.”

 https://www.c-ville.com/bumper-buddhas-big-move . .  . .  

 When Clara and I visited Jim and Kathy the summer before we got married (while we were  on a road trip) we saw the site of the no longer existing Robert E. Lee staue mentioned in the article. That statue had been the site of the Unite The RIght Rally with Louisiana’s David Duke and others arrayed against Antifa and protestors against Confederate Statuary. There was violence and at least one person was killed directly due to the conflict. The Robert E. Lee statue has been melted down to be made into statuary representing African American achievement or CivilRIghts or freedom – I am not sure what the final work was. But in those days Charlottesvill was not famous for that violent rally. Many things have changed since 1976 and some stay the same. One change is that I and almost everyone I deal with have cell or mobile phones of some kind. Jim and I communicate on those phones fairly often, though not as much as a few years ago. 

“Hey Jim, this is Beau. Call me when you can.” That could be any of a number of messages I have left on my Uncle Clay James Summers email in the last few years. “Hey Beau,  I saw you had called and I am trying to chat. I wonder if this is about the thing with your Uncle Pres? Call me when you can and if you don’t I will call you back.” That could be any of a number of call back and resembles even more. ” Hey Jim, this is Beau. I guess we will keep playing phone tag for a while.” I call Clay James Summers my Dad’s brother younger than Pres, and Susan and older than Will and Missy “Jim” not Uncle Jim. I called all my aunts and uncles by their first name when I was very young. I sometimes introduced them as Aunt Missy or Uncle Pres but called them Missy and Pres. Both of my parent were the oldest of their families and the youngest of their siblings were not much older than I. I had no first cousins who could speak until I had been speaking for a long time. In addition I grew up in era of rapidly diminishing formality. For all these reasons I grew up calling all my aunts and uncles by their first names. I had few real playmates in my life as a small child and my youngest aunts and uncles were as close to being my regular playmates as anyone else. It seemed unfair for me to be the only person in my world to call their older brothers and sisters Aunt and Uncle. I am a person inclined to use correct or approximate titles and not no title at all. But as fate would have it I denied these people I cared about a basic title and as I look back no other path ever seemed possible.

In my own daily life, virtually everyone calls me either  Beau, Frank, Mr. Frank or Mr. Summers. One person calls me parrain, (godfather in French)  and a few people call me other things.I have lived places where anyone with a bachelor’s degree is addressed as “Licensiado” by strangers. I have also lived or stayed in places where anyone doing what I did were called “preacher” but that did not happen for me.   The list of times and places where I was not distinguished by a title commonly used is a long list. But perhaps all of these slights are simple justice for my own slighting of Uncle Pres, Aunt Susan, Uncle Jim, Uncle WIll and Aunt Missy on my mother’s side and on my mother’s side Uncle Bruce, Uncle Brian, Uncle Jed and Aunt Rachel. I am including a list of some of my honors in life for a theoretical reader to keep in mind as they read about my time in Brown’s Cove. For the preteen there was the same person who received  those honors in the list starting in 1983.

My Own Honors that are not secret and can be substantiated. 

 2024 Panel Coordinator and Presenter Gulf South History and Humanities Conference, Natchez Mississippi. Topic Roundtable Discussion: Culturally Responsive and Activist Pedagogy Meets Academic History: South Louisiana Cases and Reflections. Panelist with Nicole Guhon-Crowell   

April 20, 2023 received medallion at UL Honors Convocation for Spring 2023.

2022 to 2023 Geaux Teach Scholar

2023 Admitted to Kappa Delta Pi Educational Honors Society

2019  Presenter Panel Louisiana Historical Association Annual Meeting Lafayette Louisiana Corinne Broussard Project on Evangeline Girls with Warren Perrin and Bary Ancelet. 

2017  Presenter Gulf South History and Humanities Conference, Pensacola. Blood Feud: Acadian Ethnicity and the Killing of Huey P. Long. Why Mic Mac genes and arrogance killed the Kingfish

2016 Gulf South History and Humanities Conference, Mobile. Emerging Views: The Reemergence of American Identity in Postwar Acadiana and the SONJ Documentary Projects . 

2012 Grand Prize Winner Lord Norton’s Quiz—House of Lords 

2004 Honored Presenter College Lecture; “The Idea of the University”. SDIBT, College of Foreign Studies. Yantai ,China

1993 first academic publication: Academic Publications:  Historical Journal of Film, Radio and Television; 1993,  Review – FDR’s Moviemaker: Memoirs and Scripts. 

1992 LSU Research Grant – Ekstrom Photographic Archives, University of 

Louisville – Louisville, Kentucky. 

1992 Admitted to Mensa. 

1991-1993 Board of Regents Fellow 

1990 Honorary Lieutenant Governor of Louisiana.

1989 Outstanding Graduate, Alumni Association Honoree, Spring Commencement, USL. 

1989 Outstanding Graduate of the College of Arts, Humanities, USL. 

1989 Outstanding Graduate of the Department of English, USL. 

1987 Admitted to Phi Kappa Phi Honors Society. 

1985 Sophomore Class Award, Franciscan University of Steubenville

1983 first admitted to the Honors Program at USL (now the University of Louisiana at Lafayette).

In addition, because I am not famous or very successful it is not always obvious that in recounting the adversities of my youth in terms of formal education and employment, I was going to at least study and work to some substantial degree later in life. Here are some of the evidences of my success in study later on in life. It was not the case that the kid in Brown’s Cove dropped off the face of the academic world forever. . 

Degrees

Master of Arts, Louisiana State University, August 4, 1993. Cumulative G.P .A. 3.846 

Bachelor of Arts,  University of Southwestern Louisiana, ( now University of Louisiana at Lafayette), May 14, 1989. Cum Laude G.P A.:  3.686 (adjusted down to a 3.54 after decades due to new rules)

Teaching certification:  UL Post-baccalaureate  Alternative Certification. I completed courses in Teaching in a Diverse Society, Diverse Families, Secondary Social Studies Methods, Technology in Education and Teaching Literacy in the Content Areas, Foundations of Inclusion in Education and  a course on Classroom assessment. I only lacked the course in Classroom  management and the internship credits to compele the alternative certification. At this point I don’t see ever completing it. But I was a certified teacher under a practitioner’s license and I still am so licensed at the moment of preparing this chapter.  . 

Licenses and Certificates

Insurance Producer at the time of writing the main draft of this chapter I am appointed as a Career Agent with Physicians Mutual, Physicians Life and Physicians Mutual Select.  

Restricted Radiotelephone Operator; Federal Communications Commission, January 31, 1986

Lay Evangelist, Diocese of Lafayette, Commissioned August 10, 1980.

Scriptural Exegete, 1982, Scripture Ventures Program, East Asian Pastoral Institute.

Catechist, Diocese of Lafayette, Certified February 23, 1991.

Catechist, Diocese of Baton Rouge, Certified March 29, 1993.

 In 1976 we were leaving Augusta and  coming into the school year and I had no prospects of going to school. We were leaving Alleluia Community as the kids were going back to their varied schools. WE were getting on a bus and headed to visit Jim and Kathy. They were, among other things, far enough out in the country that I would not be in the view of any truant officers and my parents could avoid responsibility for not doing anything to secure any accredited or formal education for me in the next starting year. SInce Tonga Side School I had a bit of study on Clavert’s Correspondence Course without the actual correspondence and some study in an accredited school. ALthough our ratio of teachers with some education training to students may have been among the highest in the world at the Lord’s School it had not been a fully accredited institution.  l realized  (although I never really verified whether the realization was fact or rumor) that some families involved in the experimental school were hedging their bets in trusting  the experimental school.  I heard from seemingly reliable sources towards the end of my time there that the millionaires in the group of parents had an hour each day for their kids with an additional tutor to make sure their children’s education met state standards. It was still a good school I had no doubt but I was aware that there was a juncture in the coming fall, I was moving into a new period of being out of school. I felt that the world was a dangerous place for me whether I tried to go to school or whetherI stayed out of it. I simultaneously believed my parents were dangerously skidding off the social rails and that they were doing a beautiful and inspired thing for the glory of God. I was not sure that they would do it well or that I would live to be an adult. I did feel a desire to support and protect Sarah in her start in life. My parents seemed different from one another. Each had their saintliness and their darkside in my eyes.  It seemed to me that I could have honestly said they were bravely united in a holy adventure in a world that was in many ways a real mess and also that they were both struggling against each other’s best interest in destructive ways that I had to watch when I was with them so much. I could honestly say there was a beauty and richness in the life of travel, opportunism, ministry and family togetherness and that there was something dangerous and destructive about Dad not working for a living and me being out of school. 

My uncle Jim picked us up at the bus station. We were four people  and some luggage. My Dad had started receiving a small share of his family’s oil and gas money in monthly checks. He had the four of us to support and there was no way the small check could do that in the United States. Jim got the same size check. But he and Kathy both worked and although Jim’s career was not making him rich nor satisfying him entirely he and Dad were both graduates of Tulane Law School. Jim was doing legal research mostly and he and Kathy had the feeling of a little comfort in their lives. All of this was evident  in snippets of conversation. But we were happy to house sit for them. No rent for us and security without a deposit or paying anyone for them. But before house sitting, we would visit for a week. I really liked Jim and Kathy. Jim had broken my arm in horseplay when I was young and for that and many other reasons I was reluctant to fully trust him. However I did like them and admired their own irreligious efforts to find a new path forward in the world. They were the hippest people in our family. .They had at one time cared about environmentalism when I was serving at the altar boy in the Earth Day Bayou Blessing and was a budding ecologist. My mother had supported the first African American woman for Mayor of Abbeville and they seemed sympathetic. They had spent their own money and time  on travel and they seemed interested when I told them of places we had been over the years at family gatherings in my grandparents NewOrleans mansion. In our new statues as people not really dialed in to a path in the mainstream or anything else they seemed less  likely to be judgemental than some of our other relatives would have been. The home Jim and Kathy had was a small one and a half to two storey house on a decent sized piece of land the front of which was on a small  blacktop road and the rear of which was bounded by the Doyle River It was a small river that later in its course would flow through the Shenandoah National Park. The river has clear waters, smooth stone and pools and burbling falls a  few inches .when the water was lower. It was largely shaded with trees and shrubs from its banks. Dad and Jim had parents whose house in Abbeville had a bank of the bayou at its rear. My mother’s family had the same Vermilion RIver or Bayou flowing on a long side of their home properties just outside Abbeville. A house on a river seemed like a good place for all of us.  

Jim and Kathy had planted a garden full of vegetables that would mature during their absence. They had planted the garden not knowing that they would be leaving.I would tend the garden as best I could while we house sat and Dad and Mom did as well, but mostly we harvested the veggies.They were vital or we would not have had enough to eat. When there was bad weather we were truly isolated. Dad hitched into town to shop and I walked to the store a mile away for ingredients for cornbread mom taught me to make very well. Before Jim left, he showed me   and Dad some local plants like “lamb chops’ an edible green, Queen Anne’s lace a wild carrot species, hackberries and sassafras for tea. We also looked through the Foxfire books he had and he said I could refer to them. During our housesitting we are all these things and sometimes in moderate amounts. I also tried to make acorn flour which was inedible and I made snare for rabbits that caught none and weirs for catching fish that caught none. I longed for a fishing pole but we never got one. I touched a fish twice in the water but never caught one by hand as I tried to do. This was as close to living off the land as we had gotten so far and we were not doing very well. But we had enough transportation and money to get enough groceries to survive.

Alone in the upstairs room for hours, I would read the Old Testament stories in Kings and Chronicles and Judges over and over. I read every part of the story of King David. I also read through the Gospels for the second time. I also looked up every cross reference in my Bible for the stories about David, read all the psalms and read everything relevant to those stories in the Jerome Biblical Commentary and  Mckenzies DIctionary of the Bible

I began writing a journal for the first time and a sort of dream journal separately. On the one big trip we made we stayed with a family that had children with cystic fibrosis. We became friends, their parents were members of the Word of God Community. At some point Jim and Kathy and another brother, my uncle WIll and his girlfriend were with us in the small house. I also tried to jog for the first time. It was not a good time.  We made many memories. Mom retells the story of Dad praying a prayer of exorcism and seeing swarms of flies we had never seen around in any numbers coming out in response and then dying. She says we remembered the fact that Satan was called Beelzebub “Lord of the Flies”. I can attest that the facts of that story are substantially true. WHe also tells the story of a crazed man in a train station and how a mysterious black man appeared out of nowhere and rescued us and the young family of a soldier. The mysterious man drove us to a motel in his Cadillac and disappeared.  That was also a true story.

 I am not as involved in the world of mystical and miraculous observation as I was when I was 12. But I can never say that I never found anything there. Even America itself seemed tied to the hand of God in those days.     . 

We were not deeply engrossed in politics as we came into the Virginia countryside. But we did talk about politics as we had just left Georgia and were deeply committed and fervent Christians. Jimmy Carter, who had just been Governor of Georgia not long ago, was a vocal follower of Jesus Christ.  The huge smile of the man from Plains Georgia was caricatured and his lack of national connections appeared in the oft repeated question “Jimmy Who?”But since then he had won the nomination of the Democratic Party. Mom, Dad and I all remembered a couple of years earlier Ruth Carter Stapleton, Jimmy Carter’s sister, had spoken to the huge Catholic Charismatic Conference in Louisiana. “My brother feels like God is calling him to be President of the United States. Please pray for him and also remember that whatever God calls you to do he will give you the strength to do it.” That was a memorable sort of thing to hear. We did remember it and  I wondered if he was really going to be President.”So God calls President too.” I said to Jim, trying to explain how our family was functioning in this new spiritual path. WE had been at this converted state for a while but there was a lot we had not fully shared with Jim and Kathy. Over the years to come our family would visit them again, in college I would visit them a number of times and my other siblings would take their families to visit them. In all those years, they would live near or in Charlottesville, VIrginia. But they would have a number of living arrangements. The summer before our November 19, 2022 wedding, Clara and I spent one night with them in their home now in the building Jim had used as his  law office building for decades. This was a nice visit and we saw Jim in Louisiana at my Dad’s funeral in September of the same year and    in our home with some of his friends when he was visiting Louisiana last summer.  and then  

The memories of that visit blur together but it was a full and packed visit to be sure. It was a time Jim and Kathy brought us to see Monticello for the first time and to tour around Charlottesville. There was no massive internet based mapping infrastructure but the adults all determined  that there was no Catholic Church substantially closer to Browns Cove than St. Thomas Aquinas University Parish.  “Sure, I will drive you around  to see the Squatting Robot. That’s what I and my buddies called the Catholic Church on campus. It has this statue commissioned in the sixties that looks like it is made out of bumpers. Very much resembles a squatting robot.” We all laughed a bit nervously but when we saw the statue we thought the description seemed pretty reasonable. Jim and I had a conversation about St. Thomas Aquinas, Thomas Jefferson and about visions for human life found in the Declaration of Independence and the Summa Theologica. I talked to Jim about his time at UVa as well and wondered how I would get to college after the crazy circuitous route my education was taking.

But that visit with them for a week before they left on the trip for which we were housesitting was also a time for them to really see us as we had become. In my mother’s book Go You are Sent, in the chapter “Alleluia to Albemarle” on pages 207 to 208  she describes what we looked like from her point of view as it has survived a few edits over the years between her recording her memories and it being printed in 1995. This is how she remembers that we looked as we hitchhiked. After acknowledging that most people were not interested in stopping to give us a ride when we had to hitchhike from Browns Cove to Charlottesville”

“The Lord chose generous people. They had to have courage to make room in their car for a unique family, wearing crosses. Frank Dressed in Sears work clothes and sported a full beard. I carried four month old Sarah in a kangaroo-carry front pack., and, at that time, was still wearing the long dresses I had adopted in Tonga. Beau, a tow headed twelve- year-old dressed in old Levis was the only typical American in the group.”   

In no way is my account of these events authorized by my mother or Jim. But I will say that Jim has stated that one of the breakthroughs in his work as a lawyer in Charlottesville came from one of the lawyers who picked us up hitching rides to church and then took us to eat and relax at his home that had television, a game room and  other amenities. Somehow we became friends. WHen Jim and Kathy got back they also became friends and that connection led to greater opportunities in the legal community. In those days Mom, Dad and I all believed that we were called by God to our travels and therefore could believe he would bless those who housed us. I rarely think in those terms now, but Jim’s words about those who helped us as  hitchhikers came across in conversation sincerely on more than one occasion. That story made me feel that perhaps there was something to that blessing on those who housed the one’s traveling in God’s name.   .  .     .  .        

We would finally leave Browns Cove for good to go back to Abbeville and explore life in our town living among the more working class and poorer neighborhoods where we lived. I would go back to school at Mount Carmel Elementary School. I would end up back in my old class with the woman I am married to today. But although my grades would be OK we would travel in and out in the future and sometimes I would get picked up for truancy and other times we would leave in the middle of a grading period. How life went back home is another part of my story. 

Chapter Eleven of Online Memoir: Pecans, Prayers and Prophets

The big highlight of our worship and observance this Holy Week (the Week before Easter Sunday) was watching our parish pastor, Louis J. Richard wash the feet of my disabled oldest surviving brother – Simon Peter Emmanuel Summers. He has Prader-Wili Syndrome and was one of twelve parishioners whose feet were washed in the Holy Thursday evening Church service that especially commemorates Jesus’ institution of the Eucharist in the Last SUpper and other things he did that night including washing his disciples feet.  It was a wonderful ceremony streamed live and re-streamed on the Saint Mary Magdalen site. It was a special highlight in the holidays. On March 28, 2024 we celebrated the start of the Paschal Triduum of this Holy Season. The Triduum is the peak and summation of the Catholic liturgical year. The Triduum joins Lent and Easter. It is made up of the Holy Thursday  Mass which has readings from the Bible that focus on the first Eucharist at the Lord’s Supper that was the Last Supper. Then there is a ceremonial washing of the feet. In addition to this the rest of the Mass commemorates the events of Holy Thursday and the Last Supper all the time. Then the blessed bread thatCatholics call the Blessed Sacrament and believe fulfills Jesus’s words that “This is My Body” is at the center of every Mass, But in Holy Thursday’s Mass this Blessed Sacrament is marched from the Sacramental Altar that is at the center of every mass to a special altar of repose. The usual altar of the tabernacle and the sacramental altar are both stripped of all ornamentation and usual things of beauty until they are decorated again for Easter Vigil Mass on Holy Saturday Night. On March 29, 2024 Good Friday, Clara and I were attending Good Friday services at the Church. This was a very moving service contemplating the Passion, Crucifixion and Death of Jesus Christ. Then on returning back in the early evening we sat out on our patio and enjoyed the flowers, plants, birds and weather that mark the Spring.  The seasons of the year have a big impact on my life. They always have had an impact.

It was in the summer that we arrived in Augusta, Georgia in 1976. It was a time when it was a joy to swim, a time when kids were out of school and a time when we could get hot and uncomfortable easily but also when the Georgia heat and humidity were noticeably less hot and humid than the heat and humidity of South Louisiana. All of those factors impacted what our arrival among the people of Alleluia Community were like. We lived in transition in those days – but this transition happened joyfully, more or less..         

The arrival in Faith Village and the Alleluia Community was the arrival in pecan grove where a village had been built to house married servicemen in the Korean War. The military had sold the land and houses of the village and it had gone through a number of stages in demography and economics. A group of Christians from all denominations, the Charismatic Renewal and thePentecostal movement had come together and produced ecumenical prayer groups around the world. In some of them there was a call to live a more intense Christian community experience. Alleluia Community was one of those communities that formed in those days.  Alleluia Community had come to occupy Faith VIllage through the mechanism of some families buying clusters of homes and renting neighboring homes to community members,  while others rented from existing landlords and still others bought homes only for themselves to live in the voluntary association of the community had come to occupy most of the houses in the old military village.  FInally, though other clusters of people lived in other neighborhoods in the community and some in Faith Village just happened to live there the Community had its center in the village and the village was largely dominated by Alleluia Community life. Crosses or Christian symbols had been put up on many of the corners where one entered the village.In the center was a parklike space with playgrounds and a common fenced area for small kids. It also had large tires sunk in the ground. Prayer and worship was offered out in the open under the trees on a regular basis.  There was fellowship and worship shared by those who had chosen to be neighbors. Kids swarmed about playing and visiting. It was summer and school was out and the kids were of all ages.

We were invited to stay in the guest house for the residential community in Faith Village. It was called the Alleluia Retreat Center and generally the ARC (pronounced like arc in arc light or Noah’s Ark). The Covenant Community process ( Alleluia was among a good number forming at the time from among the most committed members of the larger prayer groups of the Charismatic Renewal and the Pentecostal Movements that were seeming to remake much of the life of the Christian churches in the United States and elsewhere. There was a lot of sharing and some inspiration form the first community described in  the Acts of the Apostles which tells of the lives of the first Critians after Pentecost, who held all things in common,  devoted themselves to the Breaking of the Bread and the Prayers  and submitted themselves to Apostolic Authority. However, although all of these communities were inspired by that first Jerusalem community  – these communities practiced subsidiarity more that those first Christans (by the way the other Christian communities planted across the world by the Apostles never replicated that first way of life either. And that is evident even in the EPistles of the New Testament) . This subsidiarity meant that they were  believers that the  economic and social responsibility rested first with the individual, then with the family and then with Covenant Community. Private Property was respected. However in Alleluia there was more apparent economic equality than in many other communities because the houses built by the military in the  Korean War were virtually identical. People decorated, renovated and even added on to these homes  – but basically everyone in Faith VIllage lived in the same kid of house.

The other thing that distinguished these communities was that most of them had definite lay leadership. Few had Catholic Priests among the leaders called “Coordinators” Where a Protestant Ordained minister became a coordinator they were carefully made to separate the two roles. Eventually  most of the Covenant Communities would confederate into  either the Sword of the Spirit  or the Fellowship of the Covenant Communities. But in 1976 it was not clear where this adventure was headed. It was clear that their way of life was extraordinary in many ways.  For me it was not hard to see that the life of this community had a great deal  to offer. Among many other things, I found it joyful to lose myself in worship. But I noticed that few of the kids my age were as enthusiastic as I was about the shared prayer.  Many were more devout than most kids I knew but in the communities of the poor and those who ministered   to the poor in El Paso it seemed like there was more enthusiasm for the faith. In the villages in Tonga, children generally seemed closer to their parents in involvement in choirs and such things. Among my irreligious friends in various places the lack of religion was much the same for children and  adults. Here I sensed that there was a working out of the way to bring the next generation into the connections their parents had made. But the transgenerational process was  not yet settled. In 1981 the community members would all contribute funds to purchase the Fleming School on nearby Peach Orchard  Road. It was on 11 acres of land and had three school buildings and a gymnasium. At the time it was being renovated I would end up spending a few days there helping to demolish some of the worst maintained internal structures so that they could be replaced. But when we were there in 1976 we were to help renovate and repair other structures but there was no community school. The children lived with a real tension between the values and way of life in Alleluia Community and the values and way of life in the schools that they attended.   It was summer and I was not truant but I was starting to feel like I was becoming someone who did not really have any chance of finding a home  in a school. But although I really did think about all of these things, I was also happy to mingle with a bunch of good Christian kids. Some of whom had problems that I could relate to as well.

I had “visions” at prayer meetings and  mass in those days. Not simply imaginative prayers and also not full on hallucinations or apparitions but rather a kind of visual insight in prayer that was practiced in the Charismatic renewal. I also spoke with several adults who were acknowledged to have a gift of prophecy. I did believe God was speaking to me and what I meant is hard to describe.what that meant but I will work on it and harder topics over the course of the rest of this book. While we  were at Alleluia Community I pulled out a notebook from my family’s meager possessions. I am not sure the exact type of paper or other aspects of the physical notebook. I can still see, in my mind’s eyes, the content of the notebook in the form of writings and drawing. I can see the  pages and the shape the document took now.  There were brief bullet points without the bullets, paragraphs and references.  

 But I remembered when it had been created. My father had a very long vision, before we left for the missions. The Vision is described in the  twelfth chapter of Mom’s book Go You Are Sent: An Incredible Odyssey of Faith  is called (appropriately enough) “The Vision”. On pages 122 to 123 of the 1995 edition of the book the vision is described. I had looked at it then and I looked at it before shortly after it was created. There were little things in it that seemed to me to have been fulfilled in our lives and other prophecies as well from those times when Dad had the vision. Some people in Alleluia were  certainly drawn to our intense family spirituality. But the truth is that as I slipped the book back that day I was aware that there were prophecies in it about me and that I saw the meaning of those prophecies differently than my father did. In the vision there was a segment where he saw me as a human boy, as a sort of icon or even a doll and as a kind of gloriously resurrected figure. I worried about the way he found it easy  to accept it might mean me dying and going to heaven as a child in our first years of mission. But I also felt that in fact it resembled an experience I had had a number of times in which I fell asleep and viewed my sleeping body  below me in the night and moved out into other realms as a glowing figure. 

I was to experience these strange dreams several times during the month we lived in Alleluia. But I did not share those dreams. A great deal of what I talked about was the  trips we made to Fort Gordon. I loved swimming there. I loved swimming anywhere. We had a system where we gathered rocks as we swam out to a big floating platform in a deeper part of one of the lakes. Then we stacked the rocks on the platform. The rocks were big and heavy enough that when we had filled our lungs and dived off the platform they would speed our way down to the depths of the dark lake and  slightly muddy waters. We would then swim round in the depths and on the way up use the chain from the permanent anchor to the platform. We could see well as we got close and would push off from the chain to get near the edge and pull ourselves up. Some of the boys joined or were on the crews where Dad and I often worked together on renovation projects. However we also played together  on the equipment. I had broken bones, been X-rayed and in casts. I had lots of other injuries. I knew the difference. We were playing King of the mOuntain on the big tractor tires and I fell off and heard a snap and felt a very distinct pain. Several kids commented on the snapping sound. I was helped to a Coordinators house and there was examined by several people with some medical training who thought It was broken ,  I was in agonizing pain and just in a broken arm kind of way. Others had prayed for me. But when my Dad arrived he prayed for me and anointed me with oil and I was instantly free of pain. I sensed that nobody could fully relate to the experience that I had known. Sme who had been sure they had heard and seen evidence of a broken arm were enow wondering if I was putting on some kind of show. Others just figured I had made a mistake in reporting my pain. Those who believed it was a miracle still found it hard to relate to me. 

We had not employment there for funds. We visited friends who had a ministry in a nearby town in South Carolina. But nothing was settled. We had been in touch  with Dad’s brother Jim and his wife Kathy who lived in VIrginia. They invited us to housesit after visiting them for a while. We began to discuss and pray about that  and soon it seemed the best next step for all of us. Although the school year was approaching and we had no plans for that..  

Alleluia was not ready for a full time missionary family in membership and wanted Dad to go back to practicing law as he discerned some kind of mission aspect of community involvement  in the future. The coordinators were willing for us to stay as part of the community but as prophetic outsiders. My first cousin Jennifer was born to my mother’s only sister Rachel while we were still there in August. Rachel  had many health problems and the baby girl born in August had serious lung problems. We all prayed for her and she made what some in the medical community thought was miraculous progress. But that was not as strange as what had happened with my arm. When I left Alleluia my mind was full of experiences but I felt lonelier than before. .

Chapter Ten of Online Memoir: Brother to a Princess of Flowers

In EL Paso there were people who taught Mom lessons in natural childbirth, people who sewed her maternity clothes that represented her ideals in wearing the clothes she had adopted in Tonga and also were practical and American in other ways. They also gave her a book on natural childbirth, which she read. Mom was eager to practice natural childbirth, to breastfeed and to be a devoted mother to her new child in a very different way than she had been mothered or she had mothered me.   There was a sense that she was  caught up in the plan of God.  

In my mother’s book Go You Are Sent: An Incredible Odyssey of Faith there are many layers in a book I saw her create over many years with careful notes and remembered stories and various drafts. Sometimes she set it aside for years at a time. In time she hired people to help coordinate and edit various drafts. Then it was published and the publisher also edited it. In some ways the book continued to improve, but in other ways it developed a flaw or two. This is evident in the same chapter I have recently quoted, “Navajos to La Cueva”. In that chapter she recounts our arrival in El Paso. 

“Father RIck came to pick us up at the Bus station.His eyes twinkled as he and Frank tossed out Tongan mat into the back of the truck. Here was an attorney turned missionary, his expectant wife, a twelve year old son arriving on a bus, with our few belongings wrapped in a Tongan mat.( Summers 383).”

The point here is that I was born on June 15, 1964. Sarah was born on May 18, 1976. The oldest I could have been when we arrived in El Paso was 11 years old. I was still no older than eleven when we got back to Abbeville and still eleven when Sarah was born. The coming back to Abbeville was marked with joy at the idea of my baby sibling being welcomed into the extended family and also the idea of reuniting with others in that same extended family. But the trip home was not really simple at all, we had left the land and life for a long term missionary life and that time had not been so long. We were returning with no home, Dad did not have a job and Mom was pregnant and pretty far along. It became clearer that it was a time of some confusion for everyone involved as to how we  would fit in at home. I remember my grandparents and aunts and uncles trying to ask me about what my parents intended as they never had before. The school year was almost over. I visited Mount Carmel Elementary School and spent a day or so there without enrolling. I am not sure why or if I was looking at enrolling there in the fall. One person I actually spoke with was my wife today Clara Duhon. It was a pretty good time with some people in the class and others at the school.I had not yet developed the deep sense of unease that was coming. There was some sense of excitement about hearing about my travels and our missionary life. There was also an excitement about our family welcoming a new baby. That is something a few people have reminded me about over the years. “You were so excited to have a new brother or sister coming.” 

At first we stayed with one set of grandparents or another. But then we settled into a garage apartment no longer being rented by Mama Esther, my  Dad’s paternal grandmother. The garage was  the garage for her house and though the lawns and gardens were a bit run down and there was no car in the garage it still had a certain charm and the windows of the apartment were alternately hidden amidst the branches of trees and shrubs or else had views of a nice neighborhood. It was not an air conditioned house. My mother’s sister Rachel and her brother Brucewere each having their second children. The Gremillions called the three first cousins born that year of 1976 The Bicentennial Bunch. Her mother and the womenfolk in her family had fewer baby things to circulate her way than any other year. But a friend gave her a beautiful bassinet and my Dad’s first cousin Laura Lucia Massey gave her a huge box of fine and expensive baby girl clothes, although nobody knew Sarah’s gender. When the baby came I was staying with my grandparents. Mom and Dad went to the hospital, I and others got the news together or separately. I met them there by the night she was born. Mom had to leave her in the hospital with jaundice on Thursday and fight to keep her milk because she could not breastfeed.  But Friday she was able to take the baby back to the apartment. ALong with Sarah’s birth my parents also became more involved in ministry. We also thought we would return to ElL Paso and heard lots of things from them encouraging us and expressing their encouragement from the start.   

 My father, PauPau, came up with the  research about her name. Sarah came from the Hebrew for “Princess”, and Anthea came from a root that meant “of flowers”. The baby to be welcomed in the beautiful bassinet and dressed in very expensive hand-me-down baby clothes was to be called the Princess of Flowers. Mom tells of her struggle to breastfeed. I remember for years she supported the La Leche League and other organizations supporting more breastfeeding in the world that had turned to the bottle.  

I was glad as the little apartment took shape. I spent time with Mama Esther, trying to support my family’s free stay in her apartment by cleaning up the yard, helping her with small errands and clearing out closets and pantries. She was happy to give us old fruit preserves she had canned and things she baked. I would run a few errands to the store. We didn’t has a bike for me or a car for my parents and I was truant for a couple of weeks, we had no TV or air conditioning. WIthout the   acreage of farm and wilderness around us I just felt poor and although we prayed a great deal we seemed to have less of a focus on God’s work than before. The days stretched out before us and we saw the coming of the baby as a new era. 

Right across the street from Mama Esther’s house was my Dad’s Uncle Clay – also known as Uncle ‘Tit (pronounced Tee and meaning little Clay). He was the tough and colorful great uncle who had given me my first gun. He was a difficult man and was not sure we were not taking too many good things out of his mother’s pantry on the one hand. On the other hand he appreciated me picking up trash from under the house and outbuildings, cleaning a birdbath, tidying a  closet or two. He gave me few dollars after a while to do odd jobs and he was somehow able to track down a savings account passbook I had lost. I was able to draw out  a few dollars and buy a few other things for our house.  When school was out, I could walk to the library downtown and read and I did that a good number of times, occasionally seeing other kids I knew and finding a growing distance between us. Over the years I would come back to that place many times.

While there I also met a group of men who occasionally called on Uncle Clay. They had interest in the girl who had grown up in his home, this was the  daughter of Dudley Leblanc Jr., (our Cousin Odile), in my father and grandfather, in Odile’s grandfather and in me. One or two of them tried to teach me some basic Cajun French and I tried to check on the words with Mama Esther. They also told me of how Dudley Leblanc Senior had written books on the Cajun people and their history and was President of the Association of Louisiana Acadians but reminded me that there were other traditions and organizations in which our family were involved that went much further back in time and still mattered to an ever shrinking number  people – but still mattered. 

Under Mama Esther’s magnolia tree they had  talked to me before and after Sarah’s birthin the evening hours a few times and planted seeds that were meant to grow in my mind over time. They did take root  and grow. We walked to Church as a family when Mom was big and pregnant. and we prayed and corresponded with the community in ElL Paso. Overall, I was busy enough but I began to spend long hours just thinking and praying alone and worrying about the future. But I was still very eager to meet my little brother or sister when they came.  But after the baby came, our home in La Cueva was occupied by others, there was no paying ministry or systemic support  and few gifts. Dad began to mow pastures on the family farm charging what anyone else would charge but making less because he had to use tractors and mowers he did not own. I went with him a few times. But I remember being troubled whe the huge machines cut up a rabbit or even a mouse in the big fields. Killing for food was one thing but that was something else. We were really poor and I did what I could to care for Sarah and support my parents and field questions about why Dad did not go back to practicing law. The baby thrived but was a bit collicky. There were periods when only I could stop her crying, that made me feel special. 

Many people had a kind of respect for some part of our lives. Some respected Mom breastfeeding when few did, Some respected our stories and mementoes of work in the missions. Some respected the teaching and preaching my parents got to do in marriage prep courses. But what nobody did was feel called to organize support for us in the way that many in ministry were supported. For me there was a sense of anxiety about how our lives would turn out if we had given up what we had once been and did not find our path back into the life in which we were called. Eventually, Dad ran out of pastures to mow and we still had no clear plans. I had run out of most of the little one time jobs I had been doing. The school year was approaching.    

We went to spend some time in the mansion where my Dad’s parents lived in New Orleans and Sarah cried almost incessantly. We watched the magnificent displays of the fourth of July bicentennial fireworks in New York and Washington D.C. on the television with my Grandparents and it was pretty memorable. I remember wondering what it would be like to find a new way of life for ourselves in America.  But although my grandfather hoped Dad might clerk for him on the Supreme Court of Louisiana that did not happen. We got the news  that one of the feelers Dad had put out to an exciting group of American Christians influenced by spiritual experiences similar to our own. They were living a passion for Christian Renewal. FInally the invitation came for us to got there and we set out to do so. 

I am not sure how long we where in New Orleans but the days were long because of Sarah’s constant wailing. I put her to sleep more successfully than the badly stressed adults many times but also failed many times to comfort her. Sarah’s colic never really let up until we arrived in Alleluia Community in Faith VIllage in Augusta, Georgia. Dad had corresponded with them and we had been invited to go and see the way they lived the renewal and the gospel in community. The people who had been our last bridge back to El Paso had been unable to accept us due to one of them having a sudden heart attack.I think for me as we waited to make our next move I was deeply conflicted. I wanted to be a great missionary saint, I wanted to be a good brother and son. I wanted to be able to fit in and I wanted to write. But I also wanted to be true to my own personal and family history and heritage. .

Chapter Nine of Online Memoir: Over the Border in Many Ways

Today is Palm Sunday and it follows on an election day. Those are both things more readily understood than stories about miracles and personal revelations of God to a family seeking to find a path to Holiness and effectively bringing the Kingdom of God into new parts of the modern world. In El Paso in the ministry with Father Rick there was a new level of hearing God speak to people in person prayer, interpretation of Sacred Scripture and in signs and wonders. But all of this went on as we came in from a life spent praying for healing and having testimonies of people that they were healed quicker than ever before with their medical treatments or before they could seek medical intervention. People who had been enslaved by alcohol, drugs, and other addictions found in faith in Jesus, life in the church and personal and shared prayer dramatic freedom and restored jobs and marriages. People who had been trapped in bitterness and despair found in the Bible as the Word of God a map for hope that gave them joy. Prayer groups founded in the Charismatic renewal in the Catholic Church and the Pentecostal movement in Protestant churches often established soup kitchens, clinics, missions to very distressed communities and lots of other things that could be called both Charity and Social. Minor and major miracles were reported and written about by many in and around those movements.  But  in our journey to El Paso at that time there was another level both of intensity in ministry and in the number of reports that were circulating about the miracles that came with following the gospel of Christ and the move of the Holy Spirit in our times..    . 

Yesterday, Saturday, March 23, 2024, there was a Commissioning Mass for a class of intake members  from Family Missions Company. That is the outgrowth of the ministry that brought us to El Paso and flowed from El Paso. Today, Mome took Clara and I to eat lunch at a nice restaurant in Abbeville. Clara and I took a little time out to try to rescue a well groomed dog which had gotten loose and appeared to be in distress. Mom also told us how beautiful the Mass was and how moved she was by all of it. She talked about remembering the early days of the ministry. “I really wished you, Beau and Clara would have been there because I knew that at least Beau would have remembered the beginning of all of this.”

“What you all did was a lot. In terms of lifetime achievement it ranks pretty high in my book.” Clara said.

“But I don’t think of that in my life day to day. “ My mother answered, “But I know it’s true.”

“You don’t rest on your laurels.” Clara volunteered.

“I don’t think of laurels. “ Mom replied.

So yesterday there was a celebration of a company where one can still freely discuss supernatural experiences and I was not there. Clara and I were each involved in doing more mundane things. This story is  that I am writing is a narrative of mundane and ordinary things as well as personal secrets. Then it is also a story with some parts that fall outside the purview of normal events and into the realm of events that require some kind of extraordinary response. 

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The Crest of the Carmelite Order which operated the Mount Carmel Elementary School I attended.

I am writing a memoir in which I will ask a theoretical reader to really view with their mind’s eye, understand to the limits of their experience and intelligence and empathize to the edges of their compassion with some extraordinary experiences the theoretical reader would normally dismiss. But I am writing not from the heights of success with great incomes, security and property. I am also not writing from a homeless shelter or a prison.my life is in many ways caught up in the flow of normal mainstream things. It is Palm Sunday, March 24, 2024. Like many millions of Cristians I am remembering the entry of Jesus into Jerusalem amid the cheers and acclimation of the crowd. My wife and I woke up later for us and I made coffee and a bigger than average breakfast. She went to pick up our dogs Abbey and Bella from the dogsitters – who are also our friends. We slept in late for  and were very tired when we went to bed after working as commissioners at two different precincts in an election for the Louisiana Republican and Democrat  Party Presidential Primaries. We also had a parishwide Parcel Fee referendum. The turnout for the Republican Primary in Vermilion Parish was 18.7% of registered voters and 94% voted for Donald Trump.   The other item on the ballot across the entire parish was  parishwide parcel fee proposition to fund the Vermilion Economic Development Alliance, the turnout for that  was 12.4% of registered voters and 91% of those who voted in the election in our parish voted down the proposal. The turnout for the Democrat Primary had a turnout of 8.4% of registered Democrat voters and 63% voted for Joseph Biden. It is also a fact that almost three times as many voters voted in the Republican Primary. Non party voters can vote in most of Louisiana primaries – that are held in an open primary or jungle primary format. The primary elections become full elections if someone get more than fifty percent of the vote. If not then top two finishers will engage in a runoff. With two options one is bound to have more than half the votes. If there is a tie (as happens in small town and village elections sometimes) then they run again. However,  every four years for the presidential primaries, we have closed primaries. Then voters can only vote for their own party and are blocked out of the other party primaries. Governor Jeff Landry has declared his intentions to seek more closed partisan primaries and fewer jungle primaries.  It is notable that Jeff Landry running for Governor from his position as a Republican Attorney General beat a field of twelve outright in the jungle primary for Governor and was immediately elected with more than 50% of the vote in that first election. There was no runoff.          

The Wednesday March 20,2024 issue of the Abbeville Meridional came in the mail instead of being delivered by the newspapers own delivery systemI am still getting used to this being the way that I get my hometown newspaper in the mail. I am also getting used to only getting two copies a week instead of five. I have been covered in the newspaper and had my byline in it many times and it is one more milestone of a life moving into unfamiliar territory as I age. This goes with the theme of having applied for disability as I began  writing this online memoir. It is also a fact that there is a very long obituary for James Alexander RIch on page two. I worked for Jim as a sales manager at his company, Catfish Wholesale in the early nineties. We had some success together in those months and not only in sales, we also had a successful buying trip to the Yucatan Peninsula in Mexico. Jim’s life of adventure, SCUBA diving, piloting airplanes and his passion for hunting and fishing are recounted. But so are the struggles and ups and downs of his life. He died on February 17, 2024 but I did not find out about it until I read the newspaper’s long obituary. I haven’t kept in touch with Jim and I will be missing his funeral on Saturday March 23, 2024 to serve as an election commissioner in the election that includes the Louisiana Presidential Primaries and the parish wide election to determine if a parcel fee on properties will be assessed to support the Vermilion Economic Development Alliance. This will hopefully support the prosperity of the civil parish in which I live. 

I like my life well enough to feel something good about it as I recount this version of my life’s events. I am also aware that I have not created a record that will appear to demand a very impressive set of obituaries. My Dad had a huge funeral and my grandfather, Frank Summers the first, had many impressive obituaries and reports in the media. My life appears fairly small and getting smaller at the moment. This chapter is in part an analysis of how the life I lived has conspired to place me where I am. So, before getting to my time in El Paso, I will discuss a little more of my life as it is just now. What I am now is largely a creature of compromises and a a union of what is left over from various adventures. I had tried to be more for my new wife, aiming at relatively modest kinds of success. But I am probably drifting back into a place of not really making things work very well.         .        

It is the Lent of 2024 and the last Friday before Good Friday as I write the main draft of this chapter. There are no deadlines for this manuscript as it may never be read anyway. However, there are deadlines in my life I am taking my turn at getting supper on, that is more common now as I am now unemployed. This morning Clara and I went to Walmart to pick up an order of groceries in the parking lot pick up section. The land had lots of standing water. The rain that had brought the water had the dogs that share our lives with us a few times during the night. It was a pretty powerful thunderstorm. We had already shared coffee and I had the bowl of cereal that was my breakfast before we went to pick up the groceries. I put the groceries into refrigerator and pantry while CLara changed into athletic gear. I simply picked up my gym bag and used the shower and lockers at our club. Then we went to the Healthworks club near where we live. Today I swam and Clara worked out in the gym section of the club. Then I took our recycling to the dump and went to donate plasma at the older of the two plasma centers in Lafayette. On the way there I received news of where I will be serving as Election Commissioner tomorrow. The ride back saw me stop to buy tickets for tonight’s Mega Millions and tomorrow’s  PowerBall drawings. Clara had lunch ready when I got home and we enjoyed a good meatless meal in accordance with Catholic practices during the Fridays of Lent. Shortly afterwards we took a nap.Clara is preparing the dogs to stay over with our dogsitter as we work tomorrow. It is not a very thrilling sort of day to recount.       

My mother’s chapter from Go You are Sent: An Incredible Odyssey of Faith. quoted in my last chapter is the same chapter that covers our time in the El Paso area. That chapter is called “Navajos to La Cueva”. She discusses the move to El Paso in a continuity with our time in the mountains of  New Mexico. 

“We were led in prayer to write Father Rick Thomas, S.J. at Our Lady’s Youth Center in El Paso, Texas. Another thing God taught us in those early years, is that Jesus, the Lord of all the Earth, is also the Lord of the mail. We didn’t expect to get a quick response from Father RIck. We knew he had a pretty demanding apostolate to the poor.

He had preached a Day of Renewal in New Orleans in 1974 (my note: just days or weeks before we left for Tonga.)  There he boldly proclaimed that, “Just tithing doesn’t fulfill the Christian’s obligation, as it did in the Old Testament. A Christian Is expected to give everything” (Summers, 182).

It is important to realize that the first book written about this ministry that I became aware of was called Miracles in El Paso.  A miraculous multiplication of the food in a Christmas dinner served to the poor in a dump was at the center of the living memory of the community. Prayers for healing that had been answered when there was little hop were common memories of many. Such stories were common enough in the days of the large and expanding Catholic Charismatic Renewal. If there were many readers for this text I realize that many of them would not believe in miracles.I realize that some dismiss any story of a miracle as simple deceit. My mother’s autobiographical books have miracles in them and so does her earlier play; A Sort of Miracle in Loreauville. But what I think about in terms of her reliability is that she made a living as a journalist in a small community where people had many ways to affirm or deny the facts and conclusions that she published in the local paper. A more recent book about Father RIck, A Poor Priest for the Poor describes in detail with documentation how another family was the first family at a ministry called La Cueva. That is a bald-faced lie because we were the first family assigned to that ministry. Life is crap and sources are unreliable but it is not a simple matter of eliminating reports of events we don’t understand.       

My next chapter in my life story relates to Mexico and Miracles most of all.  It relates to some other things as well. There are many other connections as well that include thoughts about borders, boundaries and poverty. But to understand how I related to these times in my life it is necessary to map out something of who I am. I am aware that the chances I take are not those which everyone else would always understand.  I am aware that there are many reasons why I am writing this memoir without compensation or a readership of any significance. However, it is important that I describe the way that I live my life in terms that have some kind of lucidity.  I have in my waste paper basket,  a set of three Powerball tickets for Wednesday,  March  20th drawing. The jackpot is $687,000,000 in annuity or $327,300,000. In cash. Those are $9.00 in real money (it would be $6.00 but I got the powerplay option that multiplies the prize short of the jackpot. I used $4.00 won from matching Mega Ball in the inflated Mega Millions drawing for  the last Tuesday drawing. I will be buying tickets for the Mega Millions drawing tomorrow. It is not about the fact that there will be a likely reward, the odds are terrible. But when the jackpot of the two largest lotteries is over $250,000,000 I really am pretty committed to buying tickets. This is an opportunity that my society offers me to potentially solve many of my problems. Although the odds are worse than 250,000,000 to one they seem pretty good compared to the rest of my life experience. In the process of playing this long odds game I sometimes win 4 or 8 or 24 dollars. I rarely gamble as much in a year as I do on this very constrained gambling on these large lotteries. I have been buying a ticket that I split with my mother every time the jackpot is over $250,000,000 and when I  am at the drawing in the country and able to buy  the tickets – i have been doing this  for decades. In addition I usually buy an additional two for my wife and I only (or in the past for many single years, two more tickets for myself). . I am less fanatical about the Mega Millions. The odds are long, but if I were to win something big, even a million dollars, then it would be enough to rewrite a good bit of my life story going forward.  

The life I live has been tied to very long odds, to very unlikely events. It is a very negative perspective on life much of the time – but some of the wins along life’s road have been pretty amazing. What remains of my life may not be very appealing  if I am not able to earn a living but I am not unaware that my life has had some high notes to balance out some of the lows.  

As I wrote part of the  this draft of this chapter at 7:15 on Thursday March 21, 2024  I was back in a familiar space of relative lostness. I had  scheduled a meeting on Zoom at 5:00 that I organized for and which I set aside time for – because it mattered and because the people I was approached by the people I almost met  with. I was hoping that the outcome, which was a very significant compromise from my plan A, B and C for the day and the time.I actually set aside for meeting with them. But they did not respond to the Zoom meeting. I will try again tomorrow, but it is a bad sign and not an unusual one in my life. My wife is out at a meeting and I am missing my window to get to the gym and/or pool where I work out on a regular basis  –but I know that this day was just one of many in my life that are similar. I woke in the morning, made coffee for Clara and I, then I went to the dump and dropped off our recycling to the various bins. Then I went to the plasma center where I donated 892 milliliters of plasma and was compensated $50. On the way home, I shopped and made us both lunch. After lunch Clara and I napped together and then we woke up to an alarm on Alexa,  mostly so I could take the meeting that did not happen. The meeting had not been easy to get excited about but it was still depressing to have it disappear.   . 

When we left for Tonga we had sold a car and let go of the camp that my Dad’s family sort of owned together. Giving up the life of a  family where my Dad was a lawyer married to a small town journalist and paid case manager for a poverty assistance program as well as a playwright in my mother. For me there was the kid who had traveled a lot and attended our small town Catholic School. For me it was not at all clear that I would feel safe again in my hometown and I was never someone who felt very safe.  

As the days passed and we were planning to leave the Navajoland missions, I was praying with Mom and Dad about where we would be going. I had mixed feelings, part of me wanted to go back to Abbeville and see my relatives, especially my grandparents. But on the other hand, It seemed like it would be great if we could establish ourselves in some kind of ministry and basic sense of community and residence somewhere – and then possibly go back home for my mother to give birth to my new sibling. It would be wonderful for Sarah (or whoever the baby was going to be) to be welcomed into our extended family and community there. But I sensed even then that there was not  a way to know exactly what going home would be like. Furthermore, we would not be taking a break for the baby to be born if we did not have a big enough connection to any place for us to go back to after the baby was old enough to travel. I was processing all of this  even while I was sincerely praying and seeking to practice a kind of mysticism that seemed to be vitally connected to my whole life.   

The time we spent in El Paso with Father RIck Thomas started with him meeting us at the bus station. We were dressed in a mix of tropical and New Mexico clothes. My father was an attorney turned missionary and my mother was visibly pregnant now, though not really showing a big bump. Everything we had with us was wrapped in a large bundle in a Tongan mat. It was all that there was of luggage. I rode in the back of Father Rick’s pickup truck with the dog and the possessions in the Tongan mat. The dog was named Fe, the Spanish word for Faith. We spent the first night in a nice place, a Jesuit house which I believe was on Altura Avenue. My room was in the basement with a substantial library. I read a good number of books written by Jesuit priests for teenage boys at their high schools. That was my first introduction to Jesuit spirituality. During our first days there we involved ourselves in a number of ministries including the ministry to the Dump where the miraculous Christmas DInner had occurred. We saw the Lord’s Ranch, a booming and growing ministry of prayer, sanctified work, growing food for the poor and caring for animals. They were developing a fish pond the fish in  that pond interested me. But I never fished in that pond or anywhere else while I was there.

It was during that early time that we met some of the families and some of the consecrated religious that were involved in the ministry of Our Lady’s Youth Center. Bowie  High School was a major focus of the ministry of Our Lady’s Youth Center. The focus of the ministry there was in a new building, that ministry was called la “Cueva del Oso”. The “Cave of the Bear” in Spanish. The ministry was focused on the students at Bowie High School.  Bowie Bears were the teams and the student population was largely Hispanic. Our family would move in and work with the kids and their families in a number of ways. We would also try to connect the young people with the ministries in El Paso and the Mexican city of Juarez just across the border. I made some friends among the older kids and a few of those relationships with those kids kept going for a long time. One remained my friend for decades although we were not in continuous connection over the years.

Meanwhile I went with Dad to the Lord’s Ranch, The Lords’ Food Bank, The Lord’s Clinic and prayer and classes at the Our Lady’s Youth Center. I soaked up what I could and read a lot and watched Mom setting up the logisitcs of the La Cueva ministry.. While this was going on I was not in school and was interacting with students in school in a school ministry. I was a middle schooler and they were high school kids. My last time in a formal school was in fifth grade. The world was a complex place and everywhere I had been I had learned something. Among other things, I had learned that in EL Paso a dust storm could plow in under  a rain storm and drops of mud could fall from the sky onto anything below. I understand that this is fairly rare, but it happened twice in our time there.

We had no been there very long before a new school was organized. It was called The Lord’s School. We started with prayer and bible study every day..We did volunteer work with a ministry in the complex of ministries for a few hours each week. We went on one major field trip every week in which the teachers might teach or an expert might be included for that particular outing.

We had about three hours a day where we worked from math workbooks, literary readers,and social studies work books under the guidance of trained and certified teachers who had retired. Several parents had some background in education but had not taught for a long time. My parents had a hard time supporting my efforts to fit in at the school but overall I was pretty happy there. I am not sure. I enjoyed the company of the guys in our group of twenty kids from upper elementary through high school. One family were part of major clothing dynast and had huge amounts of money, Another family was poor and underprivileged. I was attracted to at least one of the girls in our little school and wondered what the future might be like with those kids in this new kind of school.

About our fourth field trip was just after we had been told we would start developing  food plots and food preservation systems on the Lord’s Ranch. We went out on a field trip to some of the wilder and more natural desert that we could reach. On the field trip we all did listen to talks about dry land ecology and the biology of desert plants. “In Tonga Side School, I used to go on field trips around the school and gather samples of the local plants and so forth. Everybody did and then we would measure and discuss them and look them up in books.” That was what I said when we all discussed our vision of the trip.

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Then we read Bible passages about the desert and discussed them. Later we hiked up a hill and I raced several of the kids to the bottom of the hill. I lost control and ran into a Spanish Dagger plant that sunk a three inch needle of a thorn into my knee and broke off. I would limp, bleed, swell and get sick with infection and despite prayers it would take two times for a doctor to remove the entire splinter thorn. I missed some school and limped on the first field grip when I came back. Then before I knew it we were leaving to go home for Sarah’s birth. However, it did not seem like we would be coming back to the La Cueva ministry. We had seen close up large numbers of people volunteering many hours in the ministries of the renewal that we all believed in and we were hoping that we would live out our lives in dynamic and energetic ministry. There was a lot of talk there about avoiding social injustice, creating opportunity and hope for the poor. The Dump had been controlled by violent gangs of super poor people hurting each other. Not long before we had got there the factions had made an agreement to accept aid but also to work with the ministry to coop the sale of recycled products and some more profits and better working conditions were emerging. I myself worked on creating better shelters, water systems and transit in the town of trash. Burning toxic trash pits we still used but less and they were better managed. I was reminded of my own little business recycling soft drink bottles.  

Ernest and Esther were the couple who took over La Cueva and we were packing up as they were settling in and we were headed back towards Louisiana for the birth of my coming sibling. We took a train which I thought was much more comfortable than a bus. The Amtrak train on the bicentennial year as the Independence Day of July 4, 1776 was drawing near seemed very much an American way to travel. Mom was big and pregnant and we were going home. It was exciting and scary and we still believed we would be working with Our Lady’s Youth Center Ministries in Juarez in a few months. I might be in the Lord’s School in August. I loved the view of Javalina and deer from the windows and the chance to eat a meal in the dining car and stretch my legs on the train. I have loved trains ever since. I knew some words and songs in Tongan, Samoan and Spanish and I hoped that we would be able to find a good way to be in our hometown. I also was excited to meet my new baby brother or sister. But I was also aware that life would be complicated and wondered what the future would be like when school started in the fall if we were not back in EL Paso and I was not in the Lord’s School. I felt like going back to Mount Carmel elementary would be tough. I liked some kids pretty well. Among the kids I liked and respected was a girl named Clara Duhon. What I felt about the kids I spent time with were relationships I expected to be troubled. I had never really thrived there and the years had gotten less positive..

Chapter Eight of Online Memoir: Starry Skies above the Land of Enchantment

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When I think back on the brief time in New Mexico I think back on the relatively few days and hours I spent in Hogans and ruins and traditional compounds. I think of the native jewelry in silver and turquoise and the two items I managed to buy and keep for a number of years. I also think of weavings and the Ojo de Dios objects which combined weaving and a woodwork design in geometric shapes. Ojo de DIos was a Spanish phrase, not a Navajo word. I didn’t speak Spanish at that time. I also remember the variety of license plates I saw from various Native AMerican or Indian Nations and the  ones that said New Mexico “Land of Enchantment.” I remember the skies in the dry clear mountain air far from city light pollution that could be so full of stars. I remember talking to my friends the Bordelons about the skies in  Tonga that had different stars which included parts of what was the Southern sky including the Southern Cross  of the flags New Zealand and Australia and parts of the sky that were part of the northern sky that were slightly visible in the North. I explained how it had been a non event when we crossed the equator in almost every way but still it was different. It was about half as far South of the equator as New Zealand, the last place I would live in the Southern Hemisphere. But it had great sky views in those days and I think it still does. So did New Mexico.

I cannot look back on the time in New Mexico after leaving  American Samoa without thinking about all it has come to mean to me since then. That includes the time I spent in Las Cruces when we lived in El Paso Texas and it includes talking to a friend I made even later in life who was from Roswell and talked to me about the culture of UFOlogy there and the UFO tourism in the town.that was her home town. I was  aware when I stayed among the NAvajo that I was there both to witness the Gospel and invite people into the Catholic Church on the one hand and also was very eager to understand what traditional Navajo religion was all about.  When my family toured Europe we had lived on a farm in the Swiss Alps for a while. But really, this was one of my longest states in Mountains up to that point in my life.I was reading the Bible a lot  and I was very aware of Mount Sinai, Mount Horeb, Mount Carmel, Mount Tabor and the unnamed mountains such as that of the Sermon on the Mount where God had drawn close to humanity. Mount Rainmaker in Samoa created its own clouds in the midst of the ocean, but the Mountains of New Mexico raised us up above much of the atmosphere to the star crowded skies.                

We boarded that plane in American Samoa on December 22. So our arrival in the cold of Albuquerque was a Christmas thing. Like most snowy states, first snowfall means the first snow of a tenth of an inch or more that persists. Albuquerque has plenty of White Chritmasses even by that standard. However a lower standard than the records would allow bits of snow on the rocks in mountain passes – I am not sure what the records will show. but whenever legal snowfall documents may state – l I clearly remember our headlights picking up the glint and shine of  bits of snow as we moved through the mountains towards Thoreau and Blue Lake New Mexico where the Bordelons lived. However, It was not a landscape wrapped in snow.  Like almost everything in my life I have no confidence that the records will back up what I know to be the truth of the past. Of course any snow was a big deal compared to the South Pacific. The Bordelon’s home was decorated for Christmas and they had a fireplace and a wood burning stove as well as other heat. It seemed like a great place to land for Christmas.

The big news that we shared was not only the Good News of the Gospel reminding us that on Christmas we remembered the birth of Jesus Christ. In Bethlehem. The other good news for the prolific Bordelons was evident as Mom and Diane charred the joy of her expecting the baby that was going to be known and named as my oldest sister Sarah. Barry and Dad had some rejoicing about the fact that our families were becoming more alike. The Bordelon kids were interested in how I was transitioning from being an online child to expecting a sibling. Overall, I was pretty happy about it.   

The reunion with the Bordelons, who were working for the Checkerboard Missions and serving in Saint Bonaventure Catholic Church Parish in Thoreau New Mexico brought together two families from Abbeville, Louisiana who had already been changed to some significant degree by their time in the missions. It was difficult to know exactly how to be with my friends and to chart the social and emotional distance between the way we had been together in a different time past in Abbeville, Forked Island and other parts of Louisiana. then and the way we were supposed to be now.  We talked about home and who had kept in touch and who had not. We tried to sense the differences and similarities between the ways that each of us had bought into the religious vocation of our respected  families and the degree to which we were resisting it in favor of more normalcy. 

We talked about the Navajo. Went to Church and met the priest,  the school that was not currently in much use for some reason. Before we left my parents and I would spend at least some nights in that school building, it was the first but not the last time we would live in an underutilized or abandoned church school building. While there we would tour the Navajo  cultural and historical exhibits and museums in Crown Point, New Mexico. For was while it seemed that I would enroll in the school that the Bordelon children went to – I was scared that I was not going to be evaluated fairly or well in a way that would assess my placement and I was nervous about the new school in an environment that I did not know. But I am not sure that any of these were significant factors in me not going to school there. Some of my memories have become blurry and confused and the timeline of our lives in those days would be practically impossible to retrace in any effort short of a very well funded book with many months of research for some weeks of our lives. However, it is possible to tell true facts and avoid falsehoods. It is also possible to capture a specific general tone and set of qualities that connected that time to my larger subject – in this text that larger subject is my own life.

I had a very bad experience in my time there but I don’t remember where exactly it fit into the timeline of our stay there. It involved a rather clumsy effort to entrap, shame and humiliate me by the creation of an incident and the misreporting of it. That kind of thing had happened before and many far worse things that I have not reported in this text. The pain of such events and the damage done to me and my long-term mental health were real.Here the betrayal involved one of the Bordelon kids and their father. But the general pattern for me was that among other things as a child observant and aware of people and the misbehavior of adults I was particularly vulnerable to malice and retribution. If I was very decisively an influential lesson in my life. If I was much more powerful and respectable and immune from ordinary harms then I would probably write a very different memoir, I would name names and describe details in some numbers and have research done to corroborate such things.  But as things stand in this version I am still telling less than many memoirs. This is very far from a tell-all. I don’t know what impact the secrets I carry from my life have had on the trajectory of my life. But there has never been a time when I did not have in my memory a good number of really bad incidents that I could attribute to other people.

Although I can emphatically state that I never engaged in anything that could be construed as sexual behavior when I was a kid there were incidents that involved seeing people naked or in various sec acts. Some of these incidents were accidental and innocent and really not situations in which anyone had done anything very malicious or evil. However, others were elaborate forms of harm – some directed at me and some directed at others but  witnessed by me. I also had come to know that people used sex, the shame of sex and the criminal penalties related to sex to pressure and blackmail people into other bad or criminal behavior  – or if they were very vulnerable to sexual shame they might even pressure them into suicide or at least poverty and bankruptcy. 

I was alienated in some significant way by may parents choices, alienated as a kid not in school, alienated by the malice of so much of the human race, alienated by the fact of being a white guy in Navajoland and alienated because my friends among the Bordelon boys knew how to split firewood for the fireplaces and to cut logs into firewood size lengths and many other things related to living close to the land in New Mexico that I did not know. They were not big on teaching when it required a lot of speaking in the cold. So I did not make much progress in learning those skills.

Somewhere in those weeks, I found myself alone with the adults when the Bordelon kids went to school. I set up a sort of school schedule mostly on my own. I read an entire encyclopedia of wildlife and a number of books on Navajo culture and a book or two on the liturgical reforms in the Catholic Church after the Second Vatican Council. Sunday Mass was better attended but daily Mass was bothe very poorly attended and beautiful and exciting to me, The priest led a  mass that demonstrated a degree of the experimentation at the time and I was thrilled by both its freshness and the ancient and scriptural elements of the Eucharist and the study of the Sacred Scriptures. Once a week we had a prayer meeting with guest speakers and some were protestants from small churches not so far away who would normally have been pretty anti-Catholic – but these speakers were generally respectful of the place where they were speaking. The greatest oddity of the Church was that the altar, tabernacle, pulpits, baptismal font and other sacred spaces were placed close enough together so that they could be closed off from  the rest of the space. The seating was removed from the rest of the church. The large part that might be called the nave was used as a skating rink for several evenings each week and the funds raised were used to help support the church and its ministries. In addition, Navajo teenagers who came to skate might not come tot the missions for any other reason and there was an effort to share the gospel and invite them to participate in the life of the church. I had long conversations with a few Navajo Christians about the connection between their Christian lives and traditional Navajo religious culture. I tried even then to figure out how this related to the struggle of Polynesian Christians to integrate their faith with Polynesian religious heritage. I also was aware that South Louisiana had religious traditions that either complemented and enhanced or else defiled the practice of Christianity in the region I would always call home.      

A few days before typing the major draft of this chapter I was talking about how I had lived through some exotic encounters with North Koreans when I was in China. “I have lived a very unusual life. I am sure that it is hard to believe some of my stories. That is why I don’t tell some of them very often.”

“I like this kind of conversation.” My sister-in-law responded. 

Overall the conversations of this past weekend of Saint Patrick’s Day 2024 were about the CHristian, Faith, Catholic Sacraments and family traditions. My wife has been doing volunteer work improving Church records at our home church. I find a lot of interest in all her research and when she sends me a picture of a record related to my family it gives me a thrill and almost as much when it is one of her ancestors. My same sister-in-law also has a strong interest in these records, genealogies and family histories.

I really enjoy  a lot of what goes on in the ordinary and not so ordinary flow of life. I also find a lot of interest in and expend a lot of energy on understanding the things I don’t like in ordinary life. But I still do care about some things in  the realm of the mystical, mysterious  and unexplained. I will return to those areas again in this narrative but will not be able to fully do it justice in this book. My mother’s book, Go You are Sent: An Incredible Odyssey of Faith  treats the whole period of this visit to New Mexico along with some other things in the chapter titled Navajos to La Cueva. She spends fewer words on this period than I do but she is more careful to confine herself to recounting those events. My tone here is to talk about my own life and formation as we go. Just since I began writing this online memoir, I have received word that I am probably eligible to at least be seriously considered for the Medicare portion of disability. I am fully vested in DIsability retirement since I earned the minimum of forty valid quarters years ago and I will get something if I live to retire. The minimum retirement age is 62. It won’t be a lot but if I take it then I will get a retirement income. I will get a bit more at 67 and the maximum at 70. For disability the general but not absolute rule is not the forty valid Social Security quarters but rather 20 valid Social Security quarters in the last 10 years and  20 valid Medicare  quarters in the last ten years. I have the Medicare quarters and therefore qualify for early Medicare, if I am deemed disabled enough. But I don’t have the Social Security quarters, some of my paychecks paid into the Louisiana State Teachers Retirement Fund and some went into a special public service FICA replacement retirement fund. Someone from a Social Security office suggested that I apply to one of these funds for disability pay. I am still not sure how it will play out but I may not qualify to get the monetary benefit under Social Security and if that is the case I may be much nearer the end of my life’s journey than otherwise. It is with that sense of retrospection that I am accounting for this period.        .               

When I think of the time in New Mexico I think of having just left Polynesia and thinking how people were seeking to preserve family and tradition in the modern world and how Christianity fit into all of this. I still care about all of those things and they still all factor into the way that I actually spend my time. This past weekend  illustrates that I am still preoccupied with many of the same concerns. 

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On March 17, 2024 Clara and I celebrated the First Communion of her nephew and godson Zacharie in a small rural Catholic Church in Iberia Parish here in South Louisiana. Her brother Clenes and his wife Lori stayed with us for a Saturday and Sunday night  as they came in from the Dallas-Fort Worth area to attend. .Zacharie is the child of her sister Gigi and her husband. Her youngest brother – who is the priest who presided over our Wedding – was there as well. It was a beautiful celebration. Clara got him a rosary with his name engraved on the sterling silver cross. This rosary was like the silver rosary with her name engraved on it that her godfather had given her from the same retailer and sometimes manufacturer of rosaries and other religious items when she was a little girl making her First Communion..  

Today I tended to plants in our lawn and garden area and I cut the front lawn with a motorless push (reel style) lawnmower. I am a homebody when I can be, in a way that seems not so different  from what I remember of both the Samoans and the Navajo at that time. But we did not stay in either place very long. However, our stay in New Mexico was much shorter than our stay in American Samoa. My mother writes of our time there in these words;

The ancient, noble way of life on the reservation inspired us. We were drawn deeply to the privilege that it would be to know them better. We knew that the more that they embraced Christ the keener would be their ability to preach his Word. How beautiful that word would be coming from such a rich heritage.

The Bordelons left New Mexico for a  visit to Abbeville in late January and early February. We stayed behind on Mission with Father Doug. Living in the Mountains gave us a chance to be alone as a family. Barry had been right in his description of the mountains of New Mexico. They were beautiful in a spiritual way. God was near to us there.” (Summers, page 182)..   

In those weeks that we were alone I used to ride the hard plastic toboggan like sleds and disks the Bordelons had for the snow. I often did this alone and sometimes even at night alone.Racing down the little slopes lit by star and moonlight was a great thrill. I loved physical activity and adventure and knew that I rarely made an impression on others that would make me feel better about myself or the activities that I was involved in every chance I got. So doing things alone was always an option that I was ready to consider, the pure love of solitary sports was already a theme in my life.

In the night sky I would watch the shooting stars and the glow of the Milky Way and I tried to find some of the many stars I saw on an old star map I had managed to acquire and hold on to for a while.   In the sky I watched as often as I could, I saw some things I could not explain. That had not been the first time and would not be the last but I had enough things on this planet to occupy my interest until we left New Mexico to join up with Father Rick Thomas  and his ministries centered around Our Lady’s Youth Center and The Lord’s Ranch near El Paso, Texas. When we did leave, I wondered if I would ever again return to Navajoland. So far I have not.

Chapter Seven of Online Memoir; America’s Enthusiastic Edge.

The Enthusiastic Edge of America

I am not starting this chapter by posting pictures of American Samoa for many reasons.  What I think  about  when I reflect on our families arrival and life in American Samoa includes learning more wonderful things about the Pacific Ocean. I remember that we learned a great deal more about the Polynesian cultures and peoples by seeing the ways that Tonga and Samoa were similar and the ways they were different. I think that it is a time when I became very much aware of the way the American history in the far reaches of the Pacific had played out over time. .All of this was part of my experience on the island at the center of American Samoa.

It was also to be a place where we became more intimately connected to the faith experience of Christians who were not Catholics than we had been so far. In addition it was a time of gaining skills in living an intentional Christian community among a small group of people. Further, it was s time when my parents began to see life open to more children – it had taken a while for them to get their considering their conversion to the faith.

But all those things are secondary to the fact that I feel that were were really redefining our place in the  culture and society of America. I feel that we were suddenly living our changing ideal not in a foreign land and not in our home environs. We were to travel a new path in this country. To understand that I have to review once more the place we left. It is in the comparison to my grandparent’s house in New Orleans and that perspective on the rest of my life in Louisiana that my American existence prior to Tonga contrasts with my life from American Samoa forward.  

The pictures at the opening of this post are pictures taken of 1812 Palmer Avenue, New Orleans, Louisiana in recent years or at least in recent decades. This 8 bedroom home belonged to my father’s parents when we went into the missions. In those days more sumptuous wood paneling was dark and unpainted and it was filled with fine art and fine furniture. Guest of all ages could call at various times.. They came from Abbeville and the Acadiana district that elected my grandfather to the Louisiana Supreme Court. Because it was the state Supreme that sat in New Orleans — while the Governor and Legislature sat in Baton Rouge it was possible to maintain a more courtly presence if one was so inclined. Papau was the Chief Justice only briefly but the Chief Justice really was in a small group of Foreign Consuls, the Mayor and the highest officials in the Federal Customs House and the very powerful Levee Board — these people were the highest class of government officials in a city that seemed much more important then when Oil and Gas, the port on the Mississippi River and trade with Latin America all seemed vital to American interest. The industrial corridor on the Mississippi River between New Orleans and Baton Rouge was the second largest in the world in those days. If it is true that I gained delusions of grandeur when I visited the palaces of Britain and continental Europe and the mansions of New York and New England, it was not so hard for a child to make such a mistake. These places seemed like my grandparents house and it was easy to see myself as a scion of an important and entitled family. There was plenty of me that expected life might be an endless hell — but I was equally sure that I an my family would be important in the world I was going to live in and I did not really expect life to present the set of challenges that it actually did offer over time.

Among the feelings of old stories about travels to palaces and old historic sites, visits to land that had been in the family for generations and the stories of the origins and tenure of the Louisiana Supreme Court there was a modernizer in the house. In 1812 Palmer as in most houses in America in the golden age of news we all gathered to watch the evening News on most days when my grandfather got home early enough and we often watched a later edition of the news as well. My grandfather Summers was less of a man to go for new fangled gadgets than my Gremillion grandfather in Abbeville. But in my early years Abbeville had many fewer channels than New Orleans and my grandfather and grandmother had the first remote I ever used in their great living room there. It may have had an earlier version that was even simpler but the first version to last had up and down on volume and the channel select only went one way, you had to cycle through all the channels to get to the one just below yours. The remote could also turn the TV on and off. It was an amazing magical addition to the powerful instrument that could control the home in such a unique way. Later there was another TV on the third floor, but never in regular bedrooms or the kitchen. Family members played the piano or other instruments or professional musicians played a tune more often than I remember the radio playing in the big spaces of the house. Some people listened to the radio or albums on the third floor, in their spacious rooms, on balconies, on the patio or elsewhere. But he common areas of the house were for the people living there without imported entertainment. The TV was watched mostly after supper and there was another thing. When there were no big parties the Summers usually retired to their rooms pretty early. On occasion as a young child I would sneak down the then dark paneled grand staircase to the big living room in front of the house and turn the television on with the volume very low and watch scary movies that played late at night in those days. I never went to school in New Orleans until I attended Law School at Tulane when I was older than most of my classmates, if I was there I was usually living a life of leisure and did not really have to get up early. The late, late shows alone in a vast room, lying close on the carpet to watch television with the volume low when I was supposed to be in bed would leave me alone to traverse the dark and cavernous house. It was truly terrifying going back to my bed at one in the morning with no light but moonlight and a few lights from outside the windows and a few nightlights in electrical sockets. In my child’s imaginative mind, all the monsters, vampires, ghosts and sometimes ordinary murderers that were the characters in the of the film I had just seen seemed to be watching me from the deep shadows all around me. Once I made it through this gauntlet of imaginary terrors and real shadows and long spaces and secrecy I would climb into my bed and often have vivid nightmares. I did this many times.

Whenever I think back about my the life of my mind and any senses I had under very different circumstances I remember those nights of self-induced terror. It keeps me aware and perhaps skeptical of the mental and emotional landscapes that form my life history. But, compared to many people, I have spent a lot of time and energy taking seriously the feelings and thoughts I have in and of themselves. Life goes even when some of our problems may not be as real as others.

But that example is but one of several I could use to illustrate the role of television in my life. For a number of years my parents and I used to go to my mother’s parents home on the day when Mutual of Omaha’s WIld Kingdom aired on a local station. I often had someone to watch it with me but I also was willing to watch it alone. My parents were among the first of my friends parents to get cable .and there were quite a few shows I loved to watch even though I had few people to share them with — on was Speed Racer. When my paternal grandparents took me and their two youngest children to spend some time on Malibu Beach and to see DIsneyland as well as touring the Western United States. I soaked up the sea, painted desert and the great park of the Disney imagination. But I also watched tv and was amazed at all the channels and cartoons that I had never even heard existed. I was deeply interested in television and film. Somehow when I was young I managed to send a letter to Jodie Foster’s agent or fan club or something and to get a reply reputed to come from her. Television and movies would mark a connection between me and the rest of the country. Far in the future would be years when I would watch a huge number of movies but almost no television. But the years that would shape much of my life were the ones in which I watched neither film nor television. I was very much a person who understood that people talked about sports and television. I loved to watch the New Orleans Saints football games on television and often spoke about the games the next day — sometimes those games were the only thing that I could find to talk about with some of my peers.

 The pictures at the opening of this post are pictures taken of 1812 Palmer Avenue, New Orleans, Louisiana in recent years or at least in recent decades. This 8 bedroom home belonged to my father’s parents when we went into the missions. In those days more sumptuous wood paneling was dark and unpainted and it was filled with fine art and fine furniture. Guest of all ages could call at various times.. They came from Abbeville and the Acadiana district that elected my grandfather to the Louisiana Supreme Court. Because it was the state Supreme that sat in New Orleans — while the Governor and Legislature sat in Baton Rouge it was possible to maintain a more courtly presence if one was so inclined. Papau was the Chief Justice only briefly but the Chief Justice really was in a small group of Foreign Consuls, the Mayor and the highest officials in the Federal Customs House and the very powerful Levee Board — these people were the highest class of government officials in a city that seemed much more important then when Oil and Gas, the port on the Mississippi River and trade with Latin America all seemed vital to American interest. The industrial corridor on the Mississippi River between New Orleans and Baton Rouge was the second largest in the world in those days. If it is true that I gained delusions of grandeur when I visited the palaces of Britain and continental Europe and the mansions of New York and New England, it was not so hard for a child to make such a mistake. These places seemed like my grandparents house and it was easy to see myself as a scion of an important and entitled family. There was plenty of me that expected life might be an endless hell — but I was equally sure that I an my family would be important in the world I was going to live in and I did not really expect life to present the set of challenges that it actually did offer over time.

Among the feelings of old stories about travels to palaces and old historic sites, visits to land that had been in the family for generations and the stories of the origins and tenure of the Louisiana Supreme Court there was a modernizer in the house. In 1812 Palmer as in most houses in America in the golden age of news we all gathered to watch the evening News on most days when my grandfather got home early enough and we often watched a later edition of the news as well. My grandfather Summers was less of a man to go for new fangled gadgets than my Gremillion grandfather in Abbeville. But in my early years Abbeville had many fewer channels than New Orleans and my grandfather and grandmother had the first remote I ever used in their great living room there. It may have had an earlier version that was even simpler but the first version to last had up and down on volume and the channel select only went one way, you had to cycle through all the channels to get to the one just below yours. The remote could also turn the TV on and off. It was an amazing magical addition to the powerful instrument that could control the home in such a unique way. Later there was another TV on the third floor, but never in regular bedrooms or the kitchen. Family members played the piano or other instruments or professional musicians played a tune more often than I remember the radio playing in the big spaces of the house. Some people listened to the radio or albums on the third floor, in their spacious rooms, on balconies, on the patio or elsewhere. But he common areas of the house were for the people living there without imported entertainment. The TV was watched mostly after supper and there was another thing. When there were no big parties the Summers usually retired to their rooms pretty early. On occasion as a young child I would sneak down the then dark paneled grand staircase to the big living room in front of the house and turn the television on with the volume very low and watch scary movies that played late at night in those days. I never went to school in New Orleans until I attended Law School at Tulane when I was older than most of my classmates, if I was there I was usually living a life of leisure and did not really have to get up early. The late, late shows alone in a vast room, lying close on the carpet to watch television with the volume low when I was supposed to be in bed would leave me alone to traverse the dark and cavernous house. It was truly terrifying going back to my bed at one in the morning with no light but moonlight and a few lights from outside the windows and a few nightlights in electrical sockets. In my child’s imaginative mind, all the monsters, vampires, ghosts and sometimes ordinary murderers that were the characters in the of the film I had just seen seemed to be watching me from the deep shadows all around me. Once I made it through this gauntlet of imaginary terrors and real shadows and long spaces and secrecy I would climb into my bed and often have vivid nightmares. I did this many times.

Whenever I think back about my the life of my mind and any senses I had under very different circumstances I remember those nights of self-induced terror. It keeps me aware and perhaps skeptical of the mental and emotional landscapes that form my life history. But, compared to many people, I have spent a lot of time and energy taking seriously the feelings and thoughts I have in and of themselves. Life goes even when some of our problems may not be as real as others.

But that example is but one of several I could use to illustrate the role of television in my life. For a number of years my parents and I used to go to my mother’s parents home on the day when Mutual of Omaha’s WIld Kingdom aired on a local station. I often had someone to watch it with me but I also was willing to watch it alone. My parents were among the first of my friends parents to get cable .and there were quite a few shows I loved to watch even though I had few people to share them with — on was Speed Racer. When my paternal grandparents took me and their two youngest children to spend some time on Malibu Beach and to see DIsneyland as well as touring the Western United States. I soaked up the sea, painted desert and the great park of the Disney imagination. But I also watched tv and was amazed at all the channels and cartoons that I had never even heard existed. I was deeply interested in television and film. Somehow when I was young I managed to send a letter to Jodie Foster’s agent or fan club or something and to get a reply reputed to come from her. Television and movies would mark a connection between me and the rest of the country. Far in the future would be years when I would watch a huge number of movies but almost no television. But the years that would shape much of my life were the ones in which I watched neither film nor television. I was very much a person who understood that people talked about sports and television. I loved to watch the New Orleans Saints football games on television and often spoke about the games the next day — sometimes those games were the only thing that I could find to talk about with some of my peers.  

I will be looping back over the early years of my life, when much of my sense of self and personality were formed. As future chapters develop certain themes of my life I will revisit the early years for the early measures and parameters by which I would judge future developments of a particular kind in my life.  This is one such theme. In Tonga we had no television, although Tonga today does, I have heard of many changes since I lived there, although like many places I have been I never got back there. In Tonga I went to the movies twice and both films were not films I would have been let into in Louisiana. That was about the limit of screen entertainment there and I found both films pretty disturbing at the time. Sex and violence were  pretty over the top compared to what I was used to watching back home or the conservative family oriented lives of the Tongan friends I went to the movies with at the time.  In  American Samoa I remember the newspaper and American Magazines and the radio but if there was television available I don’t remember seeing it .During the time we were there I went quite a few times to the Rainmaker Hotel to use the pool (somehow this arrangement could be paid for cheaply enough) and I walked past lobbies and bars that I could see inside of but I don’t remember any television – I could be blocking it out but that would be hard to understand.This Lent my wife and I  have given up watching TV between 8 and 4 on all regular days of Lent (not including Sunday).  I also think that Television was just a small part of the transitions going on in our family. WE did not have TV out on the farm  in the camp where we lived for a number of months before we left for Tonga. But the years right before our conversion saw ever increasing television viewing in our lives.   . 

I have discussed my great-grandmother’s painting, fishing and hunting, sight-seeing across Europe and New York,I am now admitting that my Dad played albums of Gregorian Chant and Native American ritual and ceremonial music. That was before streaming platforms made exotic music accessible to everyone. I have discussed the parties and the shrine to Saint Jude and the cattle drives and round ups. All of those stories are true. Traveling through national parks and State Parks was very important to me. My mother’s play and newspaper articles formed part of the fabric of my life and thought. However, while all of that and lots of reading took up lots of those early years I also was very much a child of one of the early American television generations. Movies were a huge thing we went to once in a while but television was the main thing that could eat up everything else if I let it. If there were enough bad things happening and I had access to a television then I could get to the place where watching television consumed most of my time that was not otherwise scheduled. Because I did no live on a working farm with lots of chores, have siblings or neighborhood kids to demand a great deal of me or belong to any sports leagues on an average day the amount of time that could be spent watching TV could be huge. Thus one of the big contradictions to people who try to figure my life out would be all that I did when I wasn’t watching TV and all the memories I have of watching TV. My parents were among the early subscribers to cable when it became available in Abbeville. I remember when      .    

 Sarah is the  next oldest of my parents’ mutual children. She is almost 12 years younger than I but is my oldest full sibling or living sibling.I lived a life before the mission and in early missions before she was born but we also lived together  in missions and then she continued in missions with my parents after I moved on and then she returned to serve in their mission company in its later stages in a way that I never did. One day we had a long conversation about cross-culture and thor culture kids and all that makes an adult a product of such things as one might call cross-culture or third culture experience.

I am not sure the exact day, month or even year of this conversation but it happened about 2016 or 2017 in Abbeville, Louisiana  with my adult sister Sarah Anthea Summers, Spiehler Granger – who is really Sarah Granger. I used to take her and her kids out for breakfast at McDonalds in Abbeville before they were all in school whenever I had a Monday morning that I was not working and they were available. It actually started as a tradition with her inviting me for coffee and then it evolved into something else. And it gave some meaning to my life for a number of years to do this thing.  Below  this discussion are some resources but not necessarily the books I read inspired by her suggestion.

 The discussion started as many others have over the course of these meetings for Monday breakfasts. I was very busy and also underemployed.

“Hey Sarah.” I asked as I sat down with the things I had bought at  the counter of our Abbeville Mc Donald’s restaurant. We had both helped the kids get to the Playland, while their shoes were stacked beside the equipment I asked about her older children. We had done similar things with those three Alyse, Anika and Soren. “They are all doing well. I think Anika is pretty excited about passing her travel guide licensing exam in New York CIty.”

“That is a nice distinction for her. Of course she traveled so much with you.” I spoke feeling the absence of the little girl who was my godchild and with whom I spent so much time, so gladly over the years.”Is she going to be working with Jason’s company. I follow the Walks companies online.”

“She might later, but right now  I think she is going to work with Get a Guide.” Sarah nodded and then we talked a bit about all the older kids as we assembled Isaac, Isabel and  Jonah for the snacks and drinks at the table.

“Have you been reading anything?” I asked as I finished my coffee and the kids went back for another round on the playground equipment. I continued “I don’t always get to reading them as quickly as I would like but I take your reading and viewing lists seriously. I learn some great things..”

“Well, thanks.” Sarah said, ” I have been reading about adults who were third and cross-culture kids. The book really has a lot to say about growing up abroad.”

“That sounds compelling. I suppose there is a good bit about missionary kids.” I said to Sarah solemnly. 

‘Yes, there is a a good bit about it. They show some layers of differences  and some kids stay in th home country and other live in compounds and go to schools based in their home culture. Only a small percentage go to the kinds of schools I and the others went to in General Cepda or elsewhere.”

“I really will read that and  buy the book. Please send  me the information.” I could see Sarah was happy to share. We talked about how Obama had brought cross-cultural childhoods into the forefront of American life.

She did send the information and for a while I studied the subject with interest.    She had a lot of knowledge she was bringing together for the subject. 

(Cross-Cultural Connections: Stepping Out and Fitting In Around the World Paperback – August 29, 2002, by Duane Elmer (Author); Third Culture Kids: Growing Up Among Worlds (Revised Edition) Ruth E. Van Reken.How to Raise Confident Multicultural Children: Ideas and practical advice from diverse professionals for even greater success raising a bilingual and multicultural child… Books – Fostering Creativity in Kids) Kindle Edition, by Elisavet Arkolaki (Author), Dr. Ute Limacher-Riebold (Author), Vivian Chiona (Author), & 7 more  Format: Kindle Edition)

I have a set of  memories of the United States of America  before the Roe v. Wade decision in January of 1973. But when I got to American Samoa, the new America that had been evolving was enshrined in a set of laws that would endure until a few years ago. The Supreme Court had found a constitutional right to abortion at the federal level and all of the basic structure of the constitution and its underlying philosophies had been thrown out the window in favor of the real transformation of the brave new world I would grow up in ….I was also coming back into that country as more of an outsider than I had ever been. Everything about the course of our civilization was making me an alienated outsider. I had lived with the varied sides of my mother’s feminism as I grew up and she worked on newspaper jobs, with documentary film crews and in government programs where she tried to bring a feminist sensibility to the content and the ay of working. Now they were committed to finding a way of life that publicly incorporated traditional Christian roles for marriage as they understood them from their new commitment to scripture  as well as to other literature and community influences. Tongas had exposed to a series of social norms where the oldest males in the royal family and the aristocracy inherited most titles and privileges of nobility and men had specific roles in choirs, lands, war dances and all these things were unapologetic. But Tonga also had a system whereby the oldest sister in each family could obtain and redistribute most of the portale wealth of all of her brothers within the family. FUrther women had many taboos which favored their rights over males in rooms, entrances and many other things. To add to the sexual mores that were influenced by my time in Tonga were the modesty laws that had replaced the ancient Polynesian folkways of topless and sexually charged female dancing at feasts. The other values that fit into this strangely transformed Christian expression of Polynesian culture was the preservation of the cultural institutions of trans culture, predominantly the Faka Laiti who were an.expression of the transgender types that exist throughout almost all of Polynesian history and cultural and national diversity. They were the Tongan expression of the time. I had already been exposed to a great deal of sexual role tension and conflict as a child in the United States. There were things that related to my specific personal family and personal connections and issues that related to growing up during the sexual revolution.

My mother continued to wear the Tongan themed and inspired modest garments and in time regularly wore a head cover of the same fabric. We wore crosses around our necks and were drifting to the edge of American society in appearance. Society was moving in a set of directions and we were in many ways moving in opposite directions. It was in this context that I no longer went to school as we got established in American Samoa.  I did take a few advanced swimming lessons  and a few lessons in a water survival class. I did  not take all of these classes and I never started SCUBA class although that was the second of many times I had been in a position to think that might happen. I have never taken a SCUBA class even as I type the first main draft of this chapter of my memoir.  I did enroll in a fairly formal  Bible class. I also was able to persuade a family who was educating their son with a correspondence course who were willing to let me have a few excess workbooks and loaned me a reader. I am not sure what would have happened if we had stayed in American Samoa for longer.  I am not sure what the compulsory education laws were or were not – but I was not in school. For the most part I was anxious about what it might mean for my future but relieved not to be adjusting to a new school.

I was however aware that I liked the beaches and the super markets. I was deliriously happy when a man we met who conducted fisheries studies invited us to go deep sea fishing a few time and catch fish he measured, weighed, photographed. This scientist also examined the scales and intestines of the fish. But none of those things diminished that we caught the fish, cleaned them and got to keep the flesh. It was a wonderful  time that mattered to and reminded me of deep sea fishing in the Gulf of Mexico with my mother’s parents and their friends.

In American Samoa, I met a few High Chiefs and Talking Chiefs and grilled them as much as I could about how their culture worked within the American political system. We were to end up living with a group of singles in Youth WIth A Mission who were open minded enough to invite my Catholic parents to be their group’s Houseparents. YWAM would enhance the intensity .of my spiritual quest and the sense I had of drawing close to Jesus. It was very much something  I willingly sought. Every day I spent time alone in prayer and Bible reading. I worried about my sins and repenting of them and whether or not  my repentance was real enough.In prayers, in communion at mass and in conversation with others talking about their faith I drew close to the Spirit that God had showered on his people. At least, I truly believed that I was on a spiritual adventure and was helping to create the Kingdom of God on Earth. I am not sure of every part of it being authentic now – but I do know that the experience was not all false and that the spiritual life was somehow real, deep and powerful. But that is a lot less definite than how I would have described my beliefs and pursuits back then. I often said,”I feel like the Lord said this to me when I had my prayer time.”

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The time passed with meals and prayer meeting and ministering to people who came in on the fishing fleet from Asia while many of us dreamed of bringing the Gospel to countries in Asia where there were few Christians. I was into that idea and read about Catholic and Protestant missionaries to East Asia across the centuries. But we were not in American Samoa for very long. Soon we were praying about and discussing moving on.  We flew back to Hawaii, then back to the West Coast and then got off a plane in Albuquerque. We were going to spend some time with the Bordelons, the missionary family who were now working among the Navajo after having taught me to ride a bike competently and having hunted and fished a bit with me on the farm. We were in tropical clothes, we had nothing else. It was literally below freezing and there was a bit of snow here and there. We were given blankets and loose or wrong-sized jackets. We rode in their Volkswagen bus in inferior condition. I was happy to see our old friends but I knew that somehow not fitting in at all in America had come to define my life for the future.

Chapter Six of Online Memoir: Sacrifice and Adventure

“I used to pray for an hour a day on my own at some points in my life.” I told the young deacon during a meeting this Lent. “But that is not the way I live right now.However, I have been blessed to study the prayer we have been reflecting upon.”

This conversation was one of so many I have had at various times in my life that cause me to reflect back on the years I spent in the missions and what impact they had on the other years thereafter. I remember, before Clara and I got married, saying to the couple who prepared us for the Sacrament of Marriage that I had been wounded by my last marriage’s failure and many other  problems with the Church and it was with some trepidation that I had come to undertake a long and intense spiritual journey on the way to marriage when there were less demanding paths that met the Church’s minimum standard for marriage instruction. 

A few weeks ago we went to their house and I told the couple,  whom Clara and I have both known all our lives, that I had applied for disability. That was when the wife said in response  that she could remember a vast number of things that happened to me physically over the years. “I know what your body went through since you were a little boy. I saw a lot of it with my own eyes.” 

The complexity of my time in Tonga, our first mission includes getting Dengue Fever, being stung by a whole nest of tropical wasps and being stung by a deadly centipede when I was already sick. I don’t look back mostly on those events when I think of the missions. But honestly, I believe these events and their aftermath still impact my health, performance and capacity to work for a living in the way I had hoped and planned to do not so very long ago.  What else did I bring from the missions? I think that to understand the impact of the missions on my later life and life today one would have to understand the way my mission life started. In order to do that, some significant effort must be made to understand Tonga and our journey to that island kingdom as a family about half a century ago.. .  

To discuss the year before we left for the missions and the early years in the missions requires a recognition that a good deal of my attention in those days was  on not only the themes but the real and phenomenological experience of repentance and conversion. In other words, I was very much involved in a set of beliefs and their implications for my life to the extent  that a nine-year- old could be  dealing with them. The Gospel was not entirely unknown to me. I had paid attention in Chapel at Saint HIlda and Saint Hugh School in Manhattan. I had paid attention in religion class at Mount Carmel Elementary School. And we had read from the New Testament and th eOld as well as learning the stories of Jesus and the Teaching of the Church. I had made my First Communion and First Confession with some faith and devotion. When I was a child in Europe, I admired my uncle Jed who made it to Mass at the churches we toured and  I had both admired the Bible stories and the lives of the Saints as well as the glass, sculpture and painting they became a part of – in those days my father seemed to feel a connection to his Catholic youth. But in the days after he settled into the life they lived in Abbeville, Louisiana after returning from New York he was hardening into an articulate and cynical atheist and he said blessings before meals that were not really prayers of blessing before meals when called upon to pay by organizations that were not officially religious but still shared prayer in rural Louisiana in those days. I talked to my Dad about his atheism and at some point I converted to it without any real fears about my soul. There were serious discussions with some of the kids at school who did worry about it and some friction with teachers who had always known me to be a believer. In addition, my mother had published a play called A Sort of Miracle in Loreauville. The play was based on experiences witnessed by her grandmother who was from Loreauville, Louisiana. My mother’s writing explored how medicine practiced by a Medical Doctor, the folk medicine practice by a traiteur and the Anointing of the SIck ministered by a Catholic priest – all played their role in French Louisiana and all contributed to what was seen as a miracle by those knew the person  who was cured in Loreauville. Somehow, I had gone from all this to accepting the calculated and intransigent atheism of my father. My father had been told that the reason he was refused a position teaching at one of the law schools he applied to after finishing his studies    at Columbia in New York and that seemed to harden his heart against the faith of his own hometown. My mother was working on the newspaper in our town and had written an article critical of the way many in the town ostracized  a priest who had married a girl he had taught when she was a little younger and was his student in high school. He was not permitted to marry as a priest and so he left the priesthood. He was the priest with whom I had served in th blessing of the Vermilion RIver on Earth Day. I had defended my parents and I was a hot tempered and energetic defender of most things that I wanted to defend over my lifetime. Then suddenly I was asked  to accept my parents’ conversion and to be supportive. It was a hard thing to accept and my father’s reason was that he had prayed and God had come to him in a deep personal experience and touched his heart and given him  the direction to return to church. He had been told “To keep Holy the Lord’s Day” and in his mind that meant going to church. He had called Monsignor Ignatius A. Martin who was the pastor of Saint Mary Magdalen Catholic Church. He had been part of the Abba Prayer Group. This Catholic Charismatic Prayer Group in Abbeville had actually been praying for my parents’ conversion. He had returned to Confession of his sins, received absolution in the name of  the Father, Son and Holy Spirit and returned to receiving communion. When we got back from the practice divorce with my godmother in Houston Dad devoted himself to wooing her back into a good marriage while also evangelizing her into his restored faith in Christ. I was told that when Dad talked to Mom about what he thought was her definite plan for a divorce he had begged to keep me with him. She had also insisted that she would keep me. When they reconciled, they both thought that they would see me returning to my faith and following them into  a new growth in faith. They were right that this would happen but it was not easy for me to make this transition. I was aware of the feeling of being repeatedly confused and misled. They were talking about a relationship with Jesus in a way that would have been compelling if I had been the same precocious theist kid that I had been until recently. Somehow it was just a lot to deal with. My uncle WIll had just returned to his parents home in New Orleans. He was no longer the reckless high school dropout and near runaway he had once been. He was now a Jehovah’s WItness and was devoted to preaching their version of the Gospel. My parents sent me to talk with him about believing in God. Somehow, the conversion I could see in his life and the words he sid that were not coming from the church with whom my nuclear family was living out its drama helped. I believed in God again, I asked Jesus to help and forgive and save me and soon I returned to confession and communion in the church. I had been sneaking cigarettes, and alcohol and generally hanging out with the toughest crowd that I could find who would accept me. It was a place of conversion for me and it was not easy to see how it would work out. Sacrificing my image and role as a kid drifting into trouble and a bit of a bad guy who had occasional brushes with authority figures and a few very small ones that involved the cops. Now I was going to try to spend all my energy being a good guy who followed Jesus who had been crucified by the cops of his time and condemned by the authority figures of his people. The conversion from sin was childlike but it was real. Renouncing a lfe of sin for a life of faith was a salvation but also a sacrifice.

Another stage of sacrifice came when my parents sold their house in town. But living on the farm in an old camp was mostly a joy for me. I got a horse from the family herd and Dad and I trained it together and I was ready to ride my own horse for the first time. I did so a good bit. I fished better than ever before. My great uncle Clay R. Summers Junior had given me a 410 gauge shot gun the previous year (called a four ten). I had used it and killed my first ducks and a lot more rabbits than when I used a pellet gun. But I had now been given use of a 20 gauge that was not entirely mine but was very effective and I began to bring back lots of ducks and rabbits that I hunted and cleaned on my own. Life was sweet. Some of my parents new  Christian friends were Barry and DIane Bordelon. Their children helped me to learn to ride a bicycle well for the first time although I had ridden one badly for years. In return they came with me to the farm and the boys were delighted to fish and canoe with me although we never hunted together. 

There was talk of starting a Catholic Charismatic commune either in recently abandoned set of buildings in a lower middle class neighborhood in Abbeville or  out on my grandparents farm. There were many meetings and much prayer and even a little fundraising. But the plans came to nothing. The Bordelons went first to the Checkerboard Missions among the Navajo.  We went to Tonga with the AMrists not long afterwards.

Before we left for Polynesia my mother’s parents had a luau in the Hawaiian style with a roast pig to send us out. There was a pig and they had humanized it a bit too much for my taste and named it  Dot. It was a rare time that I objected to my Pops and Mamon’s behavior. But in the end I enjoyed the feast and we would leave with me having beach gear, a camera of my own and so forth. We stayed at Our Lady Star of the Sea Catholic parish in Hawaii with priests who knew the South Pacific. Then we went to FIji and visited much of the main island and the church’s work there. From there we flew into Tonga. I had left behind my horse, guns, fishing equipment and dogs and so many other things. I had the fervor of serving God and believing in Jesus. We had the closeness of a family on the other side of the world from home. I also had the adventure of starting off a new life as a missionary kid and in Polynesia. But I would never become competent in the three styles of fishing in Tonga that my friends or their older relatives practiced. I watched people ride horses in Tonga but I did not ride them . At mass the readings, preaching, songs and liturgy were in Tongan. I tried to learn some but only learned enough to sing a few songs. I read the reading in my bible at home. Eventually we would go to the royal chapel for a ENglish language prayer service after our mass on Sunday nights and  all Christians who could not speak Tongan were welcome. My parent taught English in mostly Tongan language schools – two schools, really one for Boys and one for girls. I went to the English only Tonga Side School.   There were adventures but I also felt that I was very much an outsider. I never developed any close friendships with other foreign children even though some attended my school. My Tongan friends were very different from me and I would rarely forget it. The time in Tonga would  certainly not make me feel more like I fit in or blended in than before. 

One of the things about Tonga was that people would ask for many things and it wa snot begging the rich and poor asked each other for things for more often. Although people could and did refuse there was always more  social risk for the one refusing than the one asking if all things were equal. This had an accept even on relationships between resident foreigners. The other thing was true as well, people brought many gifts. If we said we liked fish then many fish were likely to arrive with no specific expectation of reciprocity, likewise with coconuts, passion fruit, roasted meats and tubers, coconuts and woven baskets. I did but crafts and mailed home a few tapa cloth and carved wood and shell objects. I took pictures and I shared goods from home with friends from the village of Maufanga as well as with the New Zealand couple living next door. There were things that were hard to adjust to – including cold showers with hard soap more suited for laundry than bathing. There was a pleasant homemade Tongan soap but that was something not for sale in the local shops or brought as a gift by our friends on a regular basis.

There were two long narrow houses in our compound and I was obliged to walk past the other one from ours to the cold water showers and the outhouse whenever I needed either. For that reason I was often greeting our neighbors who were a couple from New Zealand who also taught English where my parents did. It was a relationship they seemed to foster and though they had no children I thought we had a sort of bond. I was trying to get to know them and others  there  and was known to bring a gift or two as well. They were gracious to me as well and I remember that our neighbors from New Zealand had a baby blue outrigger canoe that they had a local make for them and seldom used. It stood out from the others and because it was painted with a marine paint not readily available in the islands.  Tonga was a society of taboos, Christian religion and very complex rules of general and specific reciprocity.  The rules were far more complex than any I could learn quickly or my parents would bother to learn. But people did watch us through our windows. This was in part explainable because Tongan houses usually had few or no open windows all the time. When windows were open they were not considered impolite if they looked through them. We would live in American Samoa later and the Samoans – who had a similar Polynesian culture had houses without walls and people were much less permissive of staring into houses from outside.  .        

Shortly after arriving in Tonga, I met three young boys from the village of Ma’ufanga. Two of them were brothers, Soane Paseka  who was my age and Isitolo Paseka who was about 14. Both attended Tongan language Catholic schools and went to the same church as we did. The building of the church was a large and impressive structure made out of coral rock. That was not at all a common building material even in Tonga. Soane was the Tongan equivalent of John and Isitolo was the Tongan equivalent of Isidore. Both were good saints’ names. In time we would be close as families and I would work sometimes on their farm on the weekend. The other was Viliami Ufi, a young man  about sixteen years old, who would accompany me to school at Tonga Side School, although he attended another school nearby.  He also would play  a role in one of the biggest events in my life in Tonga, that I would never forget. Many years later he would visit our family in Abbeville, Louisiana. Soane would become one of my closest friends while we were together in Tonga. He was not only the closest friend I had there but would be among the close friends that I never saw when I left the palace where I had known them. I was not in touch with my Abbeville classmates and friends when I traveled to London and New York and not  in touch with them as I traveled to Tonga. In New York my closest friend at St. Hilda and St. Hugh School had not stayed in touch but I had corresponded a few times with Charlie Warner,my closest friend from the building where we lived.  But before we get to the day when Soane would weep at my departure and honor me with his grief, I must tell of how we became close. The skinny young boy who showed up from the village at our compound during low tide when pools and tidal flats stretched out from the beach across the street from our house to the somewhat distant reefs. He had a machete and a string and  we walked along the flats and when we found fish in a pool trapped he would lash out with his machete and hit the fish in the head and add it to his string. He got three in three strokes and I got one in about twenty slashes into the pools. There were no rods and reels cast nets or fishing poles among my friends. There were likes with baited hooks and weights pinning off of beer and soft drink bottles and there were strange spears that varied from boy to boy. Adults had long lines and dragnets I never got to use. Then there was the machete fishing in the low tides. “I will learn to fish here if you can teach me.” I had told Soane, but I had never mastered any of the local techniques by the time we left  Tonga. But that day he told me, “ I would be glad to teach you Po.” Soane was my main means of learning and connecting to “Faka Tonga”, this was a general term for speaking, living and acting in a way that was acceptable in Tongan Society, He taught me the basics of the Haka  war dances, how to sing in the choirs at church, how to fish, how to climb coconut trees, how to husk and open coconuts of different stages of maturity and how to harvest different fruits and tubers. He taught me the basic function of different taboos in village life. Other people taught me these things and other things but his teaching was different because it encompassed every one of these things and many others. It was not an easy time and in the months I lived there I never got very good at any of these things.  But we were mostly friends. 

It was with the Pasekas that I was most a part of Tonga. He was the only person besides me who I ever took out in the baby blue outrigger canoe. I usually used it on my own when our neighbors lent it to me and the first real sign that I was not doing as well in Tonga as I had hoped was when the neighbors got upset with the way I handled or stored or otherwise used their boat and they revoked my privilege of using it. I was very much involved with other things by then including school and the infirmary my parents supported that was run by a local nun. But I was suddenly aware that without recourse to the quiet and solitude of the outrigger canoe I was not going to have a place to recoup my energies and refocus my thoughts. I did still go with the Pasekas when I could. But I was feeling crowded and uneasy. I started going to the marina where the ocean going yachts docked. In time it became my only source of independent income. I would greet the arriving Yachtsmen and women and sometimes I would run errands for them to the markets and the shops and would sometimes collect a little fee or be asked to keep the change. Once I brought home a skipper for supper and a shower and he made a phone call on his yacht tour families in Abbeville by using Ham radio, ship to shore and phone calls around the world when that was ot easily done and there were no easily available cellular  to satellite links everywhere.            

It was in this marina that I had some conversations about Polynesia, VIkings, the  great explorers like Captain Cook and others. But we were having a foundational kind of a year,the belief I had was that we would live in Tonga for at least five years. But we were not going to be there nearly that long.

“Viliami, why do we have to get off the bus?” I asked one day as we got off the bus as we were running late for school. 

“My older sister is coming in. Once we reach a certain age we cannot be in the same room until we are married and a bus is a room. “

This day’s tardy was the first tardy in a long time. I got to Tonga Side School on time but  was not very successful in making friends there and soon I felt bullied here and there and I got into a few fights. FInally this got worse and worse and I was attacked by a mob after school. I started off trying not to antagonize anyone , then I was apologetic and took a blow or two without much beyond turning the other cheek. Then I started fighting back,  I was kicking and punching but I was outnumbered and had no hope of things going well. The leader of my attackers was the scion of a Tongan aristocratic family who felt that I had insulted him although I wasn’t sure why. VIliami showed up and rescued me. I am not sure what was going on or how it would have worked out, but it was not long afterwards that I was caught up in the Dengue Fever epidemic that swept through the village. The disease killed some old, sick, weak and young people in the village. When I recovered I had missed some school but so did many others have days missed although they came from other villages. I was busy with all that went with surviving and recovering, but I felt ever after that the wariness and weakness that had followed on my childhood asthma were deepened and broadened. It is the start of another phase of my lifetime struggles to find the strength to go on.

I also was a guest of honor with my parents and alone and just with my father at feasts of various kinds, dances , soccer games and  cava ceremonies. I never felt uncomfortable with being honored or set apart as a dignitary or celebrity in this strange new world of Tongan culture.

In Tonga I spoke to chiefs and aristocrats and their children as well as to the people of the marinas who sailed the world in their yachts. With my parents we prayed and talked about other things and studied scripture.At the Cathedral the singing in the choirs was incredible and edifying and worship went for hours. At the Royal chapel the English language services broadened my horizons.At one of the feasts at a convent on the island I was stung by a whole nest of oversized tropical wasps and I felt like I permanently suffered some loss of sensation in my fingers.  Iloved Tonga but I was not thriving really.

WE did tour the natural and royal and historic sites on occasion from the blowholes to ancient ruins. I discussed these things with mariners and aristocrats, the Pasekas and others.  I found the various theories of how vikings and Polynesians and South American civilizations may have interacted. I read Kon-Tiki and other books. I also read the story of Joe Bulu a Tongan missionary. 

I had just gotten the guitar I had ordered weeks ago and Dad took it and checked me out of school and we headed for the next place. It was after a time of prayer and discernment but there was a lot I did not understand. We boarded the Lady Lata, Soane wept openly on the dock and in this little ship we went to Hapai and saw a huge Momon missions and had a picnic. I had a good time on the islands we visited and was amazed to see whales but the ship was rough and harsh accommodations. We stayed in Vavau with the ship a few days and we had then arrived in the lst sub group in the archipelago that make up the Kingdom of Tonga. While staying in a Catholic mission there I was already sick, got food poisoning and was tung by a deadly centipede. I almost died. But we got on the ship with me still sick and sailed the remaining distance back to US Territory. We sailed into the Pago Pago harbor in rough seas and when we hit the flat water of the harbor I wretched repeatedly with violent sea sickness. In less than a year, we returned to the United States and as soon as we got off the ship it felt like we were back in our country although very far from home.  I was still very weak as we looked for an apartment. But I went to sleep in a small motel after a more or less American meal we had bought for take out and I went to sleep in a small sort of family based motel.       

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Today as I wait for American Social Security awards and hope for the best, I live in America. I am still trying to figure out. I was very busy today discussing elections, sample ballots and property taxes with my wife at one point. On March 8,2024 Clara and I  watched the State of the Union address together at 9 o’clock Washington D.C. time and 8:00 our Louisiana living room time. Like every modern State of the Union during a Presidential  election year it was marked by the partisan political concerns of the moment. For me such occasions are powerful reminders of my own sense of alienation from mainstream politics. But I watched and listened and pondered with some interest. I found substantive issues to like and support and those I would oppose effectively, if I could oppose things effectively,

I also watched the Republican response by Senator Katie Britt speaking from her kitchen table in  Montgomery, Alabama. She was a relatable, down to Earth working parent from a state I have visited  many times  and that like Louisiana is situated on the Gulf Coast. I noted that her story was very different from my own and yet compared to those I have heard many times it was more connected to my own history of long connections to a region and a people – these are things  that    In her words I was reminded of my own childlessness, lack of political office and lack of certainty that any of the solutions proposed will actually make it possible for the man she mentioned to pay both his medical bills and his grocery bill., SHe told the story of talking to a retired man who had to take a job in retirement while collecting his Social Security or pension income. This hit rather close to home since I am in the position of choosing to be grateful and happy to get Social Security benefits – and it is not a hard choice as it is very evident that I am in fact unable to do better. 

 But life in America is an endless and uninterrupted journey of miscommunication and misrepresentation from my point of view. Many of the most important questions from my point of view are never addressed by any reputable speaker or official on any side of the American political spectrum. How it happened that I would be interested and so largely alienated is not clearly explainable in some simple way. But it is relevant that the religious conversion of my parents and our movement into missionary life had a lot to do with accepting a vision of life which involved renouncing a role in the future of my home community and the State of Louisiana to which I might have felt that I would gravitate. But when I look at the last year or so before we went into the missions I can also see that there were some signs of serious troubles looming in my future if I had stayed in America. I also very much recognize that since we left for Tonga there have been  successes I have had in the mainstream of my life  that occurred in the mainstream of American life. When those things occurred I could see that my relative successes did draw on both the years and connections that predated my mission life and the years that I spent in mission. What I know about my path into the future is very little and a great deal depends on what happens with my Social Security DIsability Income Application which in turn relies on analysis and interpretation of vast  number records  including job contracts, earning records, medical bills and medical records themselves.   

He is not as young as he once was but there are a lot of memories I will always have of him.

 I remember the years of my early childhood fairly well and I have revisited them in a number of ways in the previous chapters and will revisit them again. But there is a lot that I never did discuss so far and the dark shadows of those early years are wrapped in layers of mystery. This chapter will deal with the themes of Sacrifice and Adventure which were prominent themes in my early efforts to respond to our families call to the missions. It is as things go, the ongoing story of my own life. I feel the struggle to connect to almost anything in almost any way and yet also look back on a life lived over decades since those events occurred.

But whatever the years before the missions may have been like, I was transformed by my years in the missions and although I may not consider myself a missionary today I am aware that I never am free of the influence of the missionary experience.

my great grandmother’s painting