Chapter Twenty of Online Memoir: Sidetracks, Reflections and Impossible Events

My memoir has progressed to the recounting and interpretation of the events of my life in 1978. That is  even more specifically the time in 1978 when we were leaving La Cuchilla as our tourist visa expired. We were headed back home without a car. But it was a busy time and in recounting the recent years I left out two viewing experiences in 1977 that had a profound impact on me. One was the Jesus of Nazareth television series directed by Zeferelli. The other was watching Star Wars; The New Hope as it was widely released. Our whole family went to see it at a cinema in Charlottesville, VIrginia when we were staying with Jim and Kathy on one of the visits we had with them.   Both of these viewing experiences would stay very much part of me. I was still influenced by both experiences in 1988 when living as a married man, sometimes with my first wife and sometimes alone, I was able to watch the work of Joseph Campbell and his religious studies that had so influenced the world of George Lucas and his world of creative imagined cosmology. Of the two films the television series about Jesus probably impressed me more deeply because I felt that my spiritual connections and observances  were being portrayed by such a high level cast and director and communicated into American living rooms.  Few Americans realize that there are all day cinemas in many countries and some of them showed Jesus of Nazareth regularly for years. Other miniseries I have seen in such venues were Roots and Shogun. But as I recall Jesus of Nazareth was one such show that did at least as well as any other. I was moved by the experience of watching the film in an all day cinema in Mexico. 

But as big as Jesus of Nazareth was, Star Wars was huge in my experience of 1977 as well. Clara and I very much enjoy watching Star Wars films. May 4, 2024 was Star Wars Day, “May the Fourth Be With You” Day. Clara and I talked about the canon of films but we were busy going to help a family member as we woke up, then going to a gym, then picking up food at a fair, then going to a rosary and anticipated mass and then being treated  to dinner at a great local restaurant by my mother. We just didn’t get to celebrate Star Wars Day. But we made up for it on our streaming platform the next day. Clara and I watched Star Wars IV:  the New Hope on our couch. We had a rather full weekend, the May Fest supporting Vermilion Catholic: A Legacy of Mount Carmel. Had us eating, listening to live bands and playing cake bingo, where Clara won a German chocolate cake. We enjoyed eating the cake as we watched the film on Disney Plus. May fifth started with me waking up early and Clara woke up to join me.   I had just finished the last of my required continuing education courses for my Louisiana Life, Health and Accident Insurance Producer’s license. I had done some of the last course on disability insurance while standing in line waiting to donate plasma at the Talecris Plasma Resources center in Lafayette, Louisiana. Sadly, I had a deferral which has only happened a relatively few times in the years in which I have donated hundreds of times. However, this time I was anemic. My hematocrit (percent the volume of my blood made up by red blood cells) was just one percent too low. This worries me but in a life of many worries there is not going to be a lot of sleep lost just over the anemia itself. However, I am well aware that I do not have a great history of solid healthcare and I may not get to the age of Medicare at 65 healthy enough to fully benefit from that amazing opportunity for better healthcare. Later on in the evening of May 4, 2024 we watched Rogue One together. These were our festivities. OVER OTHER DAYS IN OUR THREE YEARS TOGETHER AS A COUPLE: I think we have watched most of the Star Wars movies and television shows together at least once. We have also watched some documentaries about the making of the first three films At other times in my life I watched Joseph Campbell and the Power of Myth with Bill Moyers interviewing Joseph Campbell and I read the books of Joseph Campbell after I saw the interviews and bought the companion book for the television series. I was very much aware that George Lucas and his associates were deeply influenced by the thought of Joseph Campbell. However, the links I have to science fiction and its appeals go far beyond the Star Wars universe. My interest in writing and books goes very far and wide indeed. 

As I discussed before on May 4, 2024 Clara and I talked a bit about Star Wars but did not view the films because we were otherwise engaged. Instead that day we  went to work out at our health club, picked up some food from the May Fest booths (partly because it was good food and partly to use up our remaining tickets).   

What was happening on our side of the screen was very different from the epic saga and massively consequential adventure being portrayed. It was also different from the hugely successful and seminal blockbuster film that laid the foundation for an arts and entertainment empire. Our lives do not much resemble Star Wars. But oddly enough, it is  about my life’s own version of a Star Wars epic that  this chapter of my memoir is mostly about. Space has been a subject already approached and the letter from President Joe Biden in the last chapter was very much a demonstration of how space has become and remained an important interest. In time, if I live to finish this memoir, there will be quite a bit of text devoted to the Crater Cap Colony Concept and the groups and efforts associated with it for many years. But this chapter is about something else that being a Star Wars fan or trying to have a voice regarding human space exploration and colonization. This is not really in the same category as my discussions of mystical experience. This is about my own improbable take on what has been called the experience of encounters with extraterrestrials and extraterrestrial civilizations. What I am writing is not exactly a report and it is certainly not an essay advocating a particular point of view. It is more like a portrait of what exists in some unique region of my mind that is both memory and imagination.         

On Tuesday April 30, 2024 I attended a six o’clock meeting of the Writers Guild of Acadiana. The featured speaker was Joseph N. Abraham M.D. The little blurb about the author on his most recent book describes him thus:

JOSEPH N. ABRAHAM M.D. is an emergency physician and evolutionary biologist with academic backgrounds in art, chemistry, and French. An omnivorous  reader and inveterate  traveler, Abraham draws on his diverse backgrounds to offer a new examination of the human condition. Dr. Abraham  is a VIetnam veteran who writes and publishes the  blog Bookscrounger.com 

I have known Joseph Abraham on Facebook for a long time. I won his book Kings, Conquerors, Psychopaths: From Alexander to Hitler to the Corporation is a book that has won all sorts of awards. He is a very practical man as well as an intellectual. We have communicated a significant if not really large amount about some of his previous works as well as about posts on either of our accounts. He has a number of strong positions that differ from mine. But the biggest difference is how much more he has dialed into the business of success. At least that is how it seems to me. I am not a very successful person by the standard of leaving offspring behind, building a fortune, holding high office or any of a number of other measures.   

The chances of me being impractical and also very much out of synch with many things were  already very high. My mind was full of poets, writers, adventurers, aristocrats trying to keep together great estates, inventors sacrificing for their creations and martyrs dying for their faith. It was far from urgent that I have  yet another reason to avoid engaging in the all consuming work of getting along and making one’s way in life. It is that sense of being about all sorts of impractical ideals and obligations that has been one of my most distinguishing marks. The real world had plenty of demands to make and I was not always fully able to respond to those demands.   

When we left Cuchilla Del Tesoro and Mexico City it was to leave Mexico itself because our 6 month tourist visa had expired. This chapter is about a number of things but it is not mostly about the time we spent in Abbeville between living in la Cuchilla and living in Colombia. This is a little bit different in that it is much more about the parts of my life that cannot be easily verified by any external source.  I remember that I was on my way back to the house after a long day seeing the sites and saying goodbye with some of my friends. Then I decided to take a separate set of public transit connections to get home. On my way home, I had four hours of lost time. When I got home I wrote some notes and drew some pictures in a notebook that I hid among some things in a bag in a hole in the building wall. That could be covered and made to look like a pretty normal section of the wall.  I made a timeline of related events that went all the way back to my early childhood. Among the drawings in the notebook were drawings that resembled the Maya pyramids, although I had never visited those pyramids – only the Aztec sites and those mostly in samples and dioramas in the museums we had visited and the displays we had seen in a day we spent touring and speaking at prayer groups at the enormous Ciudad Universitaria . The pyramids were also probably used  as a design motif in a modified street fair ride that spun around. But in my drawing the little figures on the  steps stacked into a pyramid. The seats were gimbaled somehow. The pyramid was in a sphere. When the ship in which the pyramid sat was on the ground the pyramid worked with our  planet’s gravity. In moving through space and the upper atmosphere the chamber spins so that the thrust comes from the area at the base of the pyramid. The spin of the chamber is however continuous this spin pulls out laterally and with the use of electrical fields and magnetism the ship is able to divide the g forces going down by the g-forces going outward in such a way that livable gravitational balance is sustained. The sphere with the pyramid was conned by telescoping arms to six other smaller spheres and the whole substructure was built into an outer structure made up of hundred of superflexible wings that spun in two sets connecting an upper and lower ring to a double equatorial ring, one set is from ring around the top of the upper sphere to flexible ring connecting all of the four spheres on the equator of the ship. The other set of wings is almost identical but is from the lower ring to the equatorial ring. Bags, bellows and jets made of superstrong gel  fill the space under the skin made of wings and outside of the structure of seven spheres.gasses and plasma are ejected through all three rings and the skin of wings. The ships can change sizes and shapes to a shocking degree. I have a hard time remembering how much of this detail was in the notebook I created in the Cuchilla. I know that my notes on the comms and propulsions came much later. I noticed then that I could only visualize the ships when I did not directly try to place them in my memory or analyze them very much. If I focussed on when, where and how I had seen these ships they disappeared from my mind’s eye. 

Gradually I embarked on exercises that allowed me to write and draw huge amounts of words and images about alien ships but for years it all disappeared if I asked myself what this  information might represent in my own life. In the years to come I struggled  to draw the engines from various points of view. In the later drawings there was never the definition of the details of the engines that I achieved with the outer mechanical structures of the ship. The  basic structures that I saw were a hemisphere of carefully arranged and ordered jewels in bands and beds of gold, platinum, silver,zinc and lead. Iron filaments flow like living things through hundreds of nesting transparent crystal hemispheres resting on the lower sphere and completing the sphere as a whole.Hydrogen and metals flow through conduits on the nearly molten hemisphere of metal and jewels. These small units of matter are conditioned, charged and energized in very specific ways while various beams and pulses maneuver them into various points, then the more powerful beams fuses the atoms in the materials and the energy is sent through countless conduits in different directions.  The whole sphere is located in a set of angular lines and rays appearing and disappearing between a set of projectors. The whole engine per se sits in a hemisphere below the pyramid hemisphere. Above the engine sets the drive. The drive has a crystal lens floating in a kind of force field for each crystal layer of the crystal hemisphere of the engine.  The field in which each floats is folded onto the surface of its hemisphere of crystal. Six sets of projectors move a single point around in the drive to transmit energy into a larger hemisphere which conducts energy and information throughout the ship.   Meanwhile excess energy produced by the fusion reactions is swirling in a cloud of  exotic particles around the drive point. 

 Much of the room is filled with a complicated amalgam of crystals wires, vines, fungi and a kind of artificial animal brain. Together, these formed a living computer that managed the engine and comms systems of the ship.  By accessing geometric principles that affect space time itself the ships can find ephemeral portals through space and time.   These comms are also able to interact with the brainwaves, bio-electric fields and electromagnetic spheres created in nature.   

The skins made of wings can take in water, air, other gasses and these are also connected to the living computer which processes them into chemicals and compounds needed on the ship. The outer six spheres each have a residential section, a storage section and a section that includes more mechanical and functional ship systems. The ship’s populations vary in size. There are weapons in all of these ships but they vary in potency and complexity. However, in whatever this fantasy, dream, vision or memory is – the people in this ship are not able to come in vast numbers to visit or occupy Earth  and are not able to remain here forever. 

The crew in my pictures consisted of the same three species of human like people on most ships. One of the species are short and could be blueish or greenish in color and very strong and stout with three six fingered hands and two six-toed feet.   These creatures are primarily concerned with mechanical, electronic and chemical operations on each ship. They however sometimes assist the striped obviously muscled pointed faced and  large pointed ear  warriors with large teardrop shaped eyes and nostrils. Mostly the three armed blue dwarves help the warrior types in maintaining the operations of the engine and drive. These striped.  These creatures often wear a suit which gives them a placid expressionless look and because of a field generated in the suit it makes it possible for them to appear much more slight and willowy than they actually are. The suits also extend their height and reach.  The are able to fly short distances and levitate in their suits. They are about 90% males in the groups that come here. The lowest level males are completely sexually dormant. The highest cast impregnate most of the females who have six pronounced breasts and usually give birth to triplets which are usually identical.  The other species are  the most like humans but are about seven feet tall among males and 6 foot five among females. The tend to be slighter than humans on average and wear jewelry, capes, robes, complex insignia and tattoos. They have no hair except atop their heads and in a few spots on their bodies. They study the philosophy, religion, history, mathematics and physics that become relevant and generally control communications and create navigational routes and plans. Council on the mother ship is made up of about half the seats belong to these  creatures that I have described last and about a quarter of the seats belong to each of the other  other two species.. Additionally, they have some kind of pronounced telepathic ability. Usually the commander of a motherships is one of them but not always. 

There are three classes of ships. The middle class lodge four smaller ships in the four equatorial orbs and these ships are very similar except for scale. The mother ship is made up of hub with arms continuing racks on which twelve of the middle size    Most of the females that travel live on the mothership. They tend the young and the plants. There are three distinct spheres imitating the homeworld of each of the three species with plants and animals from that world. Then there is a sort of palace garden sphere. No mothership has ever visited our solar system. They use their engines and drives and other devices to open a portal through which the middle size ships fly. These ships visit us. I am under the impression that a mothership is approaching us at about  half the speed of light with occasional skips through a particularly promising portal. They estimate its arrival in our solar system in about 5,000 years. The motherships communicate across enormous distances with one another and the smaller ships have limited capacity for truly distant communication.       

The motherships  move endlessly through the universe by having semi-detached scout ships using rays, fusion bombs of very small size and clashing fields to tear and stretch portals through those parts of time and space that can be opened by them. Meanwhile the maintain a king of rocket in which a tornado of forces which drive the ships on a relative straight line of forward progress and acceleration while the steering system changes space as they proceed.

Yes, I have at times created whole folders and books of the details of these ships and peoples and at times I have burnt whole sets of such books. But in the years and convolutions of the images I have only linked a few days and hours and minutes of lost time. I have only found a few meager traces of effects on certain places. I will return to this impossible subject again. But I remember that leaving Mexico City was a time when I first took a deep organized dive into whatever these thoughts are all about.

Chapter Nineteen of Online Memoir: Masses, Margins and Metros in Mexico City

Life has brought me back to some places more than once and to others only once. It seems a better and more effective way to write a memoir to go evenly from ur time in Cuernavaca and IDeal and tell how we followed the trip medical progress of my uncle Jed  as we connected with the Justicia and Alabanza community and Dad began working with Will Rodriguez an evangelist in the Mega-city that was Mexico City in 1978. But I think of a time a little later when we would come back for the visit for Pope John Paul’s visit in 1979 when millions came to see the Pope at several venues. By then we would have Susanna Maria SUmmers born in Colombia on September 20, 1978. Sarah still had some memories of Cuchilla del Tesoro and we had come down in a vehicle and parked in front of what had been our apartment  building  in 1978. It was a somewhat refurbished and livable vehicle. It was simply  a stop on the way to our longer and more eventful mission in San Pedro Atzcapotzaltongo (or Villa Nicolas Romero) near Mexico City. We were drawn back there and had many reunions with friends and prayer groups near the busy airport.   I remember tacking a man coming out of the shadow of our van in panic after returning after midnight from a prayer group.He seemed to be very much caught in the act of doing something he was afraid to be held accountable for but he would not really fight me or confess before he left the area and I did not see him again. 

 I had grown and filled out a bit compared to when we arrived only with Sarah the first time. During the Pope’s visit I  also hung out with three siblings. It was another lesson in life’s road. I had feelings for one sister and she did not much care for me but her sister did have feelings for me. I remember her fondly but I was aware at the time that there was something about the cruelty of the situation that had nothing to do with the fact that we were all too young to have much of the relationships we were dreaming about and trying to discuss. It was all pretty innocent but also pretty genuinely sad. I came to visit Mexico City a number of times. Once or twice a group of people came up to give me booklets in Spanish on social and religious theories. One of them explained a history of what would be known as the Theology of Liberation. ANother was about how Jesus had a separate tradition from the Christian Churches that also came from him – a line of sacred prostitutes and knights. All of it was hard to process and it was coming at a time when I was learning about Alcoholics Anonymous,  the Freemasons,  the Guerreros Cristeros who had fought against repression of the Church in Mexico in the 20’s and also revolutionaries of the likes of Pancho VIlla. With all these things and others I will return to in a later chapter on San Pedro I went alone to Cuchilla on a visit and stayed with the Rodriguez family in their home.on March 14, 1979. I slept in their home full of troubled dreams. While I slept the rest of the family left the building and sirens filled the streets and the ceiling and roof cracked above me and my bed moved twenty feet from inside a bedroom looking out at the morning sky. There had been a large earthquake and I had never woken up. But in the night I slept to the shock of everyone and emerged unscathed. I had dreams which have stayed with me all my life and are more prominent than any of my waking experiences in that place. For me, the Cuchilla will always be a place where earth split and the sky was laid bare to my waking eyes.  But that was long enough after we first arrived there for it to really be a different story.

I was working on this chapter as April wrapped up and May drew near in 2024 in Abbeville, Louisiana. Whatever it was that occupied me in this period that ran from my wife’s 60th birthday on Saturday the 20th of April. It was a special party and like almost everything in this memoir, I am holding back something about it because it seems to make life even more ridiculous to expose the hurt and pain of life for so little consequence.  I am unpaid for this and have so very few readers. It is important to me to note that on the 27th of April I worked as an election commissioner for the Precinct that I live in for an election in which our precinct only had two local tax renewals on our ballots. I also voted there. Clara supported me wonderfully, bringing me a Sonic diet cherry limeade. There was a very low turnout and I made sarcastic remarks about it. I also got paid $200 for my 13 hours on the clock. I was plenty tired afterwards. But the system is built for the heavy turnout elections and from a system point of view these small elections are easier and function as a valid election but also a rehearsal to keep all the systems in good shape, including the performance of commissioners like myself.  It is both sad that less than ten percent of the voters in my precinct showed up to vote for something that matters AND ALSO it was a proof of the great expense that is laid out for Americans to express themselves politically. Because I knew that I was going to be writing about this period in my life I could not help could but compare all of this to life in the forming Colonia (not yet fully a colonia) San Lazaro where my father and sometimes I ministered when we lived in Colonia Cuchilla del Tesoro in Mexico CIty in 1978.    Unlike the people of my precinct in 2024 who were not willing to vote on the infrastructure issues on their ballot, the people of San Lazaro came to the prayer meetings that we had and besides the prayers, Bible study and shared snacks they had a very big infrastructure issue. Waste water and sewage pooled in their neighborhood and the synch was sickening. Germs and disease were prevalent and there was contamination of the water they had access to for drinking and washing. But the people had petitioned for the public plumbing, grading and paving at the heart of their community to be done.  That public infrastructure was the focus of the prayers and my father was happy to report it as God’s blessing when the city came and started working on their problems. I was happy to praise God because it seemed I might go to most of those prayer meetings and not get sick. However, from a point of view of how exactly God may have heard the prayers of his people in San Lazaro, there are some facts. It is not hard to believe that there were in fact people in the city who investigated the situation and found that a foreigner whose father was on the highest court of the US State of Louisiana and who was a lawyer educated in law schools in New Orleans, New York and London  was visiting these people. It was not a matter of hatred for the people of San Lazaro that would have kept them in the desperate situation. They responded to the potential risks of the village being healed or being neglected. WHile the village thanked God for the change they also thanked the government, they continued to work hard and with less sickness and misery they improved their houses and developed small businesses more quickly and people paid their taxes. It was a good outcome. This would be a pattern of the SUmmers family ministry in the days before Family Missions Company. A number of time we were able to direct and redirect new attention to a variety of needs, problems and resources and things changed for the better. Often the vehicle was a prayer meeting. I had little doubt then and still believe now that God heard the prayers of  the people gathered to pray. It was a very powerful moment in our lives and there would be others.      

This chapter has seen some time pass in getting it out to the miniscule readership and slightly larger potential readership that could be said to await this chapter, Like most of the chapters of this memoir, this one starts with a look at the recent days and then ties back to a time and place in the past. The time  and place in the past was the time when we first lived in the Colonia Cuchilla del Tesoro near the large international airport in Mexico City . I will discuss it a bit more in my usual rambling way. But it was in those days the city was also the Distrito Federal, like our District of Columbia plays a unique role in the United States, this federal district played a special role in the constitution of the United Mexican States.  The city had its roots in the Aztec capitol city of Tenochtitlan. It was a city of causeways, a few highlands and many man-made floating islands. There was even a system for causing the natural salts to be pooled separately from the freshwater used for drinking and agriculture. A center of governance, military administration, religion and human sacrifice that supported large scale cannibalism. Then there was SPanish conquest and Catholic evangelization. It was on these foundations that the modern megacity of Mexico City had risen. 

It was the largest city in the world and from its streets, I often watched the jets come and go from the airport. In other places in the city I looked at the little bit of snow caps on the mountains. Snow was among the things that did not occur  any closer to the equator than this. We knew that we were South of Louisiana and deeper into the more tropical latitudes. But you could drive or ride a car for a few minutes for a really good view of the snow  in the winter. You could also expect plenty  of relatively cold  winter days in Mexico CIty itself. It was yet another part of my education in my overall immersive understanding of geography. 

With jets, snow caps and the interest I had in the stars, I found Mexico CIty a place to look up. I still look up. In recent days  (April 24, 2024) I received an email in response to the message I had sent to the White House about space. I have attached the  test of the message in the body of this chapter. I am a part of the lunatic fringe of people who are really very serious about colonizing the Moon and Mars. We do not all agree and yet we all agree in the space colonizing community that the stakes of getting it right are pretty high.

The real story of that part of my life is for a much later chapter. But I do remember that there was a great deal of talk about space among a few of the people I knew and almost no talk of space among most people I knew. But there was another factor, it was a matter of language. In the English spoken around me in my childhood, Heaven was where God reigned over the angels and where the souls of the Blessed went when they died.  Sky was where the clouds formed and the stars and sun shone down upon the Earth. But, in Spanish “CIelo” covered the meaning of SKy and Heaven in the English of my childhood. 

There are many things from my life that are not easy to recount.  Some things are hard to fit into the records I am able to find. I am pretty sure of a storm, earthquake or public event of some magnitude and it is still not easy to figure out which one it was some times. Writing down one’s own history is much more challenging than some people might think. I was in a significant earthquake in Cuchilla del Tesoro. I was sleeping at the home of WIll Rodriguez the evangelist and my friend Benito who was his brother- in- law.  WIll was a  Rodriguez who had married another Rodriguez. That must have been on a visit to the Colonia not during the period described in this chapter. I have not been back in many, many years but I did visit it on a number of occasions.     

 The White HouseDear Mr. Summers,Thank you for writing to me about the wonders of space

Our Nation’s space program has always blazed trails into the deep unknown—from landing the first humans on the Moon to launching the Space Shuttle and International Space Station programs and developing the climate-monitoring Earth System Observatory.  And we’re just getting started.

Recently, NASA launched the world’s newest and most powerful deep-space telescope to peer back in time to the origin of the Universe.  Thanks to the James Webb Space Telescope, we can now see light from the oldest galaxies over 13 billion years ago, a testament to the power of American ingenuity and collaboration. 

We will continue to invest in science and technology in order to accomplish great things.  Importantly, in collaboration with commercial and international partners, NASA will lead a triumphant return to the Moon with the Artemis program.  This innovative and sustainable program will land the first woman and first person of color on the Moon, establish a long-term presence on the Moon, and learn about living and working farther away from Earth than ever before in preparation to send the first astronauts to Mars

Thank you again for sharing your enthusiasm for space and what lies beyond the cosmos.  Together we will continue to show the world that our Nation can do big things, and that there is nothing beyond our capabilities.  America is defined by possibilities, and the endless possibilities of space exploration are within our reach.Sincerely,Joe Biden

Each phase in my life and each place I have lived has left a mark upon me. My awareness of the way that Colonia la Cuchilla del Tesoro impacted me has developed over time.  I was feeling aware of the world in different ways when we got to Mexico City. My friends and I used to watch the jets come and go   and sometimes we talked about where they were coming from and where they were going. I don’t remember meeting anyone in the neighborhood besides myself and my parents who had ever flown on a jet. Furthermore,  there were very few people who worked at any of the many jobs a large airport creates. I never saw mechanics, custodians, pilots or vendors from the airport in the neighborhood. It was like a huge portal to the wide world  bursting with resources, noise and complexity that was divided from another huge world bursting with resources, noise and complexity. The two worlds were divided by a fence  and in most places by a trench that ran at the end of our block. The biggest difference was that I knew the people in the airport and the jets could mostly ignore the colonia but in the colonia we were frequently interrupted by the almost deafening roar  of the jets. I have flown out of a lot of airports including several in Mexico during the 59 years of my life  – but even now I don’t recall even having a layover in the big airport in Mexico City.  I suppose it is meaningful to me that a few things have not changed from when I first looked through the fence at the airport.

It was hard to accept all that was different about lives on each side of the fence. But I thought about it quite a bit. WHat were those differences and why did they matter. 

Monday,  April 22, 2024: I had a meeting with an experienced and successful insurance agent. I enjoyed what he had to say. However, I was aware of the general decline of the petty professionals like independent insurance agents based in small town America, freelance writers and untenured teachers. I do the best I can and I legitimately like the company that I am working for now. I feel like the work I do is pretty important and I am hoping that with some effort and a little of what we call luck I might be able to do it for a living while I donate plasma and work as an election commissioner. I am probably not busy enough to make a living and that gives me time to tend plants, cut grass, do some more cooking and laundry etc. I am pretty sure that the down time not spent on the clock is something that appeals to me. I am not a person who falls into the middle of a lot of averages and hangs out in the middle of a lot of bell curves. But of course there are some exceptions. I have tried to answer the   test called the Political Compass Test honestly over the years and I have moved sound a bit. However, although the exact position has varied I have always been placed much closer to the center than either the authoritarian or libertarian extremes.  I have also always gotten a result nearer to the center than to the right or left extremes of the test. That used to surprise me more than it does nowadays. 

Clara and I attended the rite of Confirmation within the  Mass for my niece and her first cousin who were confirmed at St. Pius X Catholic Church in Lafayette, Louisiana on Sunday, April 21, 2024. We then went to a reception at my sister Mary Hindelang’s in-laws home where there was cake, a soft drinks bar, a spread of snacks and appetizers and decorations for the occasion. Earlier that day Clara and I had picked up the shrimp dinners she had ordered from the Knights of Columbus and we had eaten those dinners at home. We then stopped at Costco where we did a small amount of shopping. Once that was done we headed home. Later in the evening we had leftovers fro supper that remained from the party the night before. 

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On Saturday April 20, 2024 we celebrated Clara’s birthday in our home. We had a cake and buffet (to which some guests contributed potluck dishes) , an open soft drink bar and an open bar of the other kind.  Decorations announced the occasion and in some decorations there were stacks of photographs taken throughout Clara’s life that people could look through. We also had a gift table and after the cake was served to everyone, Clara opened gifts. We had sent our two dogs Abby and Bella to the dogsitter. Besides Clara and I we had her sister G—- and nephew Z_____ but  hubby D_____ could not come. Among the first to arrive were Freddy and Sandy Dubois, the couple that led our marriage preparation classes.  Clara’s godfather R______ and his wife C______ came from New Iberia as did her cousins P— and D—–  P. & D. are the couple from whom she adopted  our two dogs over two separate litters. We had her brother Father Edward.   We also had my sister Sarah, her husband Kevin and their children I—b–, J— and E—but I—-a- could not come because he had another party he had to attend that evening. My sister Mary was there with her husband C—- and two of their five children N— and J—-. Our good friends in whose presence we started our adult relationship J–c– M— and her brother J—d- M— were there as well as J—c–’s son S—- J—-. In addition two mre of Jackie’s dear friends M— L—- T— R— and A– M— E— were there, along with this J–c– M—  and Clara herself these two other  ladies were the four woman majority of a tight group of female friends called the YO YOs.  

The party was not overly complex  but it was very nice, I think. I cooked a large beef brisket, a homemade chicken rice-a-roni style  dish, chicken soup dumplings, several kinds of rice and gravy as well as setting out a bowl of fruit. Guests who chose to bring something combined to provide: a guacamole dip, rice dressing, potato salad, spaghetti and cheese as well as an additional cookie cake to compliment the birthday cake. Nobody seemed to be doing without.         

When we first moved to Mexico City I had memories of having lived in two modern megacities, New York and London. They had left their impact on my life, character and perspectives. Each of these two cities was very different. In Soho in London there was a mix of graduate students, artists, small businesses and  sex workers among the flats, and walkup townhouses that dominated the area. New York CIty had a block association that ran a small park and we all knew about it . Our building had a buzz-in foyer and a set of elevators that almost always worked. There were professionals in the lawyer and doctor class but the general demographic was much the same. Cuchilla del Tesoro had lots of private homes with small gardens in their atria. They were two or three stories in many cases and in a culture with limited financing they were mostly being built or added on to by the people living in them. But there were businesses and shops of many kinds. There were a few apartment complexes and one of them was  the one we rented. It had clotheslines built into a structure on the roof and a washtub, concrete washboard which had running water and a good set of drains under the stairs. Like most buildings in the area and much of Mexico the wall of the building was right flush with the sidewalk. In our case there were no windows on the lower level facing the street. A utility room and a gate for the whole complex made a solid wall. Our apartment had windows that looked out onto the atrium’ s lower level, across an empty but painted  wall and a staircase. There were no apartments on the other side of the courtyard, so it was not a true atrium but meant to feel like one. My memory is growing dim on odd things, I am really not sure if there were two or four apartments in our complex but I believe we had four. Two rented to families that lived there and two to business people who were almost never there. There was one other tiny studio on the same floor and it was rented to some business person who was almost never there. The upper floor was occupied by two  apartments. There were two little girls, Blanca and Adriana who became good friends of Sarah’s. There was another studio rented to a business person almost always out of town.The apartment was very near the airport. Our block bordered on the outer fence of the airport but the fence extended around a lot of open space between our block and the buildings and runways. Nonetheless there were many times during the day when the planes taking off and landing created noise that was truly deafening in our home.   

We faced a class in becoming habituated to the interruptions until we did not notice them. We occasionally made  simple tapes to send home in those days or even to a very few potential benefactors. We were operating in a position where I was not in school and my parents were doing a variety of things. But the central assignment we had as a missionary unit was to work with WIll Rodriguez. He lived in the same fairly large house with his wife and some of her family including her brother, his brother- in- law who was not more than 20 years old at the time. He and I would become friends. I valued his help in teaching me to improve my Spanish and we sometimes met to try and discuss the Bible. My father was invited to go with WIll and he assisted with music, learned the basic memorized prayers and some of the most used Bible verses – not very well at all. But he did learn and with some translations from leaders in the Justicia y Alabanza community, Dad and Will got to know each other, in the flow of things WIll began to tell the story of Dad’s spiritual journey with Christ. That is called a “testimony”. 

. It was with Will that Dad had begun the ministry to San Lazaro that was discussed in the first paragraphs of this chapter. I wished to be clear that this was my father’s ministry although we all did our part to support it. I did take up a small job teaching a shopkeeper English. He was able to tutor me a little form a math book in Spanish and paid me a differential of a bag of groceries and a few pesos. However, he only found this arrangement worthwhile for about twelve lessons.  We met  three times each week. I also took advantage of study and an occasional hourly job from the social services ministry in the local church parish. But there was nothing like full-time school, full-time ministry or full time work. My life was a hodgepodge of activity     

Just an American connecting an interest with the President….

Online Memoir Chapter Eighteen: A sense of Sacrifice and Mission

On April 18, 2024 I woke up at 4:45 to take Abby, our oldest Tsi Tzu. outside to relieve herself. Unfortunately upon coming inside she began to vomit and eventually my wife and I were up together cleaning up dog vomit. Yesterday, I was helping my mother prepare some online orders for a few birthday presents in the family, it took all the time we had till she had an appointment to run off and see my brother in the Behavioral Medicine Clinic. Earlier that day I visited my godfather who seemed to be in very poor health, although we did not really visit because he remained asleep while I was there. Our evening together included a pleasant interlude at a local art gallery and museum exhibiting young artists including the daughter of one of her coworkers.  We followed the visit to the gallery with participating in a rosary at church for three children having open heart surgeries in the coming days. My life today is one in which I am very aware of suffering and in which I expect there to be many troubles around me which I cannot easily address. But in 1978 in Cuernavaca, our family were hoping to start a new phase as Spanish speaking  missionaries in Mexico. We had a kind of optimism. Part of it came from the climate and the place we were in at the time. Weather still affects my mood I suppose.

The springtime weather is pleasant here (and we know in south Louisiana that for many of us Summer will be much harsher) the weather in January 1977 in Cuernavaca was pleasant as well. The Soviet Union had not nearly fallen in those days and Leonid Illich Brezhnev was the General Secretary of the Communist Party and the extremely powerful executive of the USSR  and Alexei Kosygin was the premier of the Soviet Union. There had been a time when the offices were fused but separating them had not greatly liberalized power relations. There was a Ukrainian- American at IDEAL studying with us who was very eager to oppose the Soviet backed communist machinations in Latin America. But he made it clear that he did not  believe anti-communism was his primary motivation. He was anti-Russian every bit as much as Anti-communist. His family had a Ukrainian RIte Catholic branch and a Ukrainian Orthodox  Branchand according to him, both sides had been persecuted horribly by Russian backed political figures and thugs and the Russian Orthodox  Church.  I was rather an admirer of Russian art and culture. It was not easy to hear what he said then. But today it seems more meaningful.  

On April 17, 2024 my brother with Prader-Wili Syndrome  was admitted to a  Behavioral Medicine Clinic. I feel sad about that and I remember the year and half during the COVID-19 pandemic health and labor crisis when I worked as his caregiver. It made a lot of difference to me, to see him as a member of a health club with a pool. Itmeant something to me to see him going to museums, visiting parks and historical sites and doing things like art class. But this is a different time. Of course on Holy Thursday he did have his feet washed at church and that was very cool. I look at his life and mine and I think of all that is changeable over the course of my life.      

April 16, 2024 was a day to try to make the best of some good things in the world we live in and the lives we lead in it. It was a day to hear that my mother and my brother who was born with Prader-WIli Syndrome were having a problem that was going to involve the police. I was also very busy at some levels and yet between two insurance training meetings online, cooking two meals with enough leftovers to share for at least a few days. I think of SImon’s mutation and its consequences as do the Fabry mutations of my nephews, the spina bifida issues of my aunt,   the mosaic Fabry of my father, the cystic fibrosis of my niece, the varied freakish conditions that my grandmother concealed from all but a very few. It is through the lens of my own family experience that I see some of the experiences in this memoir that are hardest to process and believe. I am pretty sure that I also am different than other people. We are all different. Clara and I watched X-Men First Class on April 16. Movies about mutants with special powers would not be as popular as they are. People are aware that there are secret differences between their won inner lives and the world around them. I believe that is the human condition, But I also believe that I am more different than most.    

On April 15, 2024 it was tax day in the United States of America. My wife Clara is an inactive CPA and the former comptroller of a large law enforcement institution. We filed our tax returns  early and got our refunds, that was great.Today my mother treated Clara and I , her new companion Donald and her brother Bruce’s widow out for dinner at Richard’s Seafood Patio. It is an old association or connection for each of us to our past to eat there. It was the first time Doanld and Ihad ever really conversed, although I think we had spoken before. My mother had a large bruise on her face which she covered in makeup. She said she fell and hit her face on the floor. I know she has had a number of falls and injuries. I hope that she is simply falling, because although that is upsetting, most other possible causes are more upsetting. She paid with the proceeds of the only  oil and gas check she ever gets, we all ate for about as much money as the Social Security awards for a death benefit on a fully vested person. I wonder how much we paid for a month of room and board ( we did get most of our board there) at the house across the street from IDEAL. I very much doubt that it cost the four of us more than the figure on the tab for dinner tonight. Much of that  financial contrast is related to the inflation of the US currency over the years. However, a great deal of the difference is also attributable to the fact that Mom had a lot more money on this recent Monday evening than she would have had in any account under her name at the time we were in Cuernavaca in 1977 or 1978. Times and circumstances change. They change in both big and small ways and both very quickly and gradually over time. We are all living in a series of changes that distance each of  us from the events that we remember.   In my current project I am trying to communicate to a theoretical reader the memories and remembered events that seem alien even to me.   

One day in Cuernavaca, we were in a more or less optimistic  mood as a small family processing the news that the church authorities had agreed it would be good for us to work with a recognized lay evangelist, WIll Rodriguez. This long commissioned lay evangelist would help facilitate us starting a family base of ministry. Mom and Dad were eager to speak in terms of “we” including me in those days. It was always important to them that I was buying in and they were not responsible for missing out on my education. They coached me to say that I was homeschooled when it suited them,  they said “The Lord is educating our son”  when that suited them. Each of these  presentations of my situation was a part of the truth.

Another part of the truth was that (although there had been no other people under age in the classes at IDEAL) I had been involved in school related activities about 11 hours a day, not counting the pottery class I took and other enrichment activities. It was the most intense educational experience in an institution that I had ever known. I made very good progress and a whole new world was opening up before me. This was a world of speaking Spanish, eating and understanding a breath of Mexican cuisine and being able to converse about the arts and crafts of Mexico.   I could see from my rich educational experience in a real school that had just ended, that in practice my parents  were still providing real opportunities for my education. However, I knew that I was not likely to be happy in school. I knew my parents resented me in a way that most parents did not, but I knew they loved me too. I also knew that parents around the world sold their children into slavery, killed them, pimped them out and beat or crippled them to make them beggars. People avoided pregnancy, had abortions, committed infanticide, abandoned their infants and placed children up for adoption and into the foster care system. It was known to me that regents had killed the heirs apparent they were to guard in wealthy dynasties.  I also knew that families starved their children to death in slums because they felt too powerless to act on their behalf any longer. I was not one who compared my parents and their behavior only to the television fare of the 1950s or the family comedies that were to follow.They were not necessarily better or worse than the parents in Ozzie and Harriet, Father Knows Best, The Brady Bunch, The Partridge Family  or even the more complex and exotic portrayals in films such as The Sound of Music or It’s A Wonderful Life. I saw my parents as I saw lots of other parents, it was my primary objective to maximize the good they could do for me and themselves and minimize the harm. I was also very much inclined to believe they would do a lot of good and create a lot of opportunities for good for all of us if they did not get all or some of us killed. But I did worry that they did not see the risks I saw, at least they did not see them at all in the same way. I already had a sense at the age of 13 that cataclysms swept over huge numbers of people on rare occasions. Wars, plagues, depressions and natural disasters hit millions unexpectedly. Many of these people did not seem to process whatever the horrors and dangers of their daily lives and the daily lives of their society might be. For many people  when they were caught up in a once in a lifetime tragedy, life seemed something like a fabric of  good and definitely reasonably normal circumstances,  so when very bad things happened to their whole society and environment it was almost incomprehensible. There were others who were prophets in the wilderness, survivalists, hermits, recluses and perpetual fugitives – for these kinds of people the world was always dangerously and tragically flawed and often evil. A third kind of people were adventurers who flirted repeatedly with dangers of all kinds. I saw in our family an unusual mix of all three perspectives on how the outside world interacted with our family.

But whatever we did expect on that January morning in Cuernavaca we did not expect the news that would come about my uncle Jed when we were only a very long day’s journey away if we really tried to return to Louisiana for a family emergency. We felt in  Tonga that we could not go home for crises in the extended  family. But we had not really considered ourselves to be far from home in central Mexico. That sense of distance  was about to change..   

I am 59 years old and getting closer and closer to the end of my life’s journey than the start of it by any reasonable  calculation. The probabilities of me living to 118 are very minute. According to some actuarial tables and life expectancy calculators I should live to just over 80 on the very course calculator of being a male U.S. resident who is currently 50 years old in 20224.  Life is uncertain, so is the time of death. But we can all pick some future date at which we are fairly certain that we will not be alive. To believe in an afterlife is still to know that whatever it is, it is not this life. Death remains a painful farewell, the dissolution of the bonds that make up the body that whatever else we are may animate. Just before we left Cuernavaca it seemed that death might be coming for my uncle Jed who had gone with us to Europe and lived with us in our London flat when school was not in session. At that time, Jed Gerard Gremillion was 23 or 24 years old. Jed was very much in the prime of his life and making great strides, his parents had both attended the university but not finished. His oldest sister and oldest brother had both attended and not finished a degree (Mom would later finish hers). But Jed had graduated from LSU and was enrolled in Loyola Law School. He had gone quickly through a challenging undergraduate curriculum and married a very appealing young woman who got her degree from Saint Mary’s Dominican College in New Orleans, where my wife Clara got her degree. 

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It turned out that I was never going to be able to sit back in the glow of secure success and reflect on all of my path through life. I have much to be grateful for but also a great deal of remembered pain to resolve. In this memoir, I will cross borders between many perceptions. In 1978 there were still many people in Mexico who believed an unidentified flying object that could not be readily explained  had caused a plane to crash in Zacatecas in 1974. On June 7, 1976 there had been a major earthquake in Mexico CIty; a 6.4 magnitude quake. It was still much talked about. The mess of details that  get turned over and twisted over the years are numerous indeed. Only those families who truly have a chronicler for each minute can avoid any confusion. We had a mix of publicity and obscurity over the years. There was so much change that I must struggle to sequence all my memories. 

When one adds to the complexity of the task and entire lack of interest in my own life it seems absurd to write a memoir. But there are no outcomes for the future which do not involve me  speculating as to the future as we live out the present in a world of change.       

On April 15, 2024 Donald Trump began his trial as to whether or not he committed campaign finance crimes when he had Michael Cohen pay porn star Stormy Daniel a large sum of money to keep silent about her sexual involvement with Donald Trump.  I was not sure if this trial would start before the election. It reminded me of the role that sex plays in politics. I think it is interesting to  consider who Stormy Daniels is: 

Stephanie A. Gregory Clifford (born Stephanie A. Gregory; March 17, 1979), known professionally as Stormy Daniels,[7][8] is an American pornographic film actress, director and former stripper. She has won many industry awards and is a member of the NightMoves Hall of Fame, AVN Hall of Fame and XRCO Hall of Fame. In 2009, a recruitment effort led her to consider challenging incumbent David Vitter in the 2010 Senate election in her native Louisiana.

Daniels became involved in a legal dispute with U.S. president Donald Trump in 2018. Trump’s attorney Michael Cohen paid $130,000 in hush money to silence her about an affair she says she had with Trump in 2006. Trump has denied the affair and accused her of lying. The trial against Donald Trump is set for April 15, 2024.

Early life

Daniels’s parents, Sheila and Bill Gregory, divorced about three or four years after she was born. She was then raised by her mother.[1][9]

She graduated from Scotlandville Magnet High School in Baton Rouge, Louisiana in 1997 and considered becoming a journalist.[1]

Daniels said she “came from an average, lower-income household… there [were] days without electricity”,[10] and she has described herself as coming from a “really bad neighborhood.”[1] During high school, Daniels had a job answering phones at a riding stable.[1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stormy_Daniels (as of April 14, 2024 at 5:30 p.m. CDT)

Stormy Daniels is one example of many sexual partners of the powerful who have become involved in the machinations of power themselves. There are other sides to the questions of sex and power and its permutations.   

The love of brothers and sisters is something I have had time and opportunity to reflect upon. My sister Sarah was my only sibling in January of 1978. But what exact day that changed I  don’t know. My next sister Susanna Maria Summers was to be born on the 20th day of September 1978. That was the ninth month. She was to be conceived in a time when my mother’s love for her youngest brother ( her godchild)  was much on her mind. Sometime in January we were called to the school for a telephone call. We no longer attended as students but there were quite a number of students who did business at this school in various ways when they were transitioning out of the city to their next location. There were a number of other language schools in town. Teaching and learning conversational Spanish was a  sort of local industry. I felt the transition from a town much defined by learning and culture towards a neighborhood that was known for need in a vast city known for almost everything.  But that was not the pattern to take our attention that day as we woke in the Cuernavaca we were soon to leave. I was very much surprised when we were told there was a phone call waiting for us in the school and I went to answer it with Dad.  We went into the main  office and they were holding the line for us. I let Dad greet him first and instantly could see that all was not well. My Dad was asking questions about the health and status of my uncle Jed in the hospital. It was a difficult time but I did manage to get a few words back and forth with my mother’s oldest brother Bruce. “Please tell everyone we are praying!” I spoke with tears in my eyes and a trembling voice. Jed and I had traveled in the back seat of a Volvo across much of  Europe and    

I wrote the main draft of this chapter during the week starting on  April 14, 2024. That day was a Sunday which began with Clara and I having been to mass the previous evening. I made coffee, had cereal for breakfast and was devoted to doing a few other things when Clara woke and we visited a bit in front of the television and the Sunday morning news. Clara was using some of her professional skills to help some of her friends. She was very much prepared  for the task, her laptop and software had been updating and loading up since before we went to bed the night before. When she set about doing her work for them I started cutting, grass, weeding, cleaning equipment and fixing a gap in the fence. It was an ordinary day and a good one. We have had many good and ordinary days, considering that we have only had a little over a thousand days together as any kind of couple…       

We were looking forward to moving to the Colonias of Mexico City  for many reasons and had begun to actually prepare to leave Cuernavaca. It did not take long to prepare our little footloose family to leave some we would not have been in Cuernavaca many more days. The previous day I had walked to meet the man who had been my sometimes benefactor at a small park. There were two men there with him. He spoke of the history of the region; he seemed to trace both pre columbian indigenous and Spanish Imperial roots of the culture and people with some specificity. The two men spoke in Spanish and perhaps in Nahuat as well but I understood little.  Tried hard to understand. They anointed my hands and head with a strange oil. Then we said the Lord’s Prayer in Spanish that I knew only well enough to say slowly. The man said to me,mostly in English; “You told me the story of  your father anointing you and the healing you received. I know that you have been sick and perhaps this shall give you strength. However, I will tell you that I have asked them to anoint you because  I believe that it is your destiny to be anointed again and if that happens you may remember this place in peace and goodwill.” He then asked me to keep this a secret for a time and a season and I did. I went back to the house and early that evening  I  went to sleep and soon I was dreaming of the whole past day.  The next day would be a day of trial and I woke up sensing that there would be many trials ahead if I lived for whatever was to be  my destiny. I did, however, wonder if I would be living to adulthood. I had many reasons for worry that have not made an appearance in this memoir.   But at the start of the day that we went to the school to get the club I had put strange hopes, strange worries and other distractions out of my mind. 

MY Uncle Bruce’s call had to be communicated to my mother. Seha and I both wanted to go back to Abbeville. Surely we were at a break in things and this happened and the family needed prayer and support. Dad felt we should go on to the ministry in the Cuchilla del Tesoro. There was an emotional struggle and some tears but ultimately we did what most people would do and did not uproot the whole family because the mother’s married adult brother was ill, The thing that made it different was that we were so mobile and so rootless. We prayed and we believed in offering up suffering and we offered up our lonesomeness for Jed as a prayer for his healing. Jed made a remarkable recovery and would go on to have a healthy enough brain to graduate from Loyola Law  School having made Law Review – a great distinction, He is still working and making money was a  land man, although he left the practice of law. He and Susan are long divorced and married other people but both are people of faith who remember God caring for them at this time. 

It was the sacrifice of not being with Jed that defined our transition back to Mexico CIty, There were no dumps or extreme squalor in our neighborhood. Cuchilla had many stores, shops, small artisans and food carts. Schools and churches were around and could be crowded. I took classes at the church when they were open but neve enrolled in a school. Kids were on different schedules because many schools had an early platoon and a late platoon of students. That made it very hard to notice that I was not in school. It wa sin this context that I and the family began to settle into the big city for a while.

Chapter Seventeen of Online Memoir: Mexico City and Cuernavaca for the First Time

I wrote this seventeenth chapter of my online  memoir during one of the weeks of the Easter Season with spring in force. Our fig tree, potatoes, onions, begonia, hibiscus, onions,  green onion tops, ferns, swamp lilies and Kalanchoe are prospering and the weeds are also thriving that gained ground when our lawn was damaged by the drought that is well over now but lasted for months. I cut the grass and work on the lawn often, but with s motorless reel style mower and frequent rains it can be a challenge for me to keep it presentable. But the effort helps me to keep a number of things together – it provides me with exercise and helps me to stay aware of things that need to be tended to. I am very much aware of the Season in every sense.   I am also aware that my wife is celebrating her 60th birthday on the 20th of April. In 1977 my mother turned 34 on a Sunday on November 13. I made her a card and bought her a simple gift. Dad did not do much it seemed tome but I may be forgetting something. We had a big Abbeville Thanksgiving with both sides of the family in 1976, but in 1977 I am pretty sure we were just arriving in Mexico from the United States and we were moving from a country that celebrated tis very AMerican holiday to one that did not… But again my records are very limited and my memory could be flawed. I do remember Christmas and New Year’s Eve in December of 1977. That was in Cuernavaca a city in a state not far from what was in those days the Distrito Federal in which Mexico CIty – the largest city in the world at that time – was located. I have a lot of memories to sort through. But they are never going to be fully resolved into any particular synthesis. But I do spend more than I can afford on seeing a therapist online to help me deal with feelings and memories among other things. On April 13, after going to anticipated Mass, Clara and I ate supper and watched the film A Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood on one of our streaming platforms. The biopic of Fred Rogers (played by Tom Hanks) is the story of the host of Mr. Rogers Neighborhood and a journalist who was impacted in his own family and life by his encounter with Rogers. Rogers was  presbyterian minister and other things besides a television icon. The journalist whose story ended up being on the cover of Esquire Magazine was able to connect to the deeper, spiritual power of Fred Rogers in a very personal way. I admire the film and the story behind it, but Fred Rogers and Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood were things I watched sometimes as a child, but his take on the world always seemed like it came from a different place than any I had ever lived in….

What we  were living in 1977 with my baby sister, Sarah, was an adventure not in healing our feelings and learning to find a well adjusted life. It was wholly a life of insecurity. But it was also a life of beauty and new sights and learning. For me it was a time that I would go back to over and over again in memory and reference…         

On April 10, 2024 Clara and I had supper at Jalisco’s in Abbeville. That is the same Mexican Restaurant where we reconnected 3 years ago on the same day of the same month after not seeing each other for about 45 years. I have an online therapy session every two weeks and that one ran from three to four that afternoon. That is not my usual day and time for this appointment but due to a technical glitch we had to reschedule the session. Thursday, I donated plasma and got paid, I got home and did some things along with picking up a takeout lunch and then had an insurance sales seminar online at 1:00. Afterwards Clara and I took a nap together and  when I woke up I had received my paycheck  for my work as a Commissioner in the last election, I drove to the bank to deposit the check because the money gets to my account quicker than if I deposit it digitally in my app.  I woke Clara at the time we had agreed and  then we went to the health club where we regularly engage in various forms of exercise. I paid our dues for the month. We changed there and went to the free concert series in our hometown’s main square that is called  “Sounds on the Square”. The band playing this concert included three generations of the Leblanc family of musicians and others playing drums, several kinds of strings and brass instrumentalists as well as  a number of vocalists of both sexes. The group was called the Bad Boys. Clara and I danced several times as well as listening to the music. My mother showed up and  I danced with her as well and Clara captured our dance on video. Because I was working on this draft of this chapter, that dance reminded me of all that my mother and I have been through together. I thought of the dances we had shared over the years and the dances I had seen her do with my father. I also thought of how the dance I described at Mount Carmel in a recent chapter of this memoir came at a time when she and Dad rarely danced except on the rare occasions hen simple expressive dances were included in the worship gatherings of the Charismatic celebrations we attended. In some ways, our time in Cuernavaca was a low point in the romantic aspect of my parents’ lives. It was one of several low points – but their lives had  a number of high points in their romance as well. So many things have happened since then but it is to those times that our story now turns.      

On the next day, Friday the twelfth, my wife and I had coffee together, then I went to the post office to check my mail, then to the dump to bring our recycling. Because our city does not offer recycling pick up. I thought about the fact that although there were many beautiful and picturesque parts of Cuernavaca — which did impress me as well – I was deeply and unfavorably impressed by the midden beside a major street where people from our neighborhood  came and dumped their garbage into a natural ravine. Once again waste management was very prominent in my view of society.  I longed to see pollution diminished throughout the world,  that feeling went through all my years of life as a recurring theme.

At the DIsciples of the Lord Jesus Christ community on the Damascus Ranch in Channing, Texas near Amarillo we had prayed the entire DIvine Office (or Liturgy of the Hours) except for the Office of Readings and almost all of it as a group. We worked hard and had some time to play as well but we had what in current English vernacular were called not Matin, Lauds and Vespers but rather Morning Prayer, Daytime Prayer, Evening Prayer and Night Prayer. It was a life soaked in so much Scripture. The traditional Roman Catholic system of Liturgy when it includes the mass and the Liturgy of the hours is an enormous amount of scripture. Read, reflected upon, chanted, sung and prayed Scripture as well as some poems and prayers produced by recent editors living the faith at that time. I did love all of that. Any understanding of my life at that time  is woefully inadequate if it does not take into account that I had what mystics call “Consolations”. I prayed and I felt that God was deeply present to me and my fellow believers. These feelings affected my imagination, body, intellect and will. There is no doubt that such a sense of the DIvine was the greatest payoff in my life. 

When we were in El Paso I rejoiced in the prayers of the people there that fully expressed the Charismatic Gifts, expressions and traditions in connection with the liturgy. Sometimes I wondered if I shared a particular sense of how things should be prioritized and how they should be understood. I did not believe that I was necessarily in harmony with all aspects of each  Christian community we fellowshipped with – nobody could have been in harmony with each. But I did believe that we were all involved in living Communion with God in Christ.

An image showing the basis of all this Christmas celebration.

But I had a sense that lf I had a destiny it was in the Presence of God that was  going to take in larger parameters in the world.  When I was in prayer one or two nights before we left El Paso,  it was a prayer time before I fell asleep, I had a sense of Christ as though I were seeing him in an almost causal way as he had been in his earthly ministry before his crucifixion, death and resurrection. I felt his greatness as a great man, somehow different than any image or story I had heard before. I sensed that some of the men I saw were his apostles and they were all speaking in a language I did not speak or understand. I felt the holiness of the moment and then it passed and I fell asleep and in the days to come I pondered it but did not speak of it much if at all, I had no words to share how it differed from other experiences of visual and imaginative prayer. Life  meanwhile was somewhat distracting from my mystical and inner life. Our family was invited to appear on a Christian television show and we were all to be interviewed together with a little interview for each of us, including little Sarah.  The interview was set for the day before our train left Juarez for Mexico City. Sarah mysteriously hurt her hand and Mom stayed with her while Dad and  I did the interview. After the interview the man in charge  gave me a hand powered device that could play a recording of scripture on a sort of record.      

In the next few days we were brought across  the border and to the train station. We set off on our journey to Mexico CIty. On the way we listened to the Spanish spoken around us, detecting the few words and phrases we knew and trying to put them to use. When we were back in the sears, the four of us gathered after any foray to fins food or restrooms or views, we would  try to use a few Spanish words in our family prayer and conversation. The net result of all this was really to make it clear that we spoke almost no Spanish and struggled even with the simplest signs and announcements on the train and in stations. It was a new world that was opening up as we looked forward to reading, speaking and interacting in a different monolingual society. There were bilingual French and English elements in the life and community we lived and experienced in Louisiana. Tonga had been bilingual as well. We had toured Europe as well in areas where we spoke nothing of the local tongue. But we felt the difference, a few people spoke to us in English but most people did not speak any English outside of their English classes in elementary school. We were not tourists or tied to a university with a large English speaking population. We were diving into a society right beside the United States in an effort to be part of the life there and to grow as the missionaries that perhaps God had called us to be. Yet, it was still very much a question what we were possibly called to do. I loved my parents but I deeply pondered and intently  wondered if God had perhaps a connection with our  moving into a world of new possibilities while we had still so little to define our path in a way that might lead to some kind of career security. But I did think that we were doing something very different and that we were living a life in which our whole family shared a life and a purpose which was admirable in itself.  Yet there were a variety of themes and contours in the shape and fabric of our lives and our belief that a mission in Colombia was the direction we should be heading in once we learned some Spanish.          .

Sister Antoinette who had been Mother John Marie’s main contact for us was the driving force and organizing power behind our first stays in Mexico CIty and whatever welcome was available But there was another figure who played a very large role in making our way in the city. That was Father Carlos Talavera RIvera. Among the contacts in the Archdiocese was Father Carlos Talavera Ramirez who was the head of the Comunidad Justicia y Alabanza, Justice and Praise Community. Father Talavera had been ordained in 1948 for the Archdiocese but his ministry now focused on the Charismatic Renewal in Mexico and the service of  that popular Christian movement to the poor. In a few years in 1980 he would be ordained and consecrated as an auxiliary Bishop in the Federal District’s super diocese. My parents, with my younger siblings, would serve under Talavera many years later when he was bishop of Coatzacoalcos, but I was doing another thing at that time. We would stay with Father Talavera’s wealthy family members  in relative comfort approaching luxury for a little while.  In Mexico CIty,  we somehow had the invitations to interact with many aspects of the Justicia y Alabanza Community gathering and ministries. We had a volunteer translator who was a very intelligent German engineer married to a Mexican woman who was very fluent in English, German and Spanish and possibly other languages as well.Capable and distinguished in so many ways, he was very possibly the least capable and most inadequate interpreter I ever encountered – and in my life I encountered many interpreters and translators.     

Joseph was somehow not aware that instead of hearing Spanish and then saying the equivalent in English, he would hear the Spanish speaking people speak to us in Spanish and then tell us the same thing in Spanish. He would then hear what we said in English and repeat the English words to the audiences and people around us in English. It was staggeringly weird and funny. People would try to clue him in and he could not grasp what he was doing. People with much less command of the languages involved would repeatedly have to jump in and fulfill the duties of interpreter but he continued to attempt to do the thing he seemed incapable of doing..

His efforts only went on for a few days, but the memories of those days have remained among the most metaphorically charged after all my life. I remember working with Elsa, the very attractive girl I met with her family on an English assignment for her classes and learning a few more words in Spanish. The Climate in Mexico City was much cooler than in El Paso/Juarez because the elevation was 7, 349 feet. It was nice to be cooler as fall and winter seasons were approaching and there were many new foods to try. I was aware that we were also meeting not only the poor and middle class but some rich people as well. However, we never built on those relationships over the years. Although our family would  work and fellowship with some very wealthy people in the course of our lives. I am pretty sure that none of those original contacts in Mexico City were part of that network.

. While we had begun to make inquiries about the Language school we now went there. Cuernavaca was at 4, 954 feet and the climate was warmer than Mexico CIty but still much more moderate and cool than that areas at that latitude at sea level. It was greener and more lush as we rode the bus toward Cuernavaca. At that time and for many years afterwards, Mexico had many classes of bus tickets for many routes – it may still, but I am out of touch. At the lowest levels there could be live chickens tied together in small bunches for transport, no cushions on the seats and small holes in the floor. . At the higher levels there could be immaculate conditions, on board restrooms, baggage handlers and an attendant or two serving drinks on board. There were probably five classes of bus from Mexico City to Cuernavaca in those days and this was probably the second from the top – why I am not sure. The ticket may have been a gift from someone in Mexico City.    My mother was to stay home with Sarah while Dad and I were able to attend the courses at IDEAL. In addition to the classes we had lunches served to us which were typical of the region or some other region with the details of the pertinent  region’s cuisine explained, I remember sopapillas, various tacos and churros.. Our instructors often met with Dad and I alone. Our homework was to read a conversation or two set in a particular environment written in English and Spanish.  Then we would start with repeating those exact conversations without instructors. We would try to learn all we could about glottal stops, tongue placements, aspirations and the finer points of emphasis and pronunciation. After that, we would create ad lib permutations of the text. We also  worked on pronunciation drills. Every two or three days there would be a lecture on history and culture and during a couple of breaks a day we socialized with some of the diverse students attending the school. It was in an elegant building with an enclosed garden. While I was attending the school someone there taught me to make pottery ( I had previously taken a class at Notre Dame de La Bayou Dominican Convent in Abbeville, that Dominican Convent  building now belongs to Family Missions Company which is a non profit that my parent later founded).  I formed, fired and glazed three Christmas presents for each of my family members which long ago disappeared like almost everything I have ever owned or made – but not everything.

My mother was with Sarah across the street in a very different environment. Our family rented a single room for my cot, my parents double bed and a tiny crib of sorts for Sarah. The woman who ran it was cantankerous and spoke no English. Her income came from occasional room rentals and from some tiny pension she got from  either from her husband and father who had died a few years earlier or by being a survivor of someone or something else  – but it was not a full pension. Her very attractive young daughter of between  19 and 22 years of age, as I recalled with her in their modest but not poor home. I had seen a good bit of prostitution and wondered when I saw her devotion and displays of affection to a married man in the home if she was perhaps such a woman as I had seen doing these things before. But the one man I saw with her was the only man who came to see her and although there was a professional tone to their connections it was different than what I had seen before. He however did bring food and money and wine into the house and Christmas decorations. They were very physical without being x rated in their affections. On weekends he went home to his family. I decided in my own mind without being able to talk to anyone about anything that she was his mistress. He slept in her room, not the other way around. In those days there was no phone of any kind in the house and so I never had to wonder what his communication with his wife and kids from there would be like if he was not with his mistress. When he went to work or business he may have called home from an office or a payphone. I barely got to know either of these people. But I could see they wer ein dealy earned about surviving and keeping their home. The mother seemed to be harassing my mother when she prayed or sang because she had given up all religious practice in the hard times since her husband’s death. 

The family also had a young thirteen year-old daughter whom I occasionally helped with her English classes in return for her helping to show me what schools in Mexico were teaching. But the girl stayed busy at home helping her cantankerous mother to keep house and she seemed worried about her sister. Somehow my mother converted the mean and angry woman who ran the home to enough Christianity to take out her Christmas decorations and that included a large and very nice manger scene. The 13 year old,  Anita I believe, got me to help decorate and it was a holy time. The illicit couple in the house were also moved in a number of ways too complicated for me to do justice to in this chapter. We shared a christmas feast with the mother and two daughters and we sang badly in Spanish hymns and carols of the season.Our family sang a few songs in English too.

The family had some kind of lapsed connection to the theater and in a kind of half basement below there was a large collection of props in various states of disrepair as well as a number of almost surrealist. Statues. There were times when I sat down there and worked on my school work for IDEAL just to get out of the strange house. My mother had a notepad and a pencil on her person all the time and was busy learning all she could each day from Lucha and her daughter. In addition,  a few times she and I went over my lessons.  In Abbeville, after leaving El Paso, we had all worked on a Berlitz course in Spanish and bought a simple Spanish- English dictionary. Mom found a little time each day to work with the materials in the dictionary and Berlitz course to systematize what she had written in her notes. Dad and I were both learning Spanish much more rapidly than ever before but I was learning a lot faster and eventually we ended up in different streams. One of my teachers was a very pretty young woman and there were never more than three students in a class. This seemed to upset my mother who was worried about the sexual aspects of everything in my life always and always according to her own particular point of view. Before I had the pretty girl Dad and I were in a class where one man told us every greeting used in Mexico in his experience. These varied from the formalities of the remaining traditional haciendados in the anterooms  of their villas who when greeting a fellow aristocrat new to their home used words that might translate as “Welcome Your Grace, You are in your home and on the land my family holds from God.”   But he also ran through the run of the mill greetings until he reached the ruffians of a particular neighborhood in a particular seaport town who, he assured us,  greeted one another with the words translating as “Have a good day fucking your mother!” I made a comment about something my mother had said about sexual norms in the school, I parroted back words I really did not understand and another American woman, a  student who was actually renting rooms from the school itself and had an apartment, a microbusiness and a somewhat difficult reputation in town did not react well. She walked over and remonstrated with my mother in front of the uncomprehending cantankerous landlady. But that was before Christmas. We went to some beautiful Catholic Churches and that was part of our weekend touring. We also went to  Protestant church which was virulently anti-Catholic and very  unpleasant in a number of ways because a friend invited us  Slowly, the life in the house across from the school got better and I did not feel I had to hide in the basement to do my homework. After Christmas, I could speak some Spanish well enough to understand and they began to tell stories about the days before their husband and father died. They put out a few photos and knick-knacks from happier times. Anita walked with me to a little chapel she had wanted to visit, we did this  just once but seemed near tears. We learned that the family had never had a celebration from the time their father died till  the Christmas we shared. No saints Day feasts, no birthday parties, no secular national holidays and no Christmas nor Easter. Anita felt some hope that hey might have a life again. 

 

Dad stayed on in school after me to catch up and I did some shopping for Mom and touring for myself. We also were invited to dine with the owners of the school and it was very nice, later we ate with a friend we met at their  home. He was an older wealthy man but he took time to get to know me and talked told me in Spanish and English mix that I could follow. He claimed to be a nonbeliever but he had a sort of shrine in his house very much of his own design. It had a monument to Jesus Christ in the Place of honor. Then he had other great men, I remember Beethoven, Simon Bolivar, Napoleon, George Washington, Adam Smith, Benito Jaurez and Albert Einstein. I also remember him saying that the world I lived in was divided between three Jews: Jesus Christ, Karl Marx and Sigmund Freud. “It is from the minds of one of these three Jews that most of the forces driving the world forward draw their power.” It was one of many rich cultural experiences in Cuernavaca where I felt somewhat privileged and fostered in my intellectual development. He gave me a copy of Hundred Years of Solitude  in ENglish and another in Spanish/ He also gave me a book by Octavio Paz in Spanish with some handwritten and typed notes in English. I read them all pretty quickly.  

The most memorable physical feature of life in Cuernavaca was going to church at Santa Catalina de Siena. It was indoor and outdoor, modern contemporary art and architecture and classic tradition. The church was very Mexican, yet generally Latin American and fully international.    

When we finished our studies I was by far the best reader but Mom could speak Spanish best of all us, I was second and Dad was third. The opposite of the amount of time we had spent in the very good school to which we had come. In our last days we were corresponding with the ministries in Mexico and we found a place to be in ministry as a family in a poor neighborhood in Mexico city called Cuchilla Del Tesoro, “Wedge of Treasure”  near the airport.  We would be heading back to Mexico City as missionarieswho knew something about the language and culture of the place we lived. 

Before we left I got sick and so did others but I was the sickest and it was hard to find my way to a restroom or lavatory, hard to get a bucket or medical care. I vomited on myself, my cot and the wall. In my fevered dreams I had visions of the mysterious orb of heaven and hell.   I would never fully recover from whatever I had. My digestive health would suffer for the rest of my life in some new ways that I will not detail here. I felt somewhat weaker as we prepared to return to Mexico City. I also knew that I would not be enrolling in any school accessible from the poor neighborhood that we were moving into together. I also doubted that I could make much money for myself in a country where I spoke so little of the language still. But although I was worried, I was determined to make the best of things and still find the courage to hope for a good life for myself.  In the meanwhile, I also believed that the power of Jesus was driving the world to better places. I believed the path of brining the Gospel was a valid call on my life.

Online Memoir Chapter Sixteen: A Final Break and a Fresh Start

The day had passed and Clara got back on April 9, 2024. We were eager to celebrate her new job. We had been through a lot of things and she felt good about going back to work. She had just been named the newest Administrative Assistant for our home church parish office. I was happy for her. My own day involved an insurance seminar on Medicare.it also involved doing some laundry, cooking a lunch for Clara and I  which would leave us with leftovers for another day and also cutting the grass with a motorless lawnmower. It is not an unfamiliar place in life for me to be, sort of trying to put together something that would make me able to get through a set of circumstances for a period of time even though there is no doubt that overall my path is not at all assured going forward. It is certainly a valid point of view to see much of my life as made up of periods of under-enrollment in schools followed and interspersed with underemployment.

 Overall my life has been long on  pulling away from impossible positions to attempt positions  that were simply very unlikely to be successful. In this chapter we reach a place where my course of education that had been difficult in many ways finally was to become a path in which I no longer tried to pursue any direct line of schooling to a goal that was conventional. .   

I could have called this chapter “Dropping Out”. However, from my point of view it is a chapter  about a transition from one school, the middle school section of Mount Carmel Elementary, to my studies in another school: the Insitituto de Estudios America Latina (IDEAL). However over time.leaving eIghth grade at Mount Carmel would be the defining event in my life for many years to come. In my mother’s second book about our lives there is a quote that illustrates that in the end this view that I dropped out completely after eighth grade came to be the interpretation of events that prevailed even in my own family: Mom’s interpretation of the whole question that begins in this chapter is best expressed by  reproducing this paragraph from OurFamily’s Book of Acts dealing with a later passage in my own life.  Here is that passage:

“Beau had long wanted to attend the local university. We could see that he was truly gifted as a missionary; we thought that he would continue to love and serve in that ministry. He had explored the seminary in the Philippines, and we had thought he might attend the university in Cagayan de Oro with some of his FIlipino buddies.Once he had demonstrated a real desire to attend college, we fostered his desire, and advised him of risks and advantages that would be somewhat different for him than they had been for us.  Beau’s decision to attend college at the University of Louisiana was made about a week before the  fall semester began, he had no high school diploma, and had received no real formal education since junior high. Essentially he had no papers to hand in to the admissions office.” (Summers, Acts: “Adding to our Numbers”, page 167) .

I am never really going to know what would have happened if I had found a way to stay in the school system regularly over the course of time. But one of the reasons that I am writing this memoir is to reveal the other stories that might or might not have been involved in the unusual path my education would take. But had it ever really been all that normal?

I would point out that I traveled an inordinate amount, I was enrolled in a number of systems with different calendars and different regulations. I have long ago given up finding even an audience of one that I think would really understand what my educational journey was like even with reference to the  more or less indisputable facts if all evidence is examined. However, in this memoir I am going to make it even harder. I am going to invite the reader to consider some other factors which are not only far from obvious but practically impossible to prove.  When I left off my studies in class in eighth grade there were many thoughts and feelings in my mind.  Where the strange new path would take me I  would not know. As we set forth on our journey in life I was letting go of any feeling that I would fit in with the world into which I had been born.. 

I had some odd moments of calculation and  reflection.  It seemed to me that the stories of child stars in film and television with erratic and irregular tutors promised that it could be done. Add to these the lives of other nomadic children in crocuses, migrant harvesting crews and I felt that it was normal to be out of school if one traveled all the time.   Besides this there were stories  of successful homeschoolers. and the stories of self made business tycoons who had not finished high school were more significant and numerous than they probably were. Yet, I was not resigned to staying our of school. I also had a great deal of misinformation about some older men I knew who I had been told did not finish their normal high school careers because of things like World War II. Later in the collection of memoirs, obituaries and archives I would peruse – such as  the one listed next:  The Eternal Pilot – Memoirs of Revis Sirmon – January 1, 2009

by Revis Sirmon (Author). For me the life of faith and the dimensions of religion were only small parts of the whole series of questions that affected me – I was determined to be excellently well educated no matter what.     .      . .   

When we got back to Abbeville I was running late on the paperwork, acquiring school supplies and getting things together for school. All of this lack of focus on the demands of school always made what would have been a hard time in a school harder. It was a long-term trend. My parents had never been quick to put together the paperwork and other things required by schools. They had never supported my involvement with extracurriculars very much and they were never troubled by any consequences of me being tardy or absent for what they wanted to do. But that was part of a cycle. I often enjoyed the things we did, they often had great educational value and I had managed to keep passing and usually excelling in all my grades. In addition, school was socially difficult for me and it got harder when my classmates saw me thrive after an absence and also when my teachers saw me struggle after an absence.  When I went back to eighth grade  at Mount Carmel I was determined to try to make the best of it. I had already felt  that Mount Carmel Elementary School was not a good place for me to be. 

One of the things that had changed was my relationship with the girlfriend from the neighborhood. She was hanging around other aspiring cheerleader and we did see each other but she was becoming a popular girl in the big high school. I felt hurt and confused but I also felt free to think of the girls in my class at school in a different light – that made feeling ill at ease and unpopular harder than it had been before. I now might want to make a connection with a girl at school. I began to think of who that girl  might be.

That summer I had begun to have the inconvenience of wet dreams, they had started a few month before my last school year ended. I found books and articles to read about these things in the days before the internet and search engines. But I talked to virtually nobody about them. But they were not that common and I could hide the evidence fairly easily. On our travels things  got more complicated. Sexually explicit dreams about girls I knew that resulted in what was called a nocturnal emission was more inconvenient for me because of lack of laundry facilities and extra clothes. I remember washing clothes and bed clothes  secretly in campsites and drying them poorly over houses or days in any way I could. I also added  things I had rinsed into the laundry baskets myself when we went to stay in homes. 

When I got back that summer I had older men speak to me for the first time about my mother’s promiscuous reputation when she was very young and before I was born. They never told me that she had given up a child for adoption before she and my father got married, I assume because they did not know. They then correlated this fact to the fact that we lived in a neighborhood with a significant number of sex workers. I could follow their implications. My response was to push them away cautiously. I wanted to learn from what they had to say but also to protect whatever it was that my mother was trying to build in her life with all of her emphasis on modesty, marriage, natural childbirth, breastfeeding and exploring and developing a workable current understanding of traditional gender roles. But I also felt that I was in a dangerous position and that I was being made to pay the freight for both a libertine past and a severely modest present in my parents’ lives. I was feeling like coming into the sexually charged eras of life was going to be worse for me than for many and I knew that it was hard on many people.

I was also becoming aware that some of the boys I knew were homosexual and that there was an increasing sense that it would be possible for them to live openly as homosexuals or to experiment with heterosexual relationships. I had a sense that I was the oldest of the next generation in a group with very restrictive expectations for the next generation living in a hypersexualized neighborhood and coming of age in a more sexually loose era in many ways. Not for the first or last time, I felt that I was being asked to bear the burdens of dozens of different faults, presumptions and expectations for which I thought that I did not need to take much if any responsibility. Overall, I was confirmed in my view that the world was a hostile place. At an age when most kids are insecure and anxious these things made me more anxious.

I did have an experience where I hung out with my already- former-not-quite-girlfriend and her lower level cheerleader friends. I had interactions with them at other times and I felt like I was considered an embarrassingly oddball connection for my former girlfriend. But on this occasion they all sort of flirted and made a little fuss over me and I sensed it was something that they occasionally did. I also had the sense that it made boys my age uncomfortable when that happened. I realized that l did not feel uncomfortable. Being alone with a group of girls who were wearing cheer shorts and feeling flirty felt pretty great and I had no problem seeing them as interesting people and also wishing that there would be a potential sexual future there. This was not the first time that I thought that for me physical fulfillment would not be found in consorting with prostitutes, not in promiscuous frat house kinds of behavior, not in the culmination of  obsessive romantic fixations – that I still knew would be my future. I felt pretty sure that the polygamy of Abraham, Jacob, David, Solomon and  a number of other figures in the Bible was my real sexual preference. I had discussed that sense of a polygamous sexual preference with a few adults in my life and had felt that  Christianity was definitely an anti-polygamous religion. I could see that the animosity towards polygamous impulses was quite intense.

At my school, I felt that wearing my cross that tied me to the strange compromises and identities that we were living at Open Door Community in the Styx and with my families missionary designation was just making it impossible to avoid being  constantly marked as different in ways that were more difficult than fruitful. I began to try to wear my cross under my clothes and sometimes in my book-sack. At school I had three new connections with girls even as I felt like overall my life was in decline at school. One thing I did find was that I was carving out a few relationships that were tolerable. Three of them were with girls. One of those girls was Clara Duhon, whom I have now married after not seeing each other for forty-five years after that year at school. I enjoyed praying and discussing the Bible and and personal spirituality with her and I tried to end up in her group whenever there was a religious activity in which we might both be included.

The Crest of the Carmelite Order which operated the Mount Carmel Elementary School I attended.

Another relationship was with a girl who felt fears and regret about having been swept away into sexual activity earlier than she had thought she should have been involved.In the Styx I knew a couple of child prostitutes. I did not know how to help them or her very much but I could listen to her without much judgment and pray with her and keep her secrets. I did listen, pray and keep secrets and although I rarely saw her after leaving school there she continued to treat me as a friend over the decades. 

The last part of my story of three girls at Mount Carmel Elementary relates to the fact that there was some success in my efforts to be more part of the school. I was invited to a few parties during the early part of the eighth grade year. When I asked my parents I was not allowed  to go and they handled the question poorly in my view. I have no reason to think that it would have all gone well but I had not been invited to parties during most of the previous year. Finally there was a little party during school hours with a dance, we did not have to get our parents consent. I brought a snack that I paid for myself. I did not ask Clara or the other girl to dance but a third girl who seemed like she wanted to dance. We had also had a few minutes of practice dancing. I felt happy dancing with her and was feeling a bit romantic I guess. I was not aware that I may have been at the very lower levels of being semi-erect. I was holding her, it was a slow dance and I was not pressed up against her. One of the boys snuck up behind me in class and (using some technique he had used and practiced before) snapped my middle against her by grabbing my belt loops. I felt my penis touch her venus mons at least through all the pertinent layers of clothes. I was furious and uncool and ready to fight. It was a bad scene and another girl in school barely talked me down before I got in trouble for fighting. I never danced with any of the girls in my old Mount Carmel class  again until Clara and I got together almost half a century later. It would be easier for me to leave when the time came.

Beyond the school issues, I was feeling pretty sure that while many males might have some polygamous inclinations, I was different. I was built for a kind of sexual and family life structure that did not exist in my own faith. That was troubling for me. I wondered if that could change and I undertook the task of doing some research.          

I discovered that polygamy had become a grounds for excommunication in recent centuries long after the Apostles, St. Augustine, Sts. Leo and Gregory the Great and many other Saints who had reflected deeply on the life of the church.  The condemnation of polygamy had been part of the Council of Trent. I was  aware of the Council of Trent but in case you are not please see the following text: 

The Council of Trent (1545-1563) was a meeting of Catholic clerics convened by Pope Paul III (served 1534-1549) in response to the Protestant Reformation. In three separate sessions, the council reaffirmed the authority of the Catholic Church, codified scripture, reformed abuses, and condemned Protestant theology, establishing the vision and goals of the Catholic Counter-Reformation. https://www.worldhistory.org/timeline/Council_of_Trent/

The Council of Trent had established the Tridentine liturgy that had been in force until the Second Vatican Council. The Council of Trent had also been an ecumenical council that limited and condemned most efforts at ecumenism between the separated Christian communions as a false Irenicism, the Second Vatican Council had undermined that conception of the painful divisions in Christianity and encouraged efforts at a reunion. The Council of Trent had also created certain practices in priestly formation that the Second Vatican Council had reformed. The same Council of Trent had officially condemned all.polygamy among Christians: “If any one saith, that it is lawful for Christians to have several wives at the same time, and that this is not prohibited by any divine law; let him be anathema.”General Council of Trent: Twenty-Fourth Session”. Papal Encyclicals Online. February 20, 2017. If that was part of the legacy of Trent then perhaps it too needed to be part of the reforms of Vatican II. The whole process of this was very painful for me and it was easy over the years for me to forget various things I learned and in fact that may still be the case, there are things I have trouble dealing with  and that is made more difficult by the certainty of being misunderstood or unheard when I try to discuss them. 

At the same time that I studied this COuncil and the Bible teaching on polygamy I I started to notice that Tertullian, who was never canonized and who taught several heresies on marriage at various times was responsible for much of the doctrinal development condemning polygamy, He also lived long after  the time of the apostles who knew Jesus personally, living in the fourth century. 

From Wikipedia on Tertullian: : .Marriage

Tertullian’s later view of marriage, such as in his book Exhortation to Chastity, may have been heavily influenced by Montanism. He had previously held marriage to be fundamentally good, but after his conversion[dubious – discuss] he denied its goodness. He argues that marriage is considered to be good “when it is compared with the greatest of all evils”. He argued that before the coming of Christ, the command to reproduce was a prophetic sign pointing to the coming of the Church; after it came, the command was superseded. He also believed lust for one’s wife and for another woman were essentially the same, so that marital desire was similar to adulterous desire. He believed that sex even in marriage would disrupt the Christian life and that abstinence was the best way to achieve the clarity of the soul. Tertullian’s views would later influence much of the western church.[46]

Tertullian was the first to introduce a view of “sexual hierarchy”: he believed that those who abstain from sexual relations should have a higher hierarchy in the church than those who do not, because he saw sexual relations as a barrier that stopped one from a close relationship with God.[46]   

 It was the fact that a tree flawed in many ways had brought forth the fruit of not permitting CHristian polygamy. Tertullian argues against polygamy amongst Christians in a way that shows that many CHristians of his time supported polygamy as one among several Christian lifestyles. : 

“But let us proceed with our inquiry into some eminent chief fathers of our origin:  for there are some to whom our monogamist parents Adam and Noah are not pleasing, nor perhaps Christ either.  To Abraham, in fine, they appeal; prohibited though they are to acknowledge any other father than God.606  Grant, now, that Abraham is our father; grant, too, that Paul is.  “In the Gospel,” says he, “I have begotten you.”607  Show yourself a son even of Abraham.  For your origin in him, you must know, is not referable to every period of his life:  there is a definite time at which he is your father.  For if “faith” is the source whence we are reckoned to Abraham as his “sons” (as the apostle teaches, saying to the Galatians, “You know, consequently, that (they) who are of faith, these are sons of Abraham”608), when did Abraham “believe God and it was accounted to him for righteousness?”  I suppose when still in monogamy, since (he was) not yet in circumcision.  But if afterwards he changed to either (opposite)—to digamy through cohabitation with his handmaid, and to circumcision through the seal of the testament—you cannot acknowledge him as your father except at that time when he “believed God,” if it is true that it is according to faith that you are his son, not according to flesh.  Else, if it be the later Abraham whom you follow as your father—that is, the digamist (Abraham)—receive him withal in his circumcision.  If you reject his circumcision, it follows that you will refuse his digamy too.  Two characters of his mutually diverse in two several ways, you will not be able to blend.  His digamy began with circumcision, his monogamy with uncircumcision.609  You receive digamy; admit circumcision too.  You retain uncircumcision; you are bound to monogamy too.  Moreover, so true is it that it is of the monogamist Abraham that you are the son, just as of the uncircumcised, that if you be circumcised you immediately cease to be his son, inasmuch as you will not be “of faith,” but of the seal of a faith which had been justified in uncircumcision.  You have the apostle:  learn (of him), together with the Galatians.610  In like manner, too, if you have involved yourself in digamy, you are not the son of that Abraham whose “faith” preceded in monogamy.  For albeit it is subsequently that he is called “a father of many nations,”611 still it is of those (nations) who, as the fruit of the “faith” which precedes digamy, had to be accounted “sons of Abraham.”612

Tertullian had a powerful effect on ending a specific kind of polygamy among priests, many were known to marry two sisters from a very religious family who could support each other in the hard challenges of a family in ministry. But Tertullian’s passages provide a vital record, not well known that many Catholic priests were in fact married to sisters. He does not say these things because he likes the practice but  while condemning it

:It was therefore fitting that all the form of the common discipline should be set forth on its fore-front, as an edict to be in a certain sense universally and carefully attended to, that the laity might the better know that they must themselves observe that order which was indispensable to their overseers; and that even the office of honour itself might not flatter itself in anything tending to licence, as if on the ground of privilege of position.  The Holy Spirit foresaw that some would say, “All things are lawful to bishops;” just as that bishop of Utina of yours feared not even the Scantinian law.  Why, how many digamists, too, preside in your churches; insulting the apostle, of course:  at all events, not blushing when these passages are read under their presidency! https://ccel.org/ccel/tertullian/monogamy/anf04.iii.vii.xii.html

I also knew that Jesus had recruited women who were seen to be promiscuous and harlots as his followers, I knew a prophet in the Old Testament  had been told by God to marry a prostitute. I knew the church had often given special ecclesial blessings to a man who would marry a prostitute with the purpose and effect of reforming her. I knew that some women really gave up their promiscuous behavior or promiscuity but others entered into marriage to regulate loose behavior and rear children in a little more safety. Christian communities did not handle this tradition perfectly but they struggled with the challenges of the tradition and scripture. However, polygamy was simply and easily rejected and condemned partly because of the horrific behavior of a handful of the most brutal and violent Muslim invaders in a few key points in Church history. 

Additionally, I knew that there were real and even mystical celibates in the church who gave up sexual fulfillment in search of some social, spiritual, aesthetic and ascetic intensities which were precluded by the expenditure of energies needed for sex and family life. I was sure that St. Paul, formerly Saul of Tarsus, was that kind of celibate and I had known a few of the same kind of celibates in my own life.  But I was also aware that celibates  in the church had patterns where in some societies (even among Christians) they had acted as sperm donors where husbands could not get their wives pregnant and a priest was available nearby. I knew that some celibate communities were haven for a significant number of Lesbians or male homosexuals in societies that did not tolerate gay and Lesbian identity very well.  It was complicated, but many Chrisitan communities continued the struggle despite the problems – but not with polygamy.

 I did a lot of research on my own. But at the same time I met two men who  knew the other I had met when we lived in my great-grandmother’s garage apartment. They taught me about the  Cajun French vocabulary of some institutions in my own heritage. They taught me to shoot a pistol for the first time and they recommended a few books they new were in my paternal grandfather’s library. But they also addressed the concubines of Joseph Broussard and some of his descendants, the Quadroon Ball and  the placement and liaison of mistresses who were Creoles of Color in the history of Cjaun men.They discussed an earlier council that had condemned concubinage among married Chrsitian men before Trent condemned polygamy as well. It was a brief series of meetings on our farm, behind my grandparents house and in the back of a house where I cut the grass. But it steered me in a particular direction. One thing they indicated was that there was no way to be polygamous unless one was wealthy, intimidating and high status –it might be impossible in my time but it had never been easy throughout history. 

I was already aware of the ideal of chastity before marriage. But after this period I began to pray rosaries and to fast for chastity. I began to go down a path which would include flagellation and wearing a cord with knots that I left tied till it bit into my skin. All of these things were done to deepen spiritual insight and strengthen the will .Usually they were not meant to as St Paul writes in the New Testament “Work out my own salvation in fear and trembling” or “make up what was lacking in the suffering of Christ”.  I did  offer up these pennances for my sins and for other. In time masturbation would become my main sexual sin as I saw it. But I did have girlfriends in my next few years. Sometimes we moved closer to sexual fulfillment. When I had a girlfriend I was exclusively and monogamously devoted to her.  I thought that I would devote myself to being the bast monogamous husband I could but in my mind In knew that I had figured out what my nature was at 13 and it was likely to remain polygamous in orientation at its core,

 I am happily and monogamously married now and I never slept with anyone else when I was married to my first wife nor did I seek to be polygamous in any way I can remember. But despite a fixation greater than average on my spouse in each case I am not willing to lie about how the parts of me that I have come to know work within me.

My parents were waiting to hear about the mission to Colombia and accepted an invitation to go and visit a convent of nuns in the rural nearly  Mesa and arroyo lands near Amarillo, Texas. We went there to wait to hear about the visas. There we worked on their farm, canned foods, fed chickens, prayed the Liturgy of the Hours and had Charismatic prayer meetings. Sarah loved toddling around chasing the geese near the main house.  They helped us realize that we need to learn Spanish before we went to Colombia. They helped us make contact with people in Mexico including the Archbishop of the Archdiocese of Mexico City. Among the contacts in the Archdiocese was Father Carlos Talavera Ramirez who was the head of the Comunidad Justicia y Alabanza, Justice and Praise Community. Father Talavera had been ordained in 1948 for the Archdiocese but his ministry now focused on the Charismatic Renewal in Mexico and the service of that popular Christian movement to the poor. In a few years in 1980 he would be ordained and consecrated as an auxiliary Bishop in the Federal District’s super diocese. My parents, with my younger siblings would serve under Talavera many years later when he was bishop of Coatzacoalcos, but I was doing another thing at that time. We would stay with Father Talavera’s wealthy family members in realtive comfort approaching luxury for a little while.

Sister John Marie was the head of the community of the Disciples of the Lord Jesus Christ and she had a friend named Sister Antoinette who worked with the Archbishop. She would help us lay out a plan to stop over in Mexico City and then study at a school she liked in Cuernavaca. There were quite a few intense language schools in Cuernavaca. They did not usually take adolescents of school age, but they were likely to make an exception for me. The course would take at least a month, then perhaps I would be able to attend a school in Mexico until we went to COlombia – if that worked out to be our path.  We had help getting visas and signing up for study at the Instituto De Estudios America Latina in Cuernavaca near Mexico CIty. We got close enough in our preparations to be almost ready and went back to El Paso which was on the border. We were facing a two day train trip to Mexico City without speaking Spanish and while we were on our own. The visits in EL Paso were more relaxed and people seemed to really want us to succeed, some saw that perhaps after we spoke SPanish we might come back to serve in one of their ministries.  
I still remember the train trip and arriving in the megacity at the heart of Mexico. I knew we would not start at IDEAL for a few days at least but although there were so many things to do and see I was already seeing myself as a student of Spanish language and Mexican culture. I met a girl there who I saw at various events and who helped me learn a little Spanish. I wondered if I could really learn enough Spanish to go to a school like the one she went to. Her name was Elsa and her father seemed to like me alright.  I wondered if I would find my path fitting in as a student at a Mexican colegio

Chapter Fifteen of Online Memoir: A summer of Redemption

This chapter is primarily about the days between April 4th and  September 1 1977. That was a summer after my seventh grade year, having found my way back to the life of my class in my old school of Mount Carmel Elementary – from my not-quite-girlfriend’s birthday to the days when I was settling into eighth grade. 

I was writing the main draft of this chapter on the days of the second week of the Catholic Easter Season. One of these days was special because there was a solar eclipse with a path of totality across the middle of the United States. Clara and I thought about going to Dallas where I have a sister and she has a brother and we both have friends. But we could not make it work. So we held hands and looked through eclipse glasses that came with two Black Out Slushes from Sonic. We really enjoy Sonic Diet Cherry Limeades and so it is cool to have a pair of Sonic branded mementoes of this occasion. If God wanted to send a special message to the people of this planet, the total eclipse would be a good way to do it. For the magnificent life giving sun has is four hundred times larger than the Moon and is also 400 times as far away. That is a sort of permanent miracle. The partial eclipses Clara and I saw might likely be seen on any planet that has eyes to see and a moon but the total eclipse is something else. We were able to feel the temperature drop a bit and when we got close to our most intense eclipse of 90% of the sun blocked by the Moon – the streetlights in Abbeville were triggered because their photo sensors were  able to detect nightfall. I was joyful and blessed to be with the woman I love. Joyously we were  making memories almost three years after we met up again after not seeing each other for  forty-five years. I wondered, as I often have since we got together, if things might have been different for both of us if we had gone to high school together. I don’t know but It doesn’t seem likely we would have found a way into a relationship as high school sweethearts because I was so  far from comfortable and so close to high school. I feel sad that I did not become part of her story in that way but I was just really trying to survive at the school we both attended last time we  were in school together.

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On April 10, 2021 I saw Clara Duhon for the first time in 45 years. I had a lot of strong positive memories of her from the otherwise very unhappy middle school years, even though we were not close at that time. I got her number after we flirted somewhat inappropriately while helping my best friend in town and her best friend in town (who are brother and sister) to plan their father’s funeral. Jude and Jackie were supportive friends in our early relationship. We are still good friends, Jackie was in that same middle school class. Clara and I got engaged on December 10. 2021. We got married on November 19, 2022. There were really no times before running into her that I thought I would end up married to one of my classmates from Mount Carmel Elementary School.  

Abbeville is the town Clara and I  would both claim as our hometown. Our hometown was built and planned by a priest named  Pere Antoine Desire Megret bought the land for the town (160 arpents ) from my ancestors  Joseph Leblanc and Isabelle Broussard on July 25, 1843.The couple seems to have had three houses and the house on the land he bought was used as the first St.Mary Magdalen Parish  Church at the heart of the town he called La Chapelle. He had many practical aspects of the city plan he created with principles of gravity for future plumbing, social cohesion, convenient transit and raising money with subdivisions and creating a rational administrative and taxable geography. That was the part of him that was part of the life of the progressive journalist he had been in France when the newspaper he was associated with fell afoul of the powerful of the Catholic Church.But the part that came from the devout priest and fervent missionary that he still was is apparent in the names he chose for the streets. The central artery of the town’s original plan is Charity Street (Rue de la Charité ) which is named for the greatest Christian virtue. This mainstreet of our town was sort of separated from the Styx by one and a half blocks  of a more respectable neighborhood. Some very fine homes (by Abbeville standards stood along the street along with banks and large stores on the main street called Charity. My great grandmother’s house and her complex of garden, studio, apartments and rental houses was in that band between the Styx and Charity Street. Clara grew up on the other side of Charity in what was mostly white,mostly working class and lower middle class neighborhood. Her family had land in the country too but not much and around their house thay had a lot with a garden, a few fig, pear and shade trees. All the four children went to Mount Carmel Elementary and Vermilion Catholic High School. All four got university degrees two of them earned more than one degree. Whether we could have been friends outside of school when were really young I do not know. But we never achieved that status. She never had people throw birthday parties for her as a child and did not come to my swimming birthday parties when I invited the whole class because she did not know how to swim. 

When one lives in a small town there are lots of things that have a special meaning invisible to outsiders. Whether in the hit song “Small Town” by John Cougar Mellencamp or in te name of the Country band Little Big Town one finds that lots of Americans have  had a small town identity all during my lifetime. In small towns we all have our inner maps of what that town’s sites and landmarks mean just as big city dwellers and the true denizens of the country and wilderness weave their identities into the marks on their own home landscape. Life is lived out on a map of shared values and another map of personal meaning is imposed upon it.  For me part of that meaning which illustrates the mental complexity of what is in many ways a simple town, there is the story of El Camino. El Camino’s name caught my eye when it opened. Camino is just an older Spanish word for road and there are many roads named caminos around the Spanish Speaking World. A Camino Real is a royal road and a current hotel chain,big in Mexico when I was young. These were the best roads of the Spanish Empire as well. In the English Bibles we translate Jesus’ words, “I am the Way, the Truth and the Life.” Way there means road not method, as in the Appian Way in Italy and a very few other road names compared to the ones named road or highway or route.  The first El Camino restaurant in Abbeville was founded in the building that had once housed the well known Midway Restaurant where Concord Street (Rue de La Concorde) reaches the streets around the town square that is the middle square on the original city plan between the Vermilion Parish Courthouse Square and the Church Square, that has been occupied by the Church and its other buildings for along time. The Mexican restaurant with some Cajun and standard American accents was originally founded by a family with toots in the AMerican State of Michigan and the Mexican state of Michoacan. My cousin Joshua Broussard whom I have mentioned in this memoir  and my ex wife both waited on tables at that place. The building has been through quite a few owners since and it is now used by Tito’s La Casa owned by another out of towner from far away. Clara and I have eaten there and we had lunch there with my mother just a couple of weeks ago. Rue del Concorde symbolizes the peace between the State represented by the Courthouse and the town square and church representing the people beyond their role in the state – under the meaning of Megret’s plan.  It is the same plan line as Charity Street. The central artery line as Charity Street runs to the Courthouse square which is almost entirely occupied by the massive courthouse since the current A Hays Towne designed building was built on the square Megret designed. The bulk of the town is built off of Charity Street heading East toward the town of Erath and most of the town runs off those  streets that intersect with Charity. Then the Concord Street section runs one block to the town square. The last block of that line runs to the bridge over the river by passing in front of the church. So the Church Square is on a different line. That last block is Pere Megret Street now but originally was bounced between two other names and a continuation of the Concord Street name. In modern automotive times a bypass highway was built from a new bridge over the Vermilion River to the highway leading to Erath. One of the businesses to build on the Bypass was the Pitt Stop. The chain of locations typically had two elements: a Pitt Stop gas station and 24 hour convenience store and a Pitt Grill which was a 24 hour diner. Both businesses or gone now, but the Grill went first, it became a pool hall and then  was sold to El Camino which relocated there largely in search of better visibility and parking, although both spots are visible and have parking. The original family sold El Camino to the Friths whom I have done business with all my life including at the old incarnation of  Mickey’s. Drive Inn and at other eateries thay own. Trent Frith played football with my cousins, one of whom was one of two priests to witness Clara and  I being wed in the ceremony they concelebrated at St. Mary Magdalen. All of that connection to small town history is different from connecting to landmarks in a city that everyone knows from movies and TV. This is my world. But the reason that El Camino’s name always caught my notice is because the restaurant came to town after I had lived with my family in El Camino community in Colombia, South America. That is a connection that I am going to begin to develop in this chapter about the summer of 1977. That will follow one more connection with the Abbeville  El Camino. 

On March 6, 2024 after the Anticipated Mass for Divine Mercy Sunday at St. Mary Magdalen Church, my mother took Clara and I and my brother Simon out to eat at El Camino Restaurant. I believe that we all enjoyed the meal together. My father died on September 11, 2022 and thus missed my wedding to Clara on November 19, 2022. This week she has started having official and formal dates with a man that she was friends with many decades ago when the man who took her dancing was married to a woman who worked in my father’s office when he was the Assistant District Attorney. As couples they once moved in the same crowd.

“So how did it go?” I asked over the hot Queso  Camino as I indulged in holding Clara’s hand at various moments. “You told me, when we spoke yesterday on the phone, that you had a date yesterday evening.”
“Well I suppose it was a date. D_______ invited me to go and hear the live music and dance with him at Kelvin’s. He picked me up at five o’clock but the band did not actually start until eight o’clock and he goes to sleep at eight o’clock. “ She played with her expression very well, leaving it to us to see how she might feel about all this before she continued. “ It worked out well. We simply talked with each other for about an hour and a half. He seemed to need the time for us to converse alone because he seems intimidated by me.”

“Have you known each other a long time?” Clara asked.

“You mean D____, has he known me long before this?” My mother asked her.

“Yes.” Clara affirmed that was what she meant.

“Yes D______ and his wife E_________ as well as Louise and Albert, I______ and C______ and Frank and I were all in the same crowd years ago. But we have never spoken much since I became a missionary.”
“So, he was intimidated because he knows who you really are.” Clara explained her line of conversation.

“Intimidated by me? Why?”My mother queried.

“Because you have lived a big life.” Clara asserted.      

“I have lived a big life” My mother agreed.

I have maintained a pretty close relationship with my mother, even though there have been plenty of times of strain and sorrow. Mostly we have enjoyed each other’s company, but there have been days and weeks when there was nothing easy about it. That allows for some standard by which to assess the text I cite below.  In my mother’s second book about our lives, published in 2012 she writes:

 “Beau entered Mount Carmel Elementary in Seventh Grade. Beau was persecuted at school. The other kids teased him for professing boldly that he believed in Jesus. Recently visited with a woman who was a year behind Beau in school. Tears streamed down my face as she related the suffering he had endured from those who teased him at Mount Carmel Elementary. Part of his difficulty stemmed from changing his position as one  of the more financially and socially privileged to one of the least privileged and the poorest. – a hard transition in a small community.”(Summers, Acts page 14).

This was the experience I spelled out in my last chapter.  I had a life outside of school, but that next summer I would see that there were a lot of pressures in that life that were in conflict with one another as well. I was going to begin to feel more than before that there might not be much hope of me rising above a state of crisis. I was starting to see that I was feeling checkmated in all directions and I certainly knew a good number of people in the Styx who lived lives of very little hope. But there was a government housing project subsidized  for “the poor on one edge of the Styx, that was also not the styx. Rabbit Hill was a poorer and more troubled neighborhood. Mostly the only  people “on the dole’ in a big way in The Styx  were the increasing number of mentally ill people who were no longer in institutions or groups homes. They came to the neighborhood for low rents, to access the charity of bread and some soup at the Christian Service Center, The St. VIncent De Paul Center (eventually) absorbed by the Christian Service Center and the charitable kitchen at Open Door Community. Some were “shell shocked” veterans with PTSD and honorable discharges, other mentally ill people were hard working oilfield folks who had sustained head injuries. The neighborhood had a city councilman who made the papers and got things done. Prostitutes and pot dealers provided services people wanted and got paid for them. People operated stores of various kinds without signage or licenses but sold real good at reasonable prices from veggies, to auto parts to desserts. A few people rented rooms and some repaired motors or tools. A few had significant gardens and one had a large and substantial lily farm on several lots because Abbeville was not zoned. Gangsters were generally under a truce in The Styx in those days. They went out of the neighborhood to fight. My not- quite- girlfriend’s grandmother being beaten almost to death was not typical. It shocked the baddest  men I knew. “Whores” sometimes escaped from the lock down brothels outside the neighborhood and sometimes found shelter under local pimps who helped them find their way to better places and sometimes got bus tickets, modest clothes and a Bible from religious workers. The Christian Service center helped people fill out forms for Medicaid, for Food Stamps, for job applications, for legal aid and for lots of other things but only if people asked. Otherwise it tended to fit the profile of the neighborhood. Privacy, private charity and private enterprise  providing short or long term jobs were the norm. My girlfriend lived near the Christian Service Center as well and I gave her a nice present on her April 4th birthday. She had plan with girls and was turning fourteen and a boyfriend not yet 13 was not very cool. But we still were not dating anyone else and we still were trying to see if we could figure it all out. I was trying to finish the school year and so was she at her school and we both did…              

When the seventh grade year ended we celebrated Sarah’s first birthday and I was working enough to get her a present but also  volunteering a good bit at the Christian Service Center. In addition, my little group of guys started to get lawns referred to us by the Christian Service Center people who would pay our lower rates but could not afford the normal rate. I bought a second mower and a retiree gave us a third for four good mowings and trims. We learned to tug the mowers behind our bikes and on far more distant trips we hired a young man who had just finished high school  and owned a very battered pickup truck. WHen he worked he dropped off a load of boys a mower, a trimmer and a bike. Then he came back and picked up the other kid and two mowers. He manned the other mower and they had a trimmer. I paid him double what the other kids got. I started bringing home food for the family and gifts for the community. I treated my little not-quite-girlfriend to treats and bought Sarah a nice birthday present. I saved what I could. We still had the lawns from our list the last few months who were mostly connections from the days when Mom and DId had lived in the more prosperous part of town.

My birthday was on June 15 as it is every year. I had a number of different celebrations. My parents helped to put on a swimming party far my friends at my mother’s parents’s pool. I did not  invite friends from school but from the neighborhood mostly with perhaps one or two exceptions. Totally out of character for everything, in almost every way, my Dad’s mother took me and my not-quite-girlfriend to dinner together. We rode back to our neighborhood in the back of my grandmother’s luxury car. “Thank You Gammy!” I said. Somehow. I knew that if things went a certain way, I could end up falling in love with my almost 14 year old girlfriend, losing my virginity to her and marrying her. But I also knew that there were many reasons why that might not happen. I was careful to try to support my parent’s ministry and community ties, I was careful to flatter them as well and in addition I truly believed in many of their ideal and values and I definitely believed in Jesus. But I was also very much trying to make some money, woo a girl while I was thirteen and find some way to matter in the community. My girlfriend and I barely kissed after that dinner and it would be one of the very last times we had any uncomplicated affection. But we have mutually acknowledged memories, that is different than some women I have since known with whom there is no recognition of any connection. 

Not long after my birthday, I was trying to spend more time with the volunteers at the service center. I tried to combine unpaid prayer and service with the opportunities to acquire new lawns for my group which somehow seemed to happen. I felt that Dad had mixed feelings about my little business. “Praise God! I am glad that you are doing these things, I heard from Pres that there is a chance for you to cut at the family law office.” 

“That suits me.” I answered, “We have two lawns in the same neighborhood. I will call him shortly. ”
“Great but what will you do if we go on a trip this summer?” Dad asked.

“I have arrangements with Donald to lead the group. I have left a little money in advance at the repair and sharpening shop. He will set aside three dollars a lean as my cut. But of course it is a problem. I hope to get back in time to solve. If we are going back overseas then I might be able to accept that more easily. You know that I am not very happy at school. But I am trying.”

“Mom and I got a letter from Father Jim Mitchell that we wrote to at El Camino community in Columbia. You can read the letter when we get home and we will talk about it . But he is going to be in Ann Arbor and we are thinking of going back to the Word of God Community to see him when he arrives there.”

“It will be hard to risk a lot on the changes but I do like traveling and I would feel like we were living as missionaries if we went to live and work in Columbia. I find it hard to explain to people that we are missionaries who were called by God to be missionaries and we live here in our hometown.” .  .  

That conversation was unusually candid and honest on my part. Soon we were with Mom and little Sarah playing and talking about the trip. I suggested that we might borrow Gammie and Papa’s old farm truck. Mom suggested that we borrow the truck bed top camper shell from her parents that was just sitting abandoned outside. The trip was now a camping trip and somehow we still had some camping supplies that had survived some out dispossessions and we bought more supplies. We got in touch with my aunt Susan who had wanted us to visit her at her newish home in Truckee, California. We planned a trip to visit the old friends and ministries we had left behind in El Paso, A group of El Paso friends who had moved to Phoenix, a mission organization we had corresponded with in Oxnard, California and along the way to see national and state parks, this would bring us to Truckee for a long visit. Then we would similarly camp and drive to reach Ann Arbor, Michigan. After that we would visit Jim and Kathy in Brown’s Cove and Charlottesville, VIrginia. We might if we did that stop by Augusta Georgia and then come back home. We would cover most of the outer tiers of states if this was actually to be our route. I felt bad leaving my lawns and potential girlfriend, but I did feel an attraction to the romance of the road and the possible life in the missions in Columbia made more sense to me than our life in Abbeville.It was clear to me that I was going to struggle with a lot of different issues. But a lot of them would have to with money.  I could put those worries on hold in the missions.

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I was a teenager now, that was the term that had so much meaning in the United States of America. I knew  that losing the cutting season of the summer would be a big setback in income, but I also knew that it could be more time to bond with Mom and Sarah. I had not been seeing them as much lately and I was very busy in ways that were not going to solve all our problems. I found the time I spent at the Christian Service Center rewarding, I hoped to see a more intense  relationship with my girlfriend and  I liked hanging with my guys as we cut grass. But I knew that I was a traveler and a missionary or else I was a confused kid fighting an impossible battle to find a place to be.someone I could feel comfortable with at all levels. . 

The values of The Styx are not the only values that I bring with me. But when I think of AMerica and what it is and what it is not I think of that neighborhood often. I sense it was closer to the essence of America than many other places. I leave this thought as  grounds for my own sense of why my time there mattered as much as it did. 

“Yet, rather than regarding this diversity as grounds for despair, Madison took it as a source of his new republicanism. The task of government, he maintained, should not be to eliminate the causes of faction, as the ancient writers had argued, so much as to control their effects. The most obvious of these effects was diversity in property. A primary task of statesmanship in the modern commercial republic, then, would  not be to impose equality of property, but to manage the differences between their different kinds.(Steven B.Smith “Learning from Publius”; National Affairs; number 54, winter 2023:page 99

So it was with a troubled goodbye to my girl and my lawn guys that I set out with my family. “Thank God there is a little window that slides in this truck, we can all talk” I said to Mom as we reached the first stop to eat the meal she cooked up on our Coleman Camping Stove. “This is not very comfortable or elegant but it works a whole lot better than I would expect since the truck never had a camper before according to everyone I asked.”

“Yes, it is nice to camp because the campgrounds are beautiful often and so we pull up and we are in a beautiful place, no matter how we arrive.”.Mom replied.

“ I do love nature.” I assured her.

In El Paso things had changed, we had wonderful visits with friends but I got the impression that The  Lords School might not be reopening the next year. There was a new regime at La Cueva and even Father Rick seemed to find it more awkward to be with us -although we were all still friends..

In Phoenix we met wonderful friends who had moved from El Paso and put us up in some comfort. They were all thrilled to meet Sarah. But there was a definite sense that we were just visiting. It was a common thing in those days in Abbeville and elsewhere that people asked us to pray for the sick. Many reported feeling better and some with desperate prognoses were healed very soon afterwards. We would hear stories about this sort of thing whenever we doubled back to meet people. There were people who faked such things I knew and those which could be easily explained. But this was a constant strand in my life and included my own prayers and a good people over the years from 9 to 22 years of age who told convincing stories that I had been given a gift of healing that God had used to set them right and make them well. It happened frequently in my parents’ ministry as well. My parents had their troubles and it was not always easy to live with the very human struggles they could get into. My mother truly and sincerely wanted to be a good wife and mother and then go to heaven after a long life. But she also wanted to go to heaven tomorrow whenever things got too bad. But I did enjoy bonding more with Mom and Sarah on the trip.

I did emphasize that when I had traveled these roads with Gammie and PauPau we had seen a lot of sites and reminded them of another time we had seen a few. I really wanted to revisit the Grand Canyon, Bryce Canyon, the painted Desert, The Petrified Forest and other places I loved. I know we visited a few and I was glad we did. But we passed a lot of great scenery at night partly because it was cooler to drive at night and we had very little air conditioning crossing the Southwest desert in the summer. We prayed with and shared food with a couple of people in the campsites. I began to feel like we were really on the edge of American society and that the religious lunatic fringe that one could find on the highways and campsites had just as many problems as the mainstream. At every site I bought a postcard with my dwindling money and mailed it home to either a grandparent or my girlfriend. I also bought my girlfriend a couple of nice presents.

When we reached the mission organization in Oxnard, I could not believe family I met were supporting missionaries but they were – i knew that to be true. My sense of scandal came not from their sins or behavior being immoral. I was scandalized because they wrapped all their furniture and carpets in plastic except for on special occasions. This was to make things last longer. I couldn’t fit together the openness to people around the world and the same family requiring all the people they actually knew to sit on uncomfortable sheets of cheap plastic to protect their possessions. But despite feeling uncomfortable.  I made pretty good friends with their son. He seemed so relieved that I did not make him feel like his parents were crazy. I felt good about making him feel respected – but I did think his parents might be crazy.

When we got up to Truckee my aunt Susan was working two and a half  part-time jobs, she was a waitress in an omelet restaurant, worked as some kind of clerk in a public utility and helped the mechanics with some things at the municipal airport garage. She had a great middle sized house on the Truckee RIver she was fixing up. We prayed with her friends who were not so religious, she was divorced from Don,  her Mormon husband, they had split up and they had no children to keep them in close contact.. While we were there we went to see him as well and he gave us a tour of a water treatment system he helped to manage. Afterwards we had “a  Catholic and Backsliding  Mormon” prayer meeting according to Don. It was kind of sad, even though I loved hiking around Truckee. While I was there walking I saw one of the men who I had known to be associated with the old traditions in Abbeville and with several lines of  families I was related to on my father’s side, Seeing him at any place other than South Louisiana was a revelation. The old man told me not to talk about him but he talked with me.. He said that he watched  certain people now and then and my Aunt Susan was one of them.  I kept my word and never talked of this encounter for many years. I was feeling like the odds of my life working out well were not good, yet I also truly believed in the power of a spiritual path and the one I was on in life with my parents. 

Our time in Ann Arbor and Word of God Community reunited me with my friends who had cystic fibrosis. Our relationship was complicated by many factors I cannot discuss, comfortably even here. But my parents and I were there mostly because Fr. Jim Mitchell was there from the El Camino community in Colombia. They mostly met with him without me. But by that time I had an interest in the publishing and other businesses being run by the community and I got some great tours of some of those facilities. We also saw Ralph Martin again who was a very important figure in the Catholic Charismatic Renewal. 

We then went down from Ann Arbor to Brown’s Cove and  Charlottesville to visit with Jim and Kathy. They put us up a little while and had a new garden. Jim distinctly remembers Sarah becoming fascinated with the tomatoes – plants and fruit and calling them ‘may-mays” She was a long way short of the two year norm for speaking but like me she was an early talker.  We were not here very long before we were on the way back to Abbeville, to Open Door Community and we were only able to stop in and visit Faith VIllage for a brief visit.

When we got back to Abbeville, I was eager to bring my gifts to my girlfriend. She accepted them graciously but I could see things were never going to be the same. She was going to high school at a big public High School and was likely to make the cheer squad. My lawn business was barely limping along. But I felt like I was back to being someone I recognized. I was the traveler coming home from my travels to Abbeville with my family. Somehow, I would be going back to school as a missionary kid with no immediate plans to go into the missions. But I was hoping to find my way forward.

Online Memoir Chapter Fourteen: The Other Side of Life in My Hometown

In the summer semester of the 2021 2022 school year I took two classes at the University of Louisiana of Lafayette. One of the classes was Education in a DIverse Classroom. The other was Diverse Families. In the DIverse Families course I used the fourteenth edition of the book The Marriage and Family Experience: Intimate Relationships in a Changing Society by Theodore F. Cohen and Bryan Strong. It was another important text in a very long line of texts about sex and family in my life.  Sex has been an important concern in my life for a long time, However, I am  very far from claiming to be a great lover these days or to have become an expert on family or sex. But I have built a body of knowledge that has a great deal to to with the time we spent living in the Sticks (or the Styx) neighborhood in Abbeville, my home town. In that small set of blocks in my hometown there were not large estates, privacy fences, gated communities and a host of lawyers and bodyguards. If one was a very intelligent child in early adolescence it was hard not to notice a variety of happy families with traditional values, young people pregnant well before emancipation and struggling, all kind of pimps from abusive gangsters to benevolent gangsters as well as those who used religion as a cloak for prostitution or child abuse and those right near them who were religious and having connections with  prostitutes and abused children for the purpose of helping them. Promiscuous girls and trafficked teen prostitutes lived together. Violent drug dealers had money and supported their families and others in the same block did the same thing and blew all their ill gotten goods on bad things only.There were people practicing music for high school band. There were openly gay men and men who came to visit them from more respectable neighborhoods that might or might not have paid them.  Sex  in the neighborhood was like music in the neighborhood, the sexual climate was diverse and obvious but not publicly celebrated.Our family was involved with people making music about redemption from sin that involved sexual misbehavior. There were no concert venues but there were still other musicians practicing in their yards and on their porches for gigs in bars and dance halls that would be few and far between for most of those guys – nobody I knew made it big. In music from that crowd. One kid got a music scholarship from a university, but he was the exception. It was a place with music and yet not defined by music, the  mix of rock, choir music, marches, Cajun and zydeco music I heard was sometimes beautiful but was not celebrated communally very much. A little made it to the nearby brothels and clubs but very little. Open Door Community and the Christian Service Center had worship with instruments and voices regularly and that was the most regular organized celebration of music in the neighborhood. I learned a great deal about how other people had sex and defined themselves sexually. I also learned that there was nobody I could safely talk to about most of these sexual matters and the experiences that we had being lived out around us. The neighborhood also had stores in people;s homes with no signs, a real and regular laundry and drycleaner. It ran to a street with bars and a graveyard on one border, to a nicer neighborhood on another two sides and to a large middle school, high school football stadium and a vocational and technical community college on the remaining side. I could leave the neighborhood on my bike on many  routes and I did. But when I was there I lived in a very sexualized place where people felt like they were tolerated but sort of on the edge of what made up  our legal and accepted way of life.     

This chapter is not mostly about sex but without a discussion of sex it would have little to do with my experience.  I will visit it from many points of view before we get out of this and on with the stories of the next chapter.   . `

In Virginia, at the cabin in Brown’s Cove I had taken my attachment to the Bible to a new level and really drilled down on Bible reading.  I had been reading the Bible regularly for years but in the quiet and isolation of the cabin, I had been able to devote a great deal of time to reading the scripture and to studying it with the tools I had at my fingertips. I personally owned a Jerusalem Bible Study Version and a New American Bible Study Version. I am not sure that they were called study versions anywhere but each of these translations came in a version with stipped down appendices, footnotes and marginal cross references. The kinds I had were the Bibles with all the works. A basic start to scripture study was to read the same passage in both of my translations then to try to imagine what original text might have been translated in both of these ways. Then I looked up all the parallel of referential texts cited in the cross references to other scripture passages in both Bibles. Next I looked up every word I thought might be in the McKenizie’s DIctionary of the Bible. After that I would read articles I thought were relevant in the  Jerome Biblical Commentary. Then I would pray for insight and write down a few notes.  

My Parents had several other Bible translations and we had access to a few study aids when we visited the Church early and left late for  Sunday Mass, sometimes I discussed my reading with my parents, some of our more religious guests and also with a priest at church. But mostly I kept my thoughts to myself. We had  pretty good access to Biblical texts. and resources despite our lack of possessions

My biggest topic of Biblical study in VIrginia was KIng David.  David remains a very powerful and prominent figure in my thoughts about a great number of things.  Here are a few things I remember about that study of David:

  1. David was born into the tribe of Judah:Judah was a tribe set aside for leadership and royalty above most, but it was not the only tribe set apart for a role of leadership.. Levi was a holy tribe set apart for worship and ritual leadership. But the tribe of Judah and the two half tribes of Joseph  that passed under the names of Joseph’s sons Ephraim and Manasseh (especially Ephraim) had the most kingly roles before Israel had kings.  Saul on the other hand was from the Tribe of Benjamin, which would have ranked just below these other three in claims to a Kingly role. David was not born rich but he was born with a certain claim to nobility.
  2. David was a shepherd boy who killed lions and bears to defend his sheep.
  3. David was a musician and this would play a big role in the Bible, his life and Jewish History.
  4. Dacid was a hero who killed the giant Goliath of Gath and became a great warrior.
  5. David was a courtier in the COurt of KIng Saul, the first King of Israel and he married Saul’s daughter and became close friends with Jonathan the KIng’s sone.
  6. Prophets anointed and encouraged David as King while Saul as still king. Ln time David became an outlaw leading an outlaw army hunted by Saul.
  7. David was extremely polygamous,
  8. David was prayerful and found religious reasons to give himself to practicing mercy, worship and humility unlike anybody else in his sphere.
  9. David saw himself as a repentant sinner.
  10. David loved his children. His son Absalom led a revolt against him and as killed, his first son by Bathsheba died to punish David for his sins.
  11. David conquered Jerusalem and brought the Ark of the Covenant and prepared for Solomon’s Temple to be built by his son.. 
  12.   David was called by God “A man after my own heart”.
  13. Jesus was descended from the House of David, and was often called the Son of David.
  14. David knew how to lead, plan and administer.

It was clear to me at the time understanding David was vital to understanding the Bible and all things associated with the Bible. I also realized that  I was going to have different ideas about what was important when discussing scripture than many people around me. I remember that we were seeking to hear the Word of God in scripture. That belief in the Bible as the Word of God  was true of the people at Mass talking after church about the readings we had all heard.  It was true of my parents and their close associates. It was true of the Protestant missionaries and preachers I had come to know and it was true of the people in Charismatic prayer groups and communities. I did talk about scripture with learned nonbelievers as well, doing that made me appreciate the historical, geographical, linguistic and cultural information I had gained from my Catholic Bibles and study aids. But before I got  back to Abbeville, I was predisposed to see the many ways in which people related to Chrisitanity and religion in a manner that didn’t blind me to reality.  

My life is perhaps like many other lives in that there are times of distinct success and times of failure. There are times of joy and times of sorrow.  Perhaps also like most humans if one dialed in or zoomed in on the times one would clearly designate as  bad there would be good times relative to the general bad time I was experiencing likewise if one were to zoom in on the good times, one would find there were bad times  compared to the generally good time I was experiencing.  I think that that is pretty well accepted to be the human condition. It is not a new observation, one of my favorite treatments of the theme is in the Bible.  

   Ecclesiastes 3

A Time for Everything This title is from the editors)

1 There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens:

2 a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot,

3 a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build,

4 a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance,

5 a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,

6 a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away,

7 a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak,

8 a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace.

9 What do workers gain from their toil?

10 I have seen the burden God has laid on the human race.

11 He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end.

12 I know that there is nothing better for people than to be happy and to do good while they live.

13 That each of them may eat and drink, and find satisfaction in all their toil—this is the gift of God.

14 I know that everything God does will endure forever; nothing can be added to it and nothing taken from it. God does it so that people will fear him.

15 Whatever is has already been, and what will be has been before; and God will call the past to account.

16 And I saw something else under the sun: In the place of judgment—wickedness was there, in the place of justice—wickedness was there.

17 I said to myself, “God will bring into judgment both the righteous and the wicked, for there will be a time for every activity, a time to judge every deed.”

18 I also said to myself, “As for humans, God tests them so that they may see that they are like the animals.

19 Surely the fate of human beings is like that of the animals; the same fate awaits them both: As one dies, so dies the other. All have the same breath ; humans have no advantage over animals. Everything is meaningless.

20 All go to the same place; all come from dust, and to dust all return.

21 Who knows if the human spirit rises upward and if the spirit of the animal goes down into the earth?”

22 So I saw that there is nothing better for a person than to enjoy their work, because that is their lot. For who can bring them to see what will happen after them?’ (New International Version).

My mother tells her version of our return to Louisiana from Virginia in her second book about our family’s lives, Our Family’s Book of Acts: To Love and to Serve the Lord published in 2012.  In the chapter, “News From Home – An Open Door”  She tells of the trip from Virginia. 

“Soon after we left the icicles in Virginia. In early November, we arrived in Louisiana by train. To experience the tail end of a summer not yet retired. The Atchafalaya Basin’s sultry swamp showed few signs of fall. The trip had taken about a week from Charlottesville to New Orleans. We stopped briefly  at the Summers home in uptown New Orleans, borrowed a car and headed out to Cajun Country. We loved the drive over the Basin. It was so pristine; some said there were places in the vast waterways that man still had never seen. Tall, straight cypress trees hovered over the stretches of idyllic scenery.  The “knees” dotted the smooth surface looking like miniature sentries dutifully standing their ground. The skies were incredibly blue, Spanish Moss swayed in the breeze. Yep, we were home, home in God’s country.” (Summers, Acts  page 4).   

What made the difference in my life between here and there, this and that became less clear when I calculated all the things that made my life different from the lives of other people.My parents had found a way to live in the town we all called home.I was very uncomfortable at school. I felt it was just more than I could do to be simultaneously the person everyone remembered ( who was not that popular in the first place) and the new person equally out of the norm. School was hard for me under any circumstances and spending large amounts of time in the busy structures, regulated and conformist environments of a school never came easy. But these new circumstances were more than usually difficult. I never felt that I handled the stress very well.

I had a few obstacles that I did overcome. I had a class largely devoted to reading when I got back to Mount Carmel Elementary School. WhenI first arrived and enrolled we all had streamed drills in groups who read at our speed. I was tested in the slowest group first, my scores showed I far surpassed this group.. Then I was tested in the second to slowest group and the same result occurred. Next I was tested in the second to fastest reading group. I excelled and surpassed that standard as well. FInally, I was tested in the last and fastest group and I was one of the fastest readers in the group and still able to get perfect scores on content comprehension and analysis test on the content I read a t breakneck speed There at least I was back in line with  the top group of students in my class. Mostly they were the same people I had left behind  to go to Tonga. In other areas I struggled. Living as the kind of missionary my parents wanted us to be and going to my old school seemed impossible to me in many ways.

In the stress of the situation, I did not always behave well. I lied to cover up the things I did not have and the paying job that my father did not have. I found solace and joy in the prayers and Bible studies  in religion classes. I had always found schools to be difficult places to be but the behavior of students when no adults were around became harder and harder to tolerate. I got into a fight with a few boys who I thought were severely bullying a boy who was the closest to  openly gay of anyone at our little school.. FIghting seemed to clash with my very religious persona in those days. I didn’t  “approve” of homosexuality but I was less approving of bullying. That fight and other conflicts only exacerbated the bullying that was inevitable given the conflicts in my mind, thee fact that I wore a cross– all of which made it impossible for me to reconcile my new identity in the small intimate school with my previous one. The wear and tear of relationships at school was not my only source of problems but it was a significant one.       . 

“Investigations into teacher exoduses in prior years, including a poll from the Policy Exchange, found that over 70% of teachers identified student behavior as a major cause. Data on the current teacher flight are harder to come by, but a poll from the National Education Association found that 90% of teachers say that burnout is a serious concern; 76% identify student behavior as a driver of it. Local reporting in states like California confirms that many teachers are citing student behavior as a major reason behind their decision to quit the profession.”. (Daniel Buck, The Abolition of School Discipline, National Affairs number 54, WInter 2023; page23)..   

In lives where disordered behavior at school has not been important it is hard to recognize how intense a problem it is for many others.  I was trying to find a way to reconcile too many things and I began to feel that perhaps I was going to have serious issues with fitting in and even more problems controlling my emotions at school. There were days when I walked around in a kind of haze that was different from the way I had always kind of marched to a different drummer than was the ideal at any school I attended. 

One of the highlights of that half year in 7th grade at Mount Carmel Elementary School was getting to the top stream of Miss Clancey’s Reading Class, another was catching up with the class in math where I had already begun to fall behind. But the brightest highlight was when we were all asked to make a presentation on a skill for my homeroom. I listened respectfully to the other students. But then when my time came and  I gave the presentation I  had scheduled, I chose  “How to Read the Bible.” I got a hundred percent even though my teacher had discouraged me from picking it. I discussed commentaries, dictionaries, cross-references, diglots, translations and hermeneutics. I gave examples and I discussed the  Second Vatican Council document on DIvine Revelation. Afterwards, the teacher said “ Beau. Your presentation was so good that I will give you a hundred because I have to give you above one hundred percent in all the categories except connecting with the audience. You never smiled and you almost never made eye contact with your classmates. Everyone appreciated your work, all these people are your friends.”

When she was finished speaking there were tears in my eyes. I don’t remember my report card that year,  but I felt  lucky and successful to have made it that far and gotten back into a decent position in the class. I was not happy and I felt like the burdens I was bearing was more than I could take. Yet I also felt that if I could somehow find peace with the changes that had gone on in my life, I might find a path going forward in school. At some point I lost those records but for many years I kept them and any others I could find in a special file at my Dad’s parents second home in Abbeville, I had a single slightly relevant document from Tonga Side School and another from The Lord’s School. That first half  year, I began to organize some of the local boys into a sort of informal company. We moved things for people, trimmed a few hedges and by the end of the school year we cut a few yards. I made the sales and connections and bought or borrowed as much equipment as I could.  I did do the physical work, but less than  an equal share.  I divided the money among the participants and they all seemed happy. It was a chance to lead and I felt good leading something. Once that year we took a bicycle ride to a place called the Woodlawn Bridge. It was a number of miles out of town and we went as fast as we could and held together to fight off the loose dogs that attacked us. My guys all knew how to swim but had little access to pools. The public pool was closing down more and more or had closed down – I can’t remember. But on the way home we stopped and swam at the pool behind my mother’s parents house on the bayou. They accepted my crew from the Styx and we prayed and made promises in the shrine in the woods. When I was in town we would try to keep things together and grow it into anything we could find.

Between school and this little business I had my own life. But in addition I was part of the Open Door Community and the emerging Christian Service Center.  That was  a complicated time. Our family was very involved with people who were severely mentally ill and others who were marginally mentally disabled. There were people who rented a room in our home who suffered from hallucinations and severe behavioral issues. There were others who came by and got meals at Open Door Community and still others who went by the CHristian Service Center for help. Beyond these people were those who were truly desperate and those who were needy. I would meet child prostitutes, rapists and others who were involved in the life of the neighborhood. The girl I liked and hung out with in the neighborhood  lived next to her grandmother. I am not sure exactly when her grandmother, who liked to go to the dancehalls on the weekend was raped, beaten and left for dead. But we had stolen one real kiss over a long time and once or twice in the dark had held hands. But the day they brought her grandmother out in a stretcher we were a couple for all the world to see. She cried first in my arms on the street and then with her head on my should while we sat on the porch swing of our house. We were never really a couple but there was always a bond. Somehow that day froze everything for us in some way.   A lot of times merge from varied trips and I can distinguish them by where we were living in the same neighborhood that was  to be our base in Abbeville for many years. The Bordelons from Abbeville and Navajoland were back with us in the neighborhood for a while one summer and I found it harder to maintain my friendships with them than when we lived on the farm. We rode about on bikes in the sweltering heat and tried to figure out if any of us would end up back in the missions or not. 

It was going to be a variety of times that blended together but we would live in the house across from the Christian Service Center, a different house across from the  Seton Elementary School that had just been abandoned and then in the school itself. I try to separate the jumbled memories by remembering whereIi woke for any particular event that I remember or where I went to bed after such an event.. Often during those first months we shared a common meal at least once a day and all did after dinner chores in the former rectory where the Bernards and Listis lived. It was a convivial and television free environment. We shared prayers, chores and conversation. 

There was a common library besides the ones each family had and the majority of the books belonged to the Listi family. But some belonged to the Summers and the Bernard families. They had books on the Bible and Classic comics both of which I claimed to read and actually did read. But there was also a section of books on marriage counseling. I received much of my knowledge of sex not from the questionable sources most boys used on playgrounds and in dark parts of the neighborhood. I read a number of  books from there and added others:Letters to Karen: A Father’s Advice On Keeping Love in Marriage, Charlie W. Shedd  and Letters to my Philip:On How to Treat a Woman I also read Larry Christenson ‘s The Christian Family, that were written by white Protestant Christian Americans in the twentieth century who had a conservative view of family life. A brand new book by Dr. James Dobson that came out in 1975 would be the basis of a conservative family values movement. It was called Dare to Discipline and was published in 1975..  A book more challenging to American culture was another thing I got my hands on; Raymond and Dorothy Moore’s book, which was discussed whenever my checkered education was discussed. That was another book that hit the mass market in 1975:Better Late Than Early : A New Approach to Your Child’s Education. The Moore book was part of the homeschool movement that was gradually coming to play a significant role in my life, even though I had been in seventh grade to the finish and still was not sure if I would ever formally homeschool.   I am so aware that the future would. The Joy of Natural Childbirth by Helen Wessel published in 1963 made me aware of all the things I didn’t know about sex and women’s bodies. It also answered some of the questions it raised.. I could list many other books, but this reading sort of helped to accentuate a sense of a split between the ideals of a stable and monogamous family centered in Christian spirituality and the other sexual influences and also my own thoughts about sex which were not of a single piece and were still forming. I was a middle school kid, but I did not feel like I was ordinary in any way  –good or bad.

Chapter Thirteen of Online Memoir: Don’t Call it Unlucky Thirteen

This chapter is a little different than any other. Many people, if writing about their whole lives would say that their middle school years were difficult. My middle school years were in fact quite difficult., Over the years my view of the years has changed but for a long time almost all the recollections were painful. But over the years, I established some better relationships with some of my former classmates and a few years ago I started dating, became engaged to and married Clara – a girl I liked but did not know well  in those days. But those future outcomes were very far in the future when I lived through very important transition in my life. It is about coming home and planning to return in mid year to my old school. Mount Carmel Elementary School in Abbeville was where I had gone to first, third, fourth and half of fifth grade.  Now I would be returning there for some of my middle school year studies. This would be a very challenging transition for me and it was one I would think about a great deal over the rest of my life. Because it was so important, I want to take the time and space to outline its significance for my one theoretical reader who may dig this up from a digital archive in a few hundred years as part of a research project. In fact, I still entertain the hope that someone may read this chapter during my lifetime.   

I was heading back to Abbeville in the middle of the school year, wondering about what that would mean. In the world of memoirs and autobiographies there are many stories of education. I specifically have mentioned The Education of Henry Adams. I have also spent some time reading and entering into the school years of CS Lewis  chronicled in Surprised by Joy. The tortured experiences of a child of lesser means and great ability at elite British schools  in George Orwell’s Such, Such Were the Joys. Also read of the education of a member of Louisiana’s declining planter elite in his education by tutors in Lanterns on the Levee. But this was before J.K. Rowling’s Harry Potter novels had enamored the world with a magical school like Hogwart’s. The Jesuit book in the first house we stayed in when we got to El Paso made school seem special but the idea of Robert Louis Stevenson was that boys were kidnapped or marooned  or separated from schools and had great adventures. The Jean George novel, My Side of the Mountain published in 1959 was popular among middle school readers and told about how a boy left New York City to live on his grandfather’s abandoned farm in the Catskills, learns a bunch of  life and wilderness skills on the way then ends up making his home in a hollow tree when he reaches the farm and finds that the farmhouse is gone. Tarzan by Edgar RIce Burroughs was the tale of a boy raised by the most humanlike (anthropoid) of all apes and by dim memories of his high born parents as well as access to their tools and library.     The idea of  school was  part of the good adventure of life in childhood for women writers like Louisa May Alcott in her novels, Little Women and Little Men.  It was certainly a central part of development for Laura Ingall WIlder in her Little House on the Prairie series of novels but for her and for Alcott, family, farm, nature , church and larger social trends overshadow the school as an institution. In C.S. Lewis’s Chronicles of Narnia, the kids get scooped out of our universe to go to Narnia. They are school children in England but the adventures happen elsewhere – nobody at school would understand those adventures very well. Also in the same Lewis series the Narnian education includes a tutor who is a half dwarf who helps a young Prince Caspian to escape into the wilderness to find his future and survive his murderous usurping Uncle Miraz.  School itself in Narnia can be horrifying, here are two passages from the second to last chapter of Prince Caspian in the chronicles. That illustrate this point, the first is the boys school from the Telmarine occupation of Narnia..

At a little town half-way to Beaversdam, where two rivers met, they came to another school, where a tired looking girl was teaching arithmetic to a number of boys who looked very like pigs. She looked out of the window and saw the divine revelers singing up the street and a stab of joy went through her heart. Aslan stopped right under the window and looked up at her.

“Oh, don’t, don’t,” she said. “I’d love to. But I mustn’t. I must stick to my work. And the children would be frightened if they saw you.”

“Frightened?” said the most pig-like of the boys. “Who’s she talking to out of the window? Let’s tell the inspector she talks to people out of the window when she ought to be teaching us.”

“Let’s go and see who it is,” said another boy, and they all came crowding to the window. But as soon as their mean little faces looked out, Bacchus gave a great cry of Euan, euoi-oi-oi-of and the boys all began howling with fright and trampling one another down to get out of the door and jumping out of the windows. And it was said afterwards (whether truly or not) that those particular little boys were never seen again, but that there were a lot of very fine little pigs in that part of the country which had never been there before.

The second is the description of the girls school from the same day at the end of the Telmarine occupation of Narnia:

The first house they came to was a school: a girls’ school, where lot of Narnian girls, with their hair done very tight and ugly tight collars round their necks and thick tickly stockings on their legs, were having a history lesson. The sort of “History” that was taught in Narnia under Miraz’s rule was duller than the truest history you ever read and less true than the most exciting adventure story.

“If you don’t attend, Gwendolen,” said the mistress, and stop looking out of the window, I shall have to give you an order-mark.”

“But please, Miss Prizzle – ” began Gwendolen.

“Did you hear what I said, Gwendolen?” asked Miss Prizzle.

“But please, Miss Prizzle,” said Gwendolen, “there’s a LION!”

“Take two order-marks for talking nonsense,” said Miss Prizzle. “And now – ” A roar interrupted her. Ivy came curling in at the windows of the classroom. The walls became a mass of shimmering green, and leafy branches arched overhead where the ceiling had been. Miss Prizzle found she was standing on grass in a forest glade. She clutched at her desk to steady herself, and found that the desk was a rose-bush. Wild people such as she had never even imagined were crowding round her. Then she saw the Lion, screamed and fled, and with her fled her class, who were mostly dumpy, prim little girls with fat legs. Gwendolen hesitated.

“You’ll stay with us, sweetheart?” said Aslan.

“Oh, may I? Thank you, thank you,” said Gwendolen. Instantly she joined hands with two of the Maenads, who whirled her round in a merry dance and helped her take off some of the unnecessary and uncomfortable clothes that she was wearing.

Wherever they went in the little town of Beruna it was the same. Most of the people fled, a few joined them. When they left the town they were a larger and a merrier company.

These two schools are described on the same day in the narrative as Aslan, the Christlike Lion god (in the company of the Pevensie girls on break from their schools in England) liberates the land for Old Narnians and the Telmarines who are willing to live as Narnians in peace with mystical races and Talking Beasts. The other Telamrines who surrender are sent to a remote island on Earth (when the first Telmarines came) not to a modern country with modern schools. There they may beuld a better society than any theu have yet known. 

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We had returned home from our time in the United Kingdom when Dad was studying at King’s College at the University of London, my Mom’s brother – my Uncle Jed– had traveled with us and gone to school at an ENglish Boarding School. We had returned from the time we lived in Manhattan, New York City, New York.  In addition, we frequently had gone on trips from Abbeville and returned to speak about these trips and the places we had seen with our friends and acquaintances in Abbeville. I  also  knew that we had seen my Uncle Jim on our most recent trip and we had traveled across the country once and stopped in to see my Uncle WIll  who was in a military school out of state. On another trip, we had seen where my Dad;s sister Susan was living in San Francisco. We were accustomed to traveling and to telling the story of places we had gone and what we had learned from the trip. The time we had been back after the visit to EL Paso was somewhat different. There was a sense of having had a great experience and we had some interesting stories. There was the joy of Sarah’s birth and the joy of sharing our faith. But there was also the sense that we had no real place to live out our new experience and there was a real sense that we had lost our old place.

The idea of creating meaning through taking a journey and finding some transformation in the journey is fairly universal. Those who study stories have noted this. 

12. Return with the Elixir

In which our Hero has a triumphant homecoming.

Finally, the Hero gets to return home. However, they go back a different person than when they started out: they’ve grown and matured as a result of the journey they’ve taken.

But we’ve got to see them bring home the bacon, right? That’s why the protagonist must return with the “Elixir,” or the prize won during the journey, whether that’s an object or knowledge and insight gained.

Of course, it’s possible for a story to end on an Elixir-less note — but then the Hero would be doomed to repeat the entire adventure.

https://blog.reedsy.com/guide/story-structure/heros-journey/#12__return_with_the_elixir

I am not sure what degree the feeling of a hero’s return was there for my parents but I think very little of it was there for me. On the other hand VInce Listi was going to have a job in ministry in our home town and he and his wife had been involved in the Catholic Charismatic Renewal in the region. That meant they were at leat a little bit involved in the process of payer about forming a residential community in an old Hawthorne Street Housing complex, not far from where they were moving. They were moving into the complex of buildings for th defunct African American Catholic Parish of Our Lady of Lourdes, where the Church had burnt down and the school of St. Elizabeth Seton Elementary was slowly winding down towards closing for ever. The Listis and Bernards would share the large abandoned rectory rent free and Vince Listi would direct the Christian Service Center operating out of the abandoned convent that had housed the sister who served the parish. I am writing this memoir in 2024 and this year there is a pretty successful movie called Cabrini.   The community of nuns that had served the parish and lived in the convent that would become the  Christian Service Center  were members of Mother Cabrini’s order. The site of all this would be sad and also hopeful with renovations and repurposing.

Our family had no job there and would be renting a house at first. I tried to contribute a faith filled enthusiasm for what Mom and Dad were doing but I was actually feeling a significant amount of doubt and anxiety about all the facts that I just mentioned. When I went to school I would have my own room in a fairly big house across from the old convent and we had a decent yard and the house we rented was in decent shape and had a porch swing and a large sitting room. But I felt very ill at ease. Almost all the kids who were  my neighbors went to public schools that I had not even visited in town. In my old neighborhood, most kids went to the same Catholic school I had attended. One of my best friends from the shool lived not too far away. That was awkward for me because he had always said that his house was the boundary of The Sticks (also the Styx), the mixed race and somewhat rougher neighborhood in which I now clearly resided. My parents seemed to have a different point of view about all of these changes than I could come up with.  I was pretty stressed and would be stressed again and again. Over the years other things would stress me but this period was very stressful.  

I never felt that I had a lot of margin for error to live on in life. I always felt a fair degree of insecurity even when others might have said that I was privileged. But to return to our home town where we had been prosperous to live in a state of  some kind of run down position as failed missionaries seemed almost the hardest thing in the world. In addition, Mom and Dad had resigned their jobs as teachers at St. John’s Marist Boys School  (Dad’s job) and St. Mary’s Marist Girls School in Tonga where they had a salary and a house provided for the work they did, in addition people had been sending donations from home to the infirmary run by the Marist nuns where we volunteered. Life had seemed to make some sense. In Samoa they had been houseparents for Youth WIth a Mission and the culture of the organization was that they would raise their own support from donors, but they got some room and board. However, they had not raised much support. In New Mexico nothing had gelled from a lifestyle point of view and in El Paso the La CUeva ministry had not worked out for the long term, partly because it was a ministry that required some SPanish speaking and we did not speak enough Spanish to amount to anything. Then Dad had mowed pastures while living  in Abbeville. But since then we had wandered without any real effort to take root economically. I felt that Dad’s view of Gospel Poverty was somehow unhinged and not in sync with the gospels or the epistles or the Acts of the Apostles which he quoted. But I also believed it was very possible that God had called my Dad to the impossible task of creating a path  that would allow Catholic families to do new and beautiful things for God without being trapped in a belief that such adventures were only for clerics and religious.  I  also believed it was very possible that God had called my Dad to the impossible task of creating a path  that would allow American families to do new and beautiful things for God without being trapped in a belief that such adventures were only for those not obligated to spending all their time chasing what Dad had referred to a s the Almighty Dollar  in my early childhood when he was an atheist and he half loved money and half loather the idea of defining everything by its dollar value. I also believed it was very possible that God had called my Dad to the impossible task of creating a path  that would allow people  with advanced degrees and lots of worldly experience a chance to do new and beautiful things in spiritual theology without being trapped in a belief that such adventures were only for clerics and trained theologian on the one hand or simplistic populist preachers stirring emotion on the other hand. I just wondered if he could follow God’s call without doing too much irreparable harm to my Mom, my sister and myself. So far I had determined that I would have to live a triple life. First, I would sincerely seek to find my way to serve and follow Jesus Christ in the Catholic Church and to be a good son and brother in my missionary family. Secondly, I would seek to make sure that I was going the things that needed to be done for me to thrive and have a future and to contribute to the family’s well being and I would learn to cloak these rational behaviors in language and appearances that would not encourage the parents that I could not trust to derail those plans – I would live a life under cover. Thirdly, I would live a life responding to an ever increasing  sense that I had limits some people did not have that were at odds with my needs and desires, my body and emotions would at various points just let me down and leave me feeling exhausted, pained and unable to act. I didn’t know how all of that would work out – but at 12 years old,  it seemed both certain that this was my path going forward and certain that it would be a heavy load.

The idea of heading home was hard but once we started on our way I was excited to see my grandparents. The future was mirky but it would be fun to reconnect with some things I knew. Today as I type the main draft of this chapter, I am back in Abbeville and have lived here for years. The way I live is not very much connected  to any of the ideas I had back then about life in Abbeville.  

The woman I am married to today had her own sorrows and I would not learn about them for a long time. I never formed a puppy love relationship in middle school with any of the girls at Mount Carmel Elementary. There were pretty many of such relationships. However, I did form a connection with a girl in the neighborhood that never went far enough or fast enough to really give me a solid reputation as a male of my age in my circle  – but it lasted for quite a while and had some key learning experiences as well.

The great consolation of my new life when we got back to Abbeville was very definite in  material terms was that I got a new bike as and early Christmas present. The cool bike was a ten speed English racer of any brand that was available at a good store..  My was what I asked for a three speed with wider tires and a very well made wire basket big enough to carry something substantial. I was happy that I I got it but I never looked cool on it. However, it could do what the other bikes could do and it also made possible some micro businesses.that I would launch.

On that bike made with a Columbia nameplate I could get all around Abbeville and the surrounding area and I did do that to a remarkable degree. I will return to those escapades in the next chapters.  Abbeville is my home at this writing as well. .   

I am writing a good bit of the main draft of this thirteenth chapter of my online memoir during Easter Week. That is the week that follows Easter Sunday, Holy Week is the Week that precedes the celebration of the Resurrection of Jesus on Easter Sunday.  Overall Holy Week was a good week with some things happening that could be good for Clara and I. But for each separately and both as a couple, we are weary as we are starting the Easter season that runs through at least to Pentecost. The sleepless hours in the middle of the night that plagued me terribly for years are with me now. I can hope that this will not be a long term pattern but it is a sign of my anxiety and stress. In turn this makes me more tired which makes it harder to do the things that I have to do and so that increases my anxiety and stress which makes it harder for me to sleep.  But that is only part of the story. Let’s take Easter Monday for example, I did manage to do some work around the house and to have a workout at the gym and also to spend some gym time visiting with Clara who also works out there. I felt some physical impairment that was hard to define and a flare up of my vertigo, my tinnitus was worse than usual and I had aches and pains. But I managed to set up an application for an appointment the next morning. Clara and I had some good visits because the office where she has been working in various capacities was closed on Easter Monday. She works at a Catholic Church Office and Holy Week is a very busy time for the church.  We had leftovers of the turkey I had roasted for ourselves and others to share on Easter Sunday. We were able to share wonderful hamburgers for supper that were made from the prim beef patties we had bought on Holy Saturday at Sams Club in Lafayette..

Tuesday I woke up and made some coffee, Clara and I visited and then she went to work. I had sold some insurance by the time my 10:30 morning sales/training meeting rolled around. I managed to do some laundry as well as having a good meeting. Then at noon we ate our leftover stew that I had cooked and served days ago and then reheated and plated for our lunch.   I have also had a chance to see that many of our plants are thriving, the leftovers from the food I cooked last week are being enjoyed and getting eaten. I took a good nap and had a successful sales/ training  meeting with Physicians Mutual. I also managed to chat with Clara about our upcoming schedule and I managed to  get a short nap. 

Wednesday I was too anemic to donate plasma but I did some house and yardwork and insurance work as well. Then on Thursday I did more around the house planned Clara’s sixtieth birthday party and did a little yard work and.some insurance training. In all this I also sought to be a Christian and an American and to fulfill other roles. Further I worked on Clara’s 60th birthday party. I live a pretty normal kind of life in my hometown.

My mother’s first book, Go You Are Sent: An Incredible Odyssey of Faith (which was published in 1995) ends with the same October  culmination of our stay in Brown’s Cove, Virginia  that begins her second book. The second book is called, Our Family’s Book of Acts: To Love and Serve the Lord (published in 2012). However, before the first chapter of the second book of out family story she has a page of acknowledgements;

Acknowledgements

This book has been written in little chunks of time over the span of a decade or more. Mainly I want to thank Frank, my knight in shining armor, for standing firm and not allowing me to drop this project. His insistence on accuracy and attention to grammar was essential. I want to thank my fabulous family for living our book of Acts. So many FMC missionaries have contributed what they thought was a small thing but really made a big difference. I am truly grateful for all of the people and places in the book. They have made our story possible.I thank my Dad who encouraged me and prayed over my manuscript from his sickbed. I thank Beau for his earlier insights and editing of the entire book. Mary painstakingly edited several chapters from the second draft. I thank David and VIcki Fruge who lent me their camp, that is a perfect writer’s haven. I thank Elizabeth Hollier for proofreading and editing. I thank John Paul for his work and cover design. Till T. Summers has done the final corrections. Sarah’s book Eat Raw Omelets, inspired me to finish mine, and that really was the catalyst. Thank you, Sarah. Without the technical computer assistance from James Franke, this work would not have made it to press. 

Thank You Jesus,  thank You Holy Spirit, and thank you, God My Father for all the miracles and especially the miracle of finishing this work.

“But they went forth and preached everywhere while the Lord worked with them and confirmed the word through accompanying signs.” Mark 16:20 NAB    

The list of people, accomplishments and  acknowledgements at the start of Mom’s second book are in contrast to the isolated family in Brown’s Cove, borrowing a telephone to call my mother’s father on his birthday. The first book ends in an oddly failed sort of place to end a memoir, testimony book or autobiography. Yes, the main characters in the first  book have had a transformative arc of experience. Yes, they have gone to interesting places and met interesting people and learned some things.  Yes, they  have had journey as missionaries – but they are headed back home and the book doesn’t really speak to whatever could have been qualified as their years of limited missionary success. If I live to finish this memoir, I will tell of my years distributing Mom’s first book in many places around the country and around the world. I never was able to really express the disappointment in how the book ended. In my own generally ugly view of how life and the world work, it seemed sadly fitting that I felt I could not distribute the second book due to malicious characterizations of my work distributing the first work. There are many reasons why the second book was not nearly as widely read as the first. But I do think that the years I spent developing a distribution network were one reason that the first  book was more widely read. Both books have some passages and some perspectives I  don;t agree with or support. There are facts that I dispute in each book. Some things in the second book disappointed me a great deal because they were errors added after the editing of her first draft into the one I handed in to her as she mentions in the acknowledgements. But overall her book is more fair in telling how our family did some good in the missionary lifestyle for which we had sacrificed so much.   

 I knew that I was dreaming. I knew it was not the same kind of dream as other dreams.This is where we cross a certain threshold, Here in this thirteenth chapter of my memoir we (“we” being me and my theoretical reader)  reach a place where there is no longer any safe crawling back to a safe reality. From now on I am simply not going back to the realm of keeping dreams and waking thoughts separate. Now is the point where I admit that I have had a long history of connections with something that I cannot prove exists. Yes, I believe in God and I pray. Yes I work had every day to learn all I can from science, from the great learned traditions and from nature and art in an experiential way.  But beyond all of that, there is something else. There is something that matters and  yet is of little significance because my life’s efforts have been of little significance. I have had a lifelong interaction with extraterrestrial intelligence. That is what this chapter is largely about.

 Here comes the part of the narrative where I come to the first of a number of points at which I claim to be separated out from the mass of men. Remember that during my early childhood I paid great attention to the space program. That continued to the degree that it was possible for me to follow the news about NASA and the agencies they cooperated with and competed against across the world.I was also aware of the fact that the symbol of Judaism was a star, the symbol of Islam was a crescent Moon, the Angels in the stained glass and paint of the great Cathedrals of europe and elsewhere often had wings. I was aware of all the mountaintops in the Judeo- Christian tradition and also of Mount Olympus, the worship of the sun in many societies and the Moon and stars in others. I was further aware that Jesus, Mary, Elijah and Enoch were believed to have been taken up into heaven. Jacob whose other name was Israel had seen a ladder with Angels going up and down from Heaven to Earth and back. .  

“When it comes to science, ours is a paradoxical era. On the one hand, prominent physicists proclaim that they are solving the riddle of reality and hence finally displacing religious myths of creation. That is the chest-thumping message of books such as The Grand Design by physicists Stephen Hawking and Leonard Mlodinow and A Universe from Nothing by Lawrence Krauss. A corollary of this triumphal view is that science will inevitably solve all other mysteries as well.

On the other hand, science’s limits have never been more glaringly apparent. In their desperation for a “theory of everything”—which unifies quantum mechanics and relativity and explains the origin and structure of our cosmos—physicists have embraced pseudo-scientific speculation such as multi-universe theories and the anthropic principle (which says that the universe must be as we observe it to be because otherwise we wouldn’t be here to observe it). Fields such as neuroscience, evolutionary psychology and behavioral genetics and complexity have fallen far short of their hype.”

https://www.scientificamerican.com/blog/cross-check/is-scientific-materialism-almost-certainly-false

The idea of what is real is only one of many imitations on what is permitted to discuss and what is allowed to be taken seriously. Is it possible that the universe is magical, miraculous and divine in a very literal sense and that some people experience its most magical aspects more directly than others?  Here are some other thoughts about all of that.

Naturalism remains a popular philosophy in the academic world. Its articulation varies, so let’s be clear what we mean. Theoretical physicist and philosopher Sean Carroll’s definition will suffice: “Naturalism is a philosophy according to which there is only one world—the natural world, which exhibits unbroken patterns (the laws of nature), and which we can learn about through hypothesis testing and observation. In particular, there is no supernatural world—no gods, no spirits, no transcendent meanings.” Advocates of naturalism tend to regard it as the inevitable accompaniment of a scientific mindset. It seems appropriate, therefore, to undermine it using the most fundamental of sciences: quantum physics.

Given its scientific pretensions, it’s appropriate that the doctrine that the natural world is self-contained, self-explanatory, and exceptionless is at least falsifiable. All we need is one counterexample to the idea that nature is a closed system of causes and effects, or one clear example of nature’s non-self-sufficiency, to be justified in rejecting naturalism, yet contrary evidence and considerations abound. Rather than trying to cover the gamut of cosmological fine-tuning, the origin of biological information, the origin and nature of consciousness, and the evidentiary value of near-death experiences,  let’s focus on the implications of quantum physics as a less familiar aspect of naturalism’s failure.

Quantum physics sets aside classical conceptions of motion and the interaction of bodies and introduces acts of measurement and probabilities for observational outcomes in an irreducible way not ameliorated by appealing to our limited knowledge. The state of a quantum system is described by an abstract mathematical object called a wave function that only specifies the probability that various observables will have a particular value when measured. These probabilities can’t all equal zero or one and measurement results are irreducibly probabilistic, so no sufficient physical reason exists for one outcome being observed rather than another. This absence of sufficient material causality in quantum physics has experimentally confirmed consequences that, as we shall see, put an end to naturalist conceits.

The delayed-choice quantum eraser experiment provides a good example with which to start. This experiment measures which path a particle took after wave function interference inconsistent with particle behavior has already been created. The interference can be turned off or on by choosing whether or not to measure which way the particle went after the interference already exists. Choosing to look erases wave function interference and gives the system a particle history. The fact that we can make a causally disconnected choice whether wave or particle phenomena manifest in a quantum system demonstrates that no measurement-independent causally-connected substantial material reality exists at the microphysical level.

In the course of this book I will declare a number of things that will be very hard for any potential reader to believe. But this is the first time I mention a recurring series of dreams that developed continually over my life. In the dream I went to a sort of conduit usually with a number of companions, who varied and none of whom were people from my life. On the way to the conduit I would see my home and the Earth and our sun shrinking away as I left them behind. Inside the conduit was an environment hard to define. On the other side was a vast glowing planet with a density unlike anything but with a form like that of an Earthlike planet. In future dreams I would come to see that the plant had a diameter of 1,000 lightyears but it did not compress because all matter in it was more charged than the matter of our universe can be.In One hemisphere nad a continent that was terraced mountains of many kind in rough rings and the lower levels and perfect rings at the higher levels rising for light years above sea level. There was a vast shelf around the edge of the continent and Seven great falls thundering into the sea. The sea was heavy with islands beyond thins thundering  roiling region and some had. Tower with bridges to the continent. The top of the mountain had a might growing cloud and sphere city resting on a tower and there was the throne of God. Immortal  Angels, Flying Beast and the spirits of mortal blessed beings in an after life were there. The rest of the Continent also resembled various visions of paradise and heaven people have had. The islands and seas were full of ELvish, Magical, dwarfish and mystical races and a few humans who had gone there alive and reproduced. The open seas were dominated by Leviathans a thousand miles long,.At the equator those things that died in the temporal realms of the seas were spawned or incarnated as themselves in most cases. On the other side of the globe was a hemisphere in dimness and twilight with leave that gave light more than the received it, Here there were beings call Neutral and Angel and Uninformed Angels and the souls of beings neither damned nor redeemed. But further in the continent were the tiers of the pit once occupied by a different civilization but now mostly the abode of damned angels and damned mortal in various torments and societies. At the bottom near the center of the planet was the City of Pandemonium and the throne of the one we call the Devil but also his prison.   Past him he watches a stream of souls pass who were his property by their deep sins in life but by God’s mercy pass to the winding ladders of purgatory and energy near the center if the blessed continent.  The world has three inhabited moons, one above the bottom pole fixed and unmoving and two  which are each spinning on their axis and orbiting the equator. Each of these is inhabited and bigger than any star in our universe. I f I typed for the rest of my life I would capture only part of what I perceived or imagined of this world in my dreams.

But for now I merely reveal that I had the dreams. The rest we will look at in time.

Chapter Twelve of Online Memoir: Upper Doyle’s to James Rivers and Lower Browns Cove Holler

March 31, 2024 was Easter Sunday. When I worked on this draft for a while on that morning I thought back on the gloriously beautiful Easter Vigil Mass at St. Mary Magdalen that Clara and I attended, along with a mostly full church building. I also remembered the four people received into the Church through the Sacraments of initiation. Often there are Baptisms at Easter VIgil Mass. But because the people entering the Catholic Church in our parish were already all Baptized CHristians there was only a Blessing of the Baptismal waters during that part of the Mass. Then all of them received the second Sacrament of Initiation, Confirmation.  Father Louis laid hands on them and prayed for them to receive the fullness of the Holy Spirit. Then he anointed their heads with oil in the sign of the cross and all were able to applaud.The only Sacrament of Initiation that Catholics repeat is the the third Sacrament of the Eucharist. The newly confirmed Catholic Christians were able to receive Holy Communion “under both species” as we say it, from the cup and the bread. They did this before the rest of the congregation received communion. “This was a beautiful service. I am glad we came early.”  Clara said after the service. 

“I am glad we went too.” I replied, “it means a lot to me.”

“The Triduum takes a lot out of anyone.” Clara began as we drove off in her (or our) blue  Subaru Outback. “But I think it is worth it..”

My Dad is gone for over a year now and my mother will be going to mass on  Easter Sunday morning. That had been their custom in recent years almost without exception. But I remembered the magnificent vigil masses at the Santuario de Nuestra Senora de Guadalupe in Saltillo, Coahuila , Mexico that  Mom and Dad and Sarah and Susanna and I attended. The magnificent blessing of the fire, the spreading of candles lit from the central paschal candle and the reading of all the readings (in Spanish of course)  without using any of the permitted shorter forms – those were all beautiful parts of those liturgies in Mexico. But while those things were less in our parish last night the music was truly beautiful, ending with the Hallelujah Chorus in the choir loft was absolutely splendid.  Clara and I  got a drive through treat from McDonald’s  and then headed back home for me to finish prepping and start roasting the turkey that II had offered to bring to a family Easter gathering. Although there was beauty in the worship service, the season and the Gospel story – there was also a sense of the way my life has shaped up. In the congregation there were many people associated with the Family Missions Company founded by my parents. Some were seated very near to Clara and I in the church. Later on in the family SIgnal chat, my brother Joseph would show pictures of his little family in Indian clothing celebrating Easter in their home in Goa. My sister Sarah showed her family playing in left over snow in Colorado. She is with her husband Kevin and her children with him, her second husband,  Isaac, Isabel, Jonah and Esme were all rejoicing in the snow.

Because I was working on this memoir, my mind turned to a different church experience. Our time attending St. Thomas Aquinas Catholic Church on the University of Virginia Campus in Charlottesville, Virginia. Halloween 1976, October 31 was the day the time changed back an hour. Mom and Dad and Sarah and I were back in my uncle Jim and aunt Kathy’s house in Brown’s Cove alone after having left for a while to visit Ann Arbor’s Word of God Covenant Community for the first time. But for whatever reason, they were not in their house on the river. The previous night we had dinner at the house of John Finley. John was a Protestant Christian who had given his life to Jesus in a strong personal way and committed himself to serving in his Protestant Christian Church after being led to a conversion experience, through the ministry of the Catholic family (ours) that he picked up as hitchhikers.  We were also distracted by some news that came to us when Mom called her Dad (my Pops) to wish him a happy birthday while we were at John FInley’s house because Jim and Kathy’s remote home did not have a phone 

and there were few cellular phones in those days and although we did not have one, a cell phone would not have worked deep in that “holler” (the word for a hollow in the mountains where a neighborhood of small farms and such has developed).John FInley was one of several exceptional people. Not only did he return to the faith he had growing up in an Evangelical Christian home and make an adult decision to follow Jesus  –  which was huge for us as a family. His parents were administrators for the World Health Organization in Brazil and John had lived in Africa at some point. He was good company and good fellowship for us.

The news was about the starting of what would become Open Door Community in Abbeville. So we had a good bit on our mind. For whatever reason Jim and Kathy were out of the house that night when we got back and we knew we could not borrow the car  or get a ride with them to get to Sunday  mass. We were supposed to set our clocks back that tonight but we put them forward instead. We had to set our alarms early enough to make sure that we could get to church by the unreliable method of hitchhiking. It was slow and dangerous work. Most people did not stop for us. However, we did not set our clocks back, we set them forward. In addition we got a fairly quick ride into town. So we  had most of our half our margin for error when we arrived at church. In addition because we set our clocks forward we were there an hour before the time our Mass would have started the previous weekend. However, we were not living in the previous weekend. We were in the weekend of the time change. The mass was starting an hour later. Therefore we were at the church two and a half hours early. It was very difficult to be there as a little family of four outside the locked church. It was very much a time when I felt afraid for my future.

The low that day in Charlottesville was 42 degrees. SO it was not freezing but it was chilly and would only rise to 54 degrees. The Church where we waited had a striking modern art statue of Saint Thomas Aquinas commissioned in 1967. The Dominican Friars, also known as the Order of Preachers, celebrated their great scholar and theologian in their ministry to the students at the University of Virginia. That statue was what my uncle called the Squatting Robot. We sat under his odd but somehow protective eye in our bizarre penitential isolation. 

While Jim called the statue “Squatting Robot” and the church Squatting Robot Church, it is apparent that some people  at least called it Bumper Buddha. Wat follows is an excerpt from a 2017 article about the statue being moved.   😊

“Drive past St. Thomas Aquinas Church on Alderman Road and you’ll notice something different—a Charlottesville icon has disappeared. The UVA student-dubbed “Bumper Buddha,” a statue of the church’s namesake welded out of chrome car bumpers, was moved to IX Art Park on May 2.

The Reverend William Stickle commissioned the statue from Indiana sculptor Hank Mascotte in 1967.

… 

When asked if IX is going to become home to other homeless statues —an island of misfit toys—Wimer said, “I think it’s a strong possibility as people are shifting monuments around this town. We are happy recipients of all sorts of pieces of art. Please, let the donations begin.”

Like the General Robert E. Lee statue? Wimer laughs. “That would entail some very long discussions.”

 https://www.c-ville.com/bumper-buddhas-big-move . .  . .  

 When Clara and I visited Jim and Kathy the summer before we got married (while we were  on a road trip) we saw the site of the no longer existing Robert E. Lee staue mentioned in the article. That statue had been the site of the Unite The RIght Rally with Louisiana’s David Duke and others arrayed against Antifa and protestors against Confederate Statuary. There was violence and at least one person was killed directly due to the conflict. The Robert E. Lee statue has been melted down to be made into statuary representing African American achievement or CivilRIghts or freedom – I am not sure what the final work was. But in those days Charlottesvill was not famous for that violent rally. Many things have changed since 1976 and some stay the same. One change is that I and almost everyone I deal with have cell or mobile phones of some kind. Jim and I communicate on those phones fairly often, though not as much as a few years ago. 

“Hey Jim, this is Beau. Call me when you can.” That could be any of a number of messages I have left on my Uncle Clay James Summers email in the last few years. “Hey Beau,  I saw you had called and I am trying to chat. I wonder if this is about the thing with your Uncle Pres? Call me when you can and if you don’t I will call you back.” That could be any of a number of call back and resembles even more. ” Hey Jim, this is Beau. I guess we will keep playing phone tag for a while.” I call Clay James Summers my Dad’s brother younger than Pres, and Susan and older than Will and Missy “Jim” not Uncle Jim. I called all my aunts and uncles by their first name when I was very young. I sometimes introduced them as Aunt Missy or Uncle Pres but called them Missy and Pres. Both of my parent were the oldest of their families and the youngest of their siblings were not much older than I. I had no first cousins who could speak until I had been speaking for a long time. In addition I grew up in era of rapidly diminishing formality. For all these reasons I grew up calling all my aunts and uncles by their first names. I had few real playmates in my life as a small child and my youngest aunts and uncles were as close to being my regular playmates as anyone else. It seemed unfair for me to be the only person in my world to call their older brothers and sisters Aunt and Uncle. I am a person inclined to use correct or approximate titles and not no title at all. But as fate would have it I denied these people I cared about a basic title and as I look back no other path ever seemed possible.

In my own daily life, virtually everyone calls me either  Beau, Frank, Mr. Frank or Mr. Summers. One person calls me parrain, (godfather in French)  and a few people call me other things.I have lived places where anyone with a bachelor’s degree is addressed as “Licensiado” by strangers. I have also lived or stayed in places where anyone doing what I did were called “preacher” but that did not happen for me.   The list of times and places where I was not distinguished by a title commonly used is a long list. But perhaps all of these slights are simple justice for my own slighting of Uncle Pres, Aunt Susan, Uncle Jim, Uncle WIll and Aunt Missy on my mother’s side and on my mother’s side Uncle Bruce, Uncle Brian, Uncle Jed and Aunt Rachel. I am including a list of some of my honors in life for a theoretical reader to keep in mind as they read about my time in Brown’s Cove. For the preteen there was the same person who received  those honors in the list starting in 1983.

My Own Honors that are not secret and can be substantiated. 

 2024 Panel Coordinator and Presenter Gulf South History and Humanities Conference, Natchez Mississippi. Topic Roundtable Discussion: Culturally Responsive and Activist Pedagogy Meets Academic History: South Louisiana Cases and Reflections. Panelist with Nicole Guhon-Crowell   

April 20, 2023 received medallion at UL Honors Convocation for Spring 2023.

2022 to 2023 Geaux Teach Scholar

2023 Admitted to Kappa Delta Pi Educational Honors Society

2019  Presenter Panel Louisiana Historical Association Annual Meeting Lafayette Louisiana Corinne Broussard Project on Evangeline Girls with Warren Perrin and Bary Ancelet. 

2017  Presenter Gulf South History and Humanities Conference, Pensacola. Blood Feud: Acadian Ethnicity and the Killing of Huey P. Long. Why Mic Mac genes and arrogance killed the Kingfish

2016 Gulf South History and Humanities Conference, Mobile. Emerging Views: The Reemergence of American Identity in Postwar Acadiana and the SONJ Documentary Projects . 

2012 Grand Prize Winner Lord Norton’s Quiz—House of Lords 

2004 Honored Presenter College Lecture; “The Idea of the University”. SDIBT, College of Foreign Studies. Yantai ,China

1993 first academic publication: Academic Publications:  Historical Journal of Film, Radio and Television; 1993,  Review – FDR’s Moviemaker: Memoirs and Scripts. 

1992 LSU Research Grant – Ekstrom Photographic Archives, University of 

Louisville – Louisville, Kentucky. 

1992 Admitted to Mensa. 

1991-1993 Board of Regents Fellow 

1990 Honorary Lieutenant Governor of Louisiana.

1989 Outstanding Graduate, Alumni Association Honoree, Spring Commencement, USL. 

1989 Outstanding Graduate of the College of Arts, Humanities, USL. 

1989 Outstanding Graduate of the Department of English, USL. 

1987 Admitted to Phi Kappa Phi Honors Society. 

1985 Sophomore Class Award, Franciscan University of Steubenville

1983 first admitted to the Honors Program at USL (now the University of Louisiana at Lafayette).

In addition, because I am not famous or very successful it is not always obvious that in recounting the adversities of my youth in terms of formal education and employment, I was going to at least study and work to some substantial degree later in life. Here are some of the evidences of my success in study later on in life. It was not the case that the kid in Brown’s Cove dropped off the face of the academic world forever. . 

Degrees

Master of Arts, Louisiana State University, August 4, 1993. Cumulative G.P .A. 3.846 

Bachelor of Arts,  University of Southwestern Louisiana, ( now University of Louisiana at Lafayette), May 14, 1989. Cum Laude G.P A.:  3.686 (adjusted down to a 3.54 after decades due to new rules)

Teaching certification:  UL Post-baccalaureate  Alternative Certification. I completed courses in Teaching in a Diverse Society, Diverse Families, Secondary Social Studies Methods, Technology in Education and Teaching Literacy in the Content Areas, Foundations of Inclusion in Education and  a course on Classroom assessment. I only lacked the course in Classroom  management and the internship credits to compele the alternative certification. At this point I don’t see ever completing it. But I was a certified teacher under a practitioner’s license and I still am so licensed at the moment of preparing this chapter.  . 

Licenses and Certificates

Insurance Producer at the time of writing the main draft of this chapter I am appointed as a Career Agent with Physicians Mutual, Physicians Life and Physicians Mutual Select.  

Restricted Radiotelephone Operator; Federal Communications Commission, January 31, 1986

Lay Evangelist, Diocese of Lafayette, Commissioned August 10, 1980.

Scriptural Exegete, 1982, Scripture Ventures Program, East Asian Pastoral Institute.

Catechist, Diocese of Lafayette, Certified February 23, 1991.

Catechist, Diocese of Baton Rouge, Certified March 29, 1993.

 In 1976 we were leaving Augusta and  coming into the school year and I had no prospects of going to school. We were leaving Alleluia Community as the kids were going back to their varied schools. WE were getting on a bus and headed to visit Jim and Kathy. They were, among other things, far enough out in the country that I would not be in the view of any truant officers and my parents could avoid responsibility for not doing anything to secure any accredited or formal education for me in the next starting year. SInce Tonga Side School I had a bit of study on Clavert’s Correspondence Course without the actual correspondence and some study in an accredited school. ALthough our ratio of teachers with some education training to students may have been among the highest in the world at the Lord’s School it had not been a fully accredited institution.  l realized  (although I never really verified whether the realization was fact or rumor) that some families involved in the experimental school were hedging their bets in trusting  the experimental school.  I heard from seemingly reliable sources towards the end of my time there that the millionaires in the group of parents had an hour each day for their kids with an additional tutor to make sure their children’s education met state standards. It was still a good school I had no doubt but I was aware that there was a juncture in the coming fall, I was moving into a new period of being out of school. I felt that the world was a dangerous place for me whether I tried to go to school or whetherI stayed out of it. I simultaneously believed my parents were dangerously skidding off the social rails and that they were doing a beautiful and inspired thing for the glory of God. I was not sure that they would do it well or that I would live to be an adult. I did feel a desire to support and protect Sarah in her start in life. My parents seemed different from one another. Each had their saintliness and their darkside in my eyes.  It seemed to me that I could have honestly said they were bravely united in a holy adventure in a world that was in many ways a real mess and also that they were both struggling against each other’s best interest in destructive ways that I had to watch when I was with them so much. I could honestly say there was a beauty and richness in the life of travel, opportunism, ministry and family togetherness and that there was something dangerous and destructive about Dad not working for a living and me being out of school. 

My uncle Jim picked us up at the bus station. We were four people  and some luggage. My Dad had started receiving a small share of his family’s oil and gas money in monthly checks. He had the four of us to support and there was no way the small check could do that in the United States. Jim got the same size check. But he and Kathy both worked and although Jim’s career was not making him rich nor satisfying him entirely he and Dad were both graduates of Tulane Law School. Jim was doing legal research mostly and he and Kathy had the feeling of a little comfort in their lives. All of this was evident  in snippets of conversation. But we were happy to house sit for them. No rent for us and security without a deposit or paying anyone for them. But before house sitting, we would visit for a week. I really liked Jim and Kathy. Jim had broken my arm in horseplay when I was young and for that and many other reasons I was reluctant to fully trust him. However I did like them and admired their own irreligious efforts to find a new path forward in the world. They were the hippest people in our family. .They had at one time cared about environmentalism when I was serving at the altar boy in the Earth Day Bayou Blessing and was a budding ecologist. My mother had supported the first African American woman for Mayor of Abbeville and they seemed sympathetic. They had spent their own money and time  on travel and they seemed interested when I told them of places we had been over the years at family gatherings in my grandparents NewOrleans mansion. In our new statues as people not really dialed in to a path in the mainstream or anything else they seemed less  likely to be judgemental than some of our other relatives would have been. The home Jim and Kathy had was a small one and a half to two storey house on a decent sized piece of land the front of which was on a small  blacktop road and the rear of which was bounded by the Doyle River It was a small river that later in its course would flow through the Shenandoah National Park. The river has clear waters, smooth stone and pools and burbling falls a  few inches .when the water was lower. It was largely shaded with trees and shrubs from its banks. Dad and Jim had parents whose house in Abbeville had a bank of the bayou at its rear. My mother’s family had the same Vermilion RIver or Bayou flowing on a long side of their home properties just outside Abbeville. A house on a river seemed like a good place for all of us.  

Jim and Kathy had planted a garden full of vegetables that would mature during their absence. They had planted the garden not knowing that they would be leaving.I would tend the garden as best I could while we house sat and Dad and Mom did as well, but mostly we harvested the veggies.They were vital or we would not have had enough to eat. When there was bad weather we were truly isolated. Dad hitched into town to shop and I walked to the store a mile away for ingredients for cornbread mom taught me to make very well. Before Jim left, he showed me   and Dad some local plants like “lamb chops’ an edible green, Queen Anne’s lace a wild carrot species, hackberries and sassafras for tea. We also looked through the Foxfire books he had and he said I could refer to them. During our housesitting we are all these things and sometimes in moderate amounts. I also tried to make acorn flour which was inedible and I made snare for rabbits that caught none and weirs for catching fish that caught none. I longed for a fishing pole but we never got one. I touched a fish twice in the water but never caught one by hand as I tried to do. This was as close to living off the land as we had gotten so far and we were not doing very well. But we had enough transportation and money to get enough groceries to survive.

Alone in the upstairs room for hours, I would read the Old Testament stories in Kings and Chronicles and Judges over and over. I read every part of the story of King David. I also read through the Gospels for the second time. I also looked up every cross reference in my Bible for the stories about David, read all the psalms and read everything relevant to those stories in the Jerome Biblical Commentary and  Mckenzies DIctionary of the Bible

I began writing a journal for the first time and a sort of dream journal separately. On the one big trip we made we stayed with a family that had children with cystic fibrosis. We became friends, their parents were members of the Word of God Community. At some point Jim and Kathy and another brother, my uncle WIll and his girlfriend were with us in the small house. I also tried to jog for the first time. It was not a good time.  We made many memories. Mom retells the story of Dad praying a prayer of exorcism and seeing swarms of flies we had never seen around in any numbers coming out in response and then dying. She says we remembered the fact that Satan was called Beelzebub “Lord of the Flies”. I can attest that the facts of that story are substantially true. WHe also tells the story of a crazed man in a train station and how a mysterious black man appeared out of nowhere and rescued us and the young family of a soldier. The mysterious man drove us to a motel in his Cadillac and disappeared.  That was also a true story.

 I am not as involved in the world of mystical and miraculous observation as I was when I was 12. But I can never say that I never found anything there. Even America itself seemed tied to the hand of God in those days.     . 

We were not deeply engrossed in politics as we came into the Virginia countryside. But we did talk about politics as we had just left Georgia and were deeply committed and fervent Christians. Jimmy Carter, who had just been Governor of Georgia not long ago, was a vocal follower of Jesus Christ.  The huge smile of the man from Plains Georgia was caricatured and his lack of national connections appeared in the oft repeated question “Jimmy Who?”But since then he had won the nomination of the Democratic Party. Mom, Dad and I all remembered a couple of years earlier Ruth Carter Stapleton, Jimmy Carter’s sister, had spoken to the huge Catholic Charismatic Conference in Louisiana. “My brother feels like God is calling him to be President of the United States. Please pray for him and also remember that whatever God calls you to do he will give you the strength to do it.” That was a memorable sort of thing to hear. We did remember it and  I wondered if he was really going to be President.”So God calls President too.” I said to Jim, trying to explain how our family was functioning in this new spiritual path. WE had been at this converted state for a while but there was a lot we had not fully shared with Jim and Kathy. Over the years to come our family would visit them again, in college I would visit them a number of times and my other siblings would take their families to visit them. In all those years, they would live near or in Charlottesville, VIrginia. But they would have a number of living arrangements. The summer before our November 19, 2022 wedding, Clara and I spent one night with them in their home now in the building Jim had used as his  law office building for decades. This was a nice visit and we saw Jim in Louisiana at my Dad’s funeral in September of the same year and    in our home with some of his friends when he was visiting Louisiana last summer.  and then  

The memories of that visit blur together but it was a full and packed visit to be sure. It was a time Jim and Kathy brought us to see Monticello for the first time and to tour around Charlottesville. There was no massive internet based mapping infrastructure but the adults all determined  that there was no Catholic Church substantially closer to Browns Cove than St. Thomas Aquinas University Parish.  “Sure, I will drive you around  to see the Squatting Robot. That’s what I and my buddies called the Catholic Church on campus. It has this statue commissioned in the sixties that looks like it is made out of bumpers. Very much resembles a squatting robot.” We all laughed a bit nervously but when we saw the statue we thought the description seemed pretty reasonable. Jim and I had a conversation about St. Thomas Aquinas, Thomas Jefferson and about visions for human life found in the Declaration of Independence and the Summa Theologica. I talked to Jim about his time at UVa as well and wondered how I would get to college after the crazy circuitous route my education was taking.

But that visit with them for a week before they left on the trip for which we were housesitting was also a time for them to really see us as we had become. In my mother’s book Go You are Sent, in the chapter “Alleluia to Albemarle” on pages 207 to 208  she describes what we looked like from her point of view as it has survived a few edits over the years between her recording her memories and it being printed in 1995. This is how she remembers that we looked as we hitchhiked. After acknowledging that most people were not interested in stopping to give us a ride when we had to hitchhike from Browns Cove to Charlottesville”

“The Lord chose generous people. They had to have courage to make room in their car for a unique family, wearing crosses. Frank Dressed in Sears work clothes and sported a full beard. I carried four month old Sarah in a kangaroo-carry front pack., and, at that time, was still wearing the long dresses I had adopted in Tonga. Beau, a tow headed twelve- year-old dressed in old Levis was the only typical American in the group.”   

In no way is my account of these events authorized by my mother or Jim. But I will say that Jim has stated that one of the breakthroughs in his work as a lawyer in Charlottesville came from one of the lawyers who picked us up hitching rides to church and then took us to eat and relax at his home that had television, a game room and  other amenities. Somehow we became friends. WHen Jim and Kathy got back they also became friends and that connection led to greater opportunities in the legal community. In those days Mom, Dad and I all believed that we were called by God to our travels and therefore could believe he would bless those who housed us. I rarely think in those terms now, but Jim’s words about those who helped us as  hitchhikers came across in conversation sincerely on more than one occasion. That story made me feel that perhaps there was something to that blessing on those who housed the one’s traveling in God’s name.   .  .     .  .        

We would finally leave Browns Cove for good to go back to Abbeville and explore life in our town living among the more working class and poorer neighborhoods where we lived. I would go back to school at Mount Carmel Elementary School. I would end up back in my old class with the woman I am married to today. But although my grades would be OK we would travel in and out in the future and sometimes I would get picked up for truancy and other times we would leave in the middle of a grading period. How life went back home is another part of my story.